“I LOVE that, but I could never pull that off.”
“That is SOO cute, but I would have nowhere to wear it.”
I don’t know about you, but these are old tapes that play in many minds. I know this because I have shopped with many of you and I have heard us all say it at one point or another. I was also watching the show What Not to Wear and heard a girl saying it to herself while she learned to shop for herself.
Why not change our perspective? Why not say,”
I may not have any where to wear this today, but I can plan a time to wear it soon.” Why not say,
“I LOVE this and I CAN pull it off with the right tweak here or there.”
For years I have heard these popular tapes playing while I shopped with or without my friends. I let them play so loud that I stopped shopping for myself altogether. It was easier to shop for the kids. I had put myself in this little box of what I thought I was capable of pulling off. There is something that happens when one gets in a box and does not see the light…they get stuck. They stop believing for better. It has taken a while to change my tune, but I have. I feel that my heart has finally embraced that fact that I was made for more than I ever dreamed of both physically and spiritually. I have finally accepted that the little box I have been in no longer fits my truth.
I was out shopping with my best gal pal the other day and we were trying on things that were outside our comfort zone. (ie sassy heals vs. flip flops) As stay-at-home mom’s it is so easy to say,
“That is so cute, but where would I ever wear that?” Today, my perspective has changed. Today, I say,
“That is so cute; I wonder where my husband needs to take me so I can wear that.”
Fast forward a week…
It’s Labor day weekend and my little man had a minimum day at school. After school we headed over to White Lime Frozen Yogurt for a sweet date between mom and son. The weather is beautiful. The breeze was blowing slightly and it was a somewhere in the low 90’s. We opted to sit outside to eat our frozen delight and chat about the day. We talked a bit and a comfortable silence rested on us. My eyes wandered a bit and there is was… THE purse on display in the boutique next door! I think at one point the heavens opened up and angels sang.
The purse was stunning. Beautiful. Perfect. Wait… could I pull that off? Was it a bit much? Too trendy? Too taupe? Would I look dumb carrying that? I’m not sure I could pull it off. Old tape….go away! I CAN pull that sassy purse off! I need to dream big, right? Yikes… here I go… I bought the beautiful sassy purse. I will pull it off because I LOVE it!
I wonder what this purse says about me? Hmmm…