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As title, what is “better future”? Do someone ever tell you to do this and that so that you will have a “better future”? Do you think that if you do this and that you will have a “better future”? So, what is a “better future”? Is it just like the picture above, when you go to the near exit, you will reach The Future?

People like someone to decide, at least agree with them about their “future”. Why? Because we are social animal and we need someone approval, this is human nature because human just can’t live by themselves. Do you ever let someone to decide, or you want someone to help you decide about your future? Seriously and no kidding, I do.

I don’t know what is a better future and I don’t know what I really want, this is  a question produce ambiguous answer and human just naturally dislike ambiguity. Sometimes, we will get too anxious about ambiguity and we make a not so wise decision for ourselves. That’s why we need someone to tell us whether we are doing the right thing.

I read a sentence before and I really think it is insightful. “If I got to live 300 years, I will use 100 years to live according to my family; 100 years to live according to my friends and 100 years to live according to my spouse. But I don’t. So I’ll use 70 years to live for myself.” What is living for yourself? Another ambiguous question. For me, it is do the thing I want even it against everybody. Be happy all the time.

I might not even achieve my life goal yet because I’m still in a confuse stage. If you ever know what you want, go for it, even it oppose everybody, because life is short, live long, live happily. = )

Recently, me myself learned a new lesson. A lesson about attitude and positive thinking. For the very first time, I realized that attitude had a great impact on you and your life while positive thinking determine the path you are walking to. People with no powerful nor positive thinking will never go far on the road; why? Just because you don’t believe in yourself: your strength, your ability and so on. Therefore, I found out that believing in yourself is the most and only important thing in your life and will eventually bring a great effect on your life.

So, how does positive thinking and attitude relate to each other? Let’s say you got the positive thinking but not the attitude, you are a dreamer; if you got the attitude but not positive thinking, you are a realistic people; if you got both, you are idealist. Still, it’s your choice to choose what you want to do with you life. I like a quote from somebody: “life is just like spending a dollar, you can spend it whenever you want, but you can only spend it once.”

Attitude is the most important thing, but without positive thinking, it’s like without a dad/mom in your family. Of course you can still grown up like other kids do, but you will never learned how amazing it is with both of your parents. So, take a look at the great picture below:

Sometimes I always bothered by this question: Interest or living? Should you keep on doing what your interest is or should you go to another field that earns you living? Let’s imagine, you are on your own without any support, should you go for interest or living?

Some people might argued that interest and living goes together so you should choose something you like yet makes money at least to the stand point of the ability to feed yourself (make money for food). However, sometimes interest and living doesn’t go together. If you like Science or Business, congratulation, you should earn your money through interest and living. However, what if you are interested in art, dance, music or other thing else that do not bring much money? Or I should be specific, not able to feed yourself?

Next, performing art is an interesting field that doesn’t make money yet need talent and hardworking. So, don’t you think that you can “work hard” in this field because if talented people works just a little bit, you can never be at the same level with them. So, it’s not a very good field even though you interested in it.

What do you think about personality and career choice? It is true that you should find a career that fits your personality. However there are millions of different personality that cannot be simply categorize into twelve horoscopes.  The career available in the world is so limited that you can’t always find a job that fits your interest and personality.

Be realistic, think about your life, what you wanna do? Interest or living?

For me, living is more important than anything else, what’s yours?

Today I am very confuse with my life, it seems like I don’t always make the right decision. I do think that this statement apply to all of you, because people don’t really make the right decision, sometimes. As a college student, I am wondering about what can I do about my life. A friend of mine said that you should do something the world need, you like and things you good at.

I don’t know I am making the right choice or not, but still what I learned from today’s lesson is: You cannot try to do something that require talent and you don’t have it. For example, music or graphic design. Hardworking will never pass the fence that a genius would have passed. Just like you’re trying to run, and talented person can just run few steps ahead of you in the same time.

I realize I should be realistic about what I choose because something some people just can’t do it, because talent is the minimum requirement for it. At least now, I felt relief. I can move on with my life by not chasing unrealistic dream that had passed long time ago.

So, my advice today is, do you make a wrong choice? Wait, stop and think about it before you move on. Do remember people learned from mistakes. Making mistakes is not shameful, not correcting your own mistakes make you an arrogant person. So wait, stop and think before you move on.

Alert! Alert! Alert! Especially girls. From today’s lesson, I learned that some guys are really just into SEX. Some guys you can’t even be friend with.

So girls, be aware, don’t fall for this kind of guys:

1. Thinking that he himself is popular and every girl will definitely fall for him.

2. Thinking that kissing is fun and want to kiss because he is a guy, you are a girl not because he likes you or something.

3. Like to act “cool” so that girls will fall.

4. Like to act he cares nothing about you and you are nobody in his life.

5. Like to boost about material things he has such as “cool” cars and cool xbox 360.

6. Never pay for a girl, want the girl to buy for him instead.

If someone around you fulfill this 6 rules, he is a jerk, or jackass that you SHOULD NOT even put a piece of your heart into it. If you do like someone who is a jackass, congratulation, he will definitely broke your heart.

It’s fine for a guy to act “cool” or something, but first you should be aware of one thing. Do you have the potential to be “cool”? You should fulfill these rules below to act “cool”

1. You are handsome/cute/charming.

2. You know how to treat a girl and you know what a girl wants.

3. You smoke/play instrument/drink.

4. You have extremely high communication skills that girls will just want to fall for you.

5. You DO NOT act like a jerk (even though you are a jerk )

So in short, be a MAN guys, stop acting like a jackass or jerk. You will definitely fail in approaching a girl.

LEARN SOME PRACTICAL SKILL GUYS, THE WORLD IS MOVIN’, YOU SHOULD IMPROVE YOUR SKILL AS WELL.

Friendship, this is what we ever wanted during our teenage years. When we are very young, our parents will be the one around us all the time. However when we go to high school, we want to have lots of friends just to make ourselves look “cool” and popular. We check our phone all the time hoping that someone, even he/she just who is just a “nobody” in your life will pop-up and say hello to you; or give you a nice message for a drink or something.

When we get older, of course, we still need friends. However the friend we need is different. We need somebody who understands you, knows you and likes you. Although still, you may have a lot of acquittance friends around you, you will always reserve a small portion of your heart to someone that you think it is meaningful to you: or we known it as our “best friend” or “best buddy”.

Friendship comes and goes. It is not a thing that you need to try very hard to achieve. Probably it takes time to become best friend with someone, but it is not hard to become a friend of someone.  Before you establish friendship with someone, you will mostly get into some trouble: Trying very hard to be friend with someone who do not want to be friend with you, be friend with someone who always take advantages on you and so on.

In conclusion, why don’t you take a look at people around you, think about your best friend, your friends. Did they really your “best friend”? Did they understand you? Know you very well but still like the way you are? Be with you even though you have nothing? If yes, congratulation, you got a true friend. If not, why don’t you think about what’s wrong with your own personality in getting “garbage friends” that do not hesitate to take advantages from you?

Good luck, find a true friend and you will understand the power of friendship.

There is a Chinese phrase that I like the most (directly translated):”Learn to be in the middle.” (might not translate accurately) This is not a western thing and probably westerner will find this not accurate or even silly because this is not from their culture. However from my own perspective, I do agree that this is the wisdom of 5000 years Chinese society and it do works until today.

So, what is “learn to be in the middle”? (“Zhong yong”) It is a paradox and ambiguous thing ever on earth. From the perspective of a human being, you need to learn when to talk, what to talk and when not to talk. Another example would be showing off your talent not to the extreme but you cannot NOT showing off your talent at all. Let people guess what you have, not telling people directly what you got. Probably this is the thing Chinese hold until today that makes other people on the earth wondering and frustrating by them.

Another example about health, probably a more easy to understand example is eating not much but not less, eating the right portion that your body needed. So, “Zhong yong” basically if explain in a simple way would be the RIGHT amount, which is extremely hard to know. You have no measure cup to measure nor a guidebook to follow. “You will know as you live, you will gain experience.” I think that’s what parents use to tell us. They have no idea how to tell you by words, but they just know.

I don’t know yet. What I know is just the theory, I have no practical experience. However, this is what makes life interesting. You will never know what happen next. You will never know the very small step you took change the world. Just like butterfly effect. So in conclusion, never think yourself is not important because you can actually change the world. However on the other hand, never think yourself too important because earth will still continue to spin even without you.

So, what’s the point? “Zhong yong 中庸”

Philosopher like to find out the answer for this question, what is life? Yet, this is ambiguous and personal.  Everybody define it differently. Because everybody live differently, being treated differently, been through different things. Although you might been through the same thing with someone such as WWII, probably you are a general of Japan and she was just an ordinary citizen. You had the fate to kill and she had the fate to escape. Therefore, people are so different, even you and your own twin sister.

Recently, I saw a Japan TV series that make me think a lot more. This is a story about a doctor in 21 century accidentally travel back to 1800s. He tried to save people’s life with his medical knowledge and tried to invent modern tools to help him do so. However, he was afraid. He met a lot of historical people and he afraid that every steps he took would change the history. So, he choose to do nothing at first, then he figured out that this was not what he wanted. So, he wanted to create his own path and create a brighter future.

This might sounds silly. Travel through time?! It might be possible if there is something faster than the speed of light. But, do you know that during 18 century, flying on the sky was silly? going into deep ocean was not possible and going to the space was insane? So, if you not thinking out of the box, you are just an ordinary person. Why people say someone is genius and that “someone” is not you? Because you do not think like a genius. Genius never afraid to do something extraordinary or something not possible or even something insane.

So, think deeply about your life, instead of walking the path that everybody walking, why don’t you find your own path? The main differences  between a genius and a ordinary person is the courage to do what they think is right. Don’t be afraid when people laugh at you; don’t be embarrassed when  people teasing you; just do what you believe.

What can you lose? Money? Power? Spouse?

What we have is life, the only thing we can lose is life. Death will come to everybody, nobody can escape this fate. So, what are you afraid of? Losing your life is a thing either happened early or late, if you can choose to be a soldier die in battlefield or become an old person die in your own house, what will you choose?

If you want to be a genius, remember, you have nothing to lose but your life.

Food is good, really REALLY awesome. However, you need to know what kind of food is the most suitable for yourself. Don’t dare to try something you cannot get use to, don’t damn try to eat something not suitable for yourself. American food is good, because it is globalize. Everybody eat it, can you god damn eat your damn cheese burger everyday? Sorry, I can’t do that. I can eat Chinese food everyday, but not others.

Food that everybody know might not be the best food, or the tastiest food in the world. We know hamburger, God damn is it good? Sorry I don’t think so. I am not a person for American food. The same concept applies to people. Can you god damn dating with Americans? Sorry, I am not suitable for American food; it’s too wild, and too convenient. Just like their food, hamburger. It’s easy though, you can take it and walk around will you’re doing your god damn work. But, can you ever taste what’s inside? I LOVE food, but not Americans.

The best is always, Chinese food!

Just like the last post I have talked, a little spices for your life is absolutely fine. However, if it is too much, you probably need more water to deal with it.

For girls, a little spices increase your confidence about your appearance, or basically everything. You will suddenly felt that I am good, I am pretty, I am hot. I was “enjoying” the spices day and thought that it would last forever. It is so sweet till I cannot stop thinking about it. I felt like I’m flying in the sky.

BUT, if you fly too high, you will know how bad the consequence was later. Human tend to “see” other’s strength and “ignore” the weaknesses part if you like the other person. As time goes by, you will realize:”this is not working out!” You start to have the gut and curiosity wanted to know more about that person. When this happens, there will be 2 possibilities; 1)the person is absolutely better than I thought! or 2)game over.

I hope everybody getting 1 not 2, but before you get 1, you will need to pass through lots of 2.

So, good luck for your “spices day”. It is an extremely good feeling but with the consequence of 1 or 2. It can’t be both, so we’ll see.