Monday, August 16, 2010
The Other Half
I have often heard, as you have, the spouse being called the other half. I always thought that it was just an old saying for the other half of the marriage. It is much more than that. It is the other half of your heart, the right arm, the other half of the brain that helps make decisions and the other half of a partnership.
Harley and I were married for 37 year 6 months. We started as best friends, and grew to be inseparable as if during that short time together, we shared more than just the house. Our thoughts were the same, our likes and dislikes became alike and the love grew so much we shared EVERYTHING!!! If you think you love to hold hands and cuddle when you are young marrieds, we loved holding hands and glancing in each other's eyes. The love is different--it is peace, comfort, and constant. There are no demands--just the desire to spend as much time together as you possibly can. Nothing needs to be said--simply an unspoken word is understood by each. I am so thankful that I got to spend that short time with such a wonderful man. He truly loved me as I loved him.
I know, with all my heart, that I will be with him again someday. Today and tomorrow and the next day, I will prepare to be with him again. Oh--I have cried and continue to cry lots of tears and learn to use my half heart and my left arm to do everything I have to do, but I will not give up! I miss him terribly. I will do as the Lord wants me to do. I will dive into His work and hopefully time will go faster than the last 3 weeks have gone. I have lots of people that love and support me and the family and I am eternally grateful for them. We have had an outpouring of love shown. Thank you all!
If I have one thing that I could share it is to not let tiny things get between you. They are not worth fighting over. Enjoy your families. Take time for each other. Never go to bed without saying I love you and never go to bed angry. There is only one thing that is important--Your family! As much as I love where we live--I was preparing to go north with him so we would not be apart. Good men are hard to find and I think I got the best one out there!! Maybe not-but he was pretty hard to beat. I miss you Harley! I will be there. Prepare a place.
Thursday, November 19, 2009
As The World Turns!!!!
I have been informed by my niece, Kim, that it has been WAY too long since my last post. Until then, I was not aware of anything that was newsworthy in my life. This year has consisted of more 'downs' than 'ups' and I am really not one to be a downer so the best thing I can do for all readers, is to not post at all. I didn't realize that it was a link to ALL those I left behind in Las Vegas--including my family.
It is my hypothesis that the world is spinning alot faster on it's axis now than it did 20 years ago. I have formed this by how fast the years are going by now as opposed to then.
15 years ago, my eldest brother Bill passed away and soon to follow was his wife, Bernice.
He left behind 3 daughters and 7 grandkids.
At the time of Bernice's passing, the family lost touch with each other. It was not until Bob passed away that we started to hear from them occasionally. How could we have let so many years pass us by and not still be involved in each other's lives is beyond me. It has been such a void in my life but as all things, we don't realize the void until it is starting to be filled again. We just get more involved in our own lives and soon we forget about all the good times we had. I hope I am making sense.
The great thing that has happened just in the last few months is that we have begun to fill the void again. It is the greatest gift I could have received. I am beginning to catch up with Mona, Kim and Tammy and their kids and I could just cry (in fact I am crying now) because I realize by a simple misunderstanding, we have missed so much valuable time.
Last night, I had dinner with Mona and Kim (I didn't want the night to end but I left a candle burning in the house and didn't want the house to burn down). A couple of weeks ago, I had lunch with Tammy and Mona. I talk with Mona on almost a daily basis now. I probably speak with her more because we are only three hours apart in age. Although I have such a great love for all of them. We all had such great times together growing up. We have vowed never to let anything like that ever happen again.
Time is too valuable to waste. It slips by before you know it. The world is turning faster and faster and time seems to slip away alot quicker the older I get. Don't let this happen in your life, please!
THAT'S MY STORY AND I'M STICKIN' TO IT!!!!!!!
Monday, July 13, 2009
This is a post that is bittersweet to me. I hope all that read this realize that getting older is something that has to be grasped and appreciated. Each day is so precious and we should take NOTHING for granted. I know this sounds kind of morbid , along with the economical woes of the country and in our own lives but we should still live our lives to the fullest and know in our hearts, without a shadow of doubt, that we do have a Father in Heaven, who loves us, and that He has an eternal plan for us.
The reason for this is that I have a big brother (Bob), and I love him very much. He is about to leave us and return to his Heavenly Father again. I only wish that he knew in his heart that there is life on the other side. We have been told that it is a better life than this mortal life. I sure hope so!
Bob was diagnosed with advanced stage Leukemia just before Memorial Day this year. The doctor immediately assigned to hospice care in his home because he chose not to attempt any of the alternative treatments in attempting to prolong his life. He has deteriorated relatively quickly. Fortunately, he has needed no pain meds--just measures to make him more comfortable.
This picture was taken about three weeks ago when I visited him last.
I love you, Bob, and I will miss you so much.
Monday, February 23, 2009
Little Trips equal Big Rewards
Sunday after Sacrament Meeting, Harley had to take the truck to pick up some furniture he bought up in Bountiful. His plan was to just go up, stay with Sarah and the kids, pick the stuff up Monday a.m. and then shoot right back home. I couldn't bear the thought of him seeing Sarah and the kids and leaving me at home. So----I went along.
I always love to see them. Abbie is always saying that she wants her Gamma. Well she got her for a few hours. It doesn't matter how long they have lived there and how many times I go there, the good-byes are horrible for me. I hate to leave them and I always wish they lived closer at least.
I love my family. I have a hard time understanding those grandparents that are so indifferent toward their grandkids. There are so many in this world that show very little interest in their kids or grandkids. Their feelings are that they did their part in raising their kids in that brief eighteen years and now it is THEIR time.
The point is--We did NOT commit to Father in Heaven to be there for his children for only 18 years. It is a lifelong committment. He is there for us and we should be there for them. I know this with all my heart. It is worth it. When that little Abbie or McKay or any of my grandkids run up to me and squeeze my leg or put their arm around my neck, or gives me a slobbery kiss, I know I am where I should be.
I LOVE YOU --Kids or Grandkids-- with all my heart. I am so blessed to have this experience. Thank you!
Monday, December 8, 2008
I think it is about time I updated my blog. I used love to cook until tonight. Harley and I have callings with the SUU Cedar City Stake 3rd ward as advisors for the college kids. It is alot of fun. Harley (maybe we) and the ward wanted to do something really neat for the kids before they went home for Christmas break so we did a big seafood dinner party for 140 kids. I have never seen so much seafood at one time for a long time. We had Alaskan King crab legs, Shrimp three different ways, scallops sauteed in garlic butter, salmon, and swordfish. I also made pasta with two different sauces, salads, relish trays and pastries...
We had so much food and not a drop left. They loved it. The adults loved it and--- I never want to see another shrimp for a long time.
All in all life is good. If I don't write again before Christmas, I just want you all to know how much I love you and hope that you make it a Merry Christmas. Some of our best Christmases have been when we were the poorest or had the most obstacles to overcome.
Shelby--if you read this, I just want to tell you that Cedar is a great place to go to school. There are a bunch of great kids there and lots of cute guys that would swarm all over you. They have such a great time. Think about it!!!! Sarah had a good time when she was in school here. And it has only gotten better. She went to school in the olden days (12 years ago).
Tuesday, October 21, 2008
UEA weekend at Grandma and Grandpa's
As you can tell by the smiles on faces, we had a fun time on Friday, carving pumpkins with the kids. Sarah, Lain and the kids came from Centerville for the four-day break and we decided to have a good time and take advantage of every minute that we could. Gavin was almost the first one done. He is a busy kid. He wants to make sure that he gets to do everything before time to go home. 
They got to design their own. Abbie just watched each cousin doing their thing and really wanted to dig in too.
Campbell has a bigger, toothier grin than his pumpkin. All weekend long, he would go out on the porch and make sure it was okay and would arrange it so his was in front. He was so proud. Sarah told him there was no room in the van for them to take them home and he was heartbroken. He is so tenderhearted. Campbell, Grandma is taking good care of it for you. Hope mom will do some more with you now that you are home.
Grandpa seems to see a resemblance between Mason and his pumpkin---Can you?
Preston, too!!!
It's kind of eerie what a likeness the pumpkins have to their creators! Savannah always has a great big smile.
Adam's Jack O' Lantern takes on the look of the Hunchback (not even going to attempt to spell that one).
Lain playing football with the boys with Abbie right in the middle of things. She is happiest when she is outside.
I know which one gets my vote for cutest pumpkin. Abbie!!!!
Don't you just want to eat him up? I mean McKay!!
Olivia (Livvy) is so proud. She loves coming to Grandma's. She just reminds me so much of Meggie when she was a little girl. Isn't she pretty?
Mr. Mischief!! You just always know Camden is cooking up trouble somewhere.
I just know for a fact that I have the cutest kids and grandkids around!
Meg and Malinda came up on Friday so that Dean could study for mid-terms. We had all four girls and ten grandkids at the same time. It seems to be a rarity these days now that everyone is getting older and lives are busier.
This is the year for all the girls and their families to spend Thanksgiving with the in-laws so I made a turkey dinner on Saturday so we could have a make-shift holiday together. No pies though. They were too much trouble. Saturday night most of us got to go to Olive Garden for dinner. Jaime had to work and we got a babysitter for the kids. I think we all enjoyed the whole weekend. I know I did. This is when I realize that I am truly blessed and there is so much to be thankful for.
Monday, October 13, 2008
TAGGED!
Okay, Meggie, Not really sure about seven things about myself. I am experiencing long and short term memory loss lately. But--here goes.
Here's how to play:1. Link your tagger and list these rules on your blog.2. Share 7 facts about yourself on your blog, some random, some weird.3. Tag 7 people at the end of your post by leaving their names as well as links to their blogs.4. Let them know they have been tagged by leaving a comment on their blog.
1. I used to be able to clasp my toes together just like you can clasp your fingers together.
2. When I was in high school, my dream was to be in the MoTab. (tee-hee) I would go around the house singing as loud as I could. My voice was quite good too. Then, something changed and I lost all my confidence. Now, I wish I would have just followed my dreams.
3. I never thought I would get married, plus, I never wanted bratty kids like my brothers and sister had. What horrible, unruley kids they had!!! I was afraid those characteristics were genetic and I sure didn't want kids like that. ( Keep in mind that I was in Junior High and High School when I was thinking those things)Amazingly--I love all of those kids now plus I have four beautiful and glorious daughters of my own, nothing like those nieces and nephews, who turned out to be my life and have loved every minute with them.
4. I love to cook for people. I alway wanted to own a bed and breakfast or a hunting lodge so that I could have lots of people come and stay so that I could cook for them.
5. I love going to the mountains and listening to the wind in the Quakies. The mountains have always made me feel so close to Father in Heaven. Being in the trees is so peaceful. That's why I had to have a place of my own with trees. We have never had a home (when we lived in Las Vegas) that had mature trees or if they were getting bigger, Harley wanted to sell. You know those places in Vegas that I loved to go in that had country decor that had several tape players--one would play bird sounds, another would play water sounds,...I would go in them just to hear the combinations of nature. Wierd, huh?
6. I used to polka with my Dad in the living room. He loved to dance and so did I. He would get so tickled, on Saturdays, he and Mom would watch Lawrence Welk, and when Bobby and his partner would dance, I would dance right along with them. I was really a Geek, wasn't I?
7. I never thought I would get to seven. Trying to dig up things that my daughters wouldn't know since they are probably the only ones that read this has really been hard. Last, but not least, I am really glad that I made the choices that I made later in my life. Things like straightening up my act, getting married to the guy that I married, having all four of my girls, marrying in the temple, having all four of my girls marry in the temple to their eternal companions, moving to New Harmony, Keeping close to my siblings and spending as much time with them as I possibly could, learning and applying all of the good things that I can from my husband and the list goes on. Life is great, regardless of the trials and like Harley says, " Don't sweat the small stuff." Things are great when you look back on them years from now.
The only trial I have now is that I don't have anyone to tag. Meg tagged them all.
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