Friday, 24 July 2015

A Camping Adventure

Ted and I are going camping.  Its raining cats and dogs out there right now.  Not ideal camping weather.  Am packing up bags of spare clothes to leave in the car that will definitely stay dry.  I hope its not too muddy.  I am nervous.  I have never been to Dance Camp East before.  Its 8 days and I don't know most of the people going.  We are going to camp in circles of 25 ish people and cook together over open fires (please let it stop raining!) 

I had a vision of Ted spending his summers running around outside with other kids in a field or some such and being out doors loads.  And this is part of that.  I just hope that there is some sunshine!!

Wish me luck!

Sunday, 12 July 2015

With Wealth

So. With Wealth.  What would you do?

I am imagining it.  With Wealth.......

I have paid off my mortgage, I am doing more of a life worth living.  I help my community. I support community projects. I am a patron of the arts. I eat out at fabulous restaurants.  I  provide for myself and my family, pay our bills, look after us all well, look after our house and garden well.  I practice generosity to ourselves and to friends and family. I am hosting. I make art, I go on art retreats. I study art, study art and life and people, go on yoga retreats.  help women in africa create better communities. I host parties. I wear clothes from Toast and Cos and go clothes shopping in Liberty. I have converted the attic, I hire a garden designer, I never worry about bills. We travel as a family and stay in hotels, I do not work during the summer  - ever.

I support lots of charities - the bees - i give money to help save the bees.  I buy up land and let it go wild.  I pay for art in schools and school trips to theatres and stuff.  I buy the cuthbert pub and create a community resource.  I give shares to everyone in the neighbourhood.  I buy up a street in a run down town and invite artists to live there for free under the condition they did up the house they lived in.  create an artists colony.  I hire a fabulous graphic designer and web designer to make my website look just how i want it.  I have done a rev with FF. I  spend all summer somewhere gorgeous and mediterranean with friends visiting and with our own chef and yoga teacher. 

So now - to find a way.  With Wealth or Without.  Hello Future......
Make the most of the situation you are in.  Totally Do What You Can, Where You Are, With What You've Got

This opens you up to the positive results of change and engages you in becoming the best version of yourself.

You are engaged positive change.  It makes positive changes possible.  Without your ndividual engagement, change will not happen.


Thursday, 9 July 2015

Soul Tribe Gathering Advice from Kelly Rae Roberts

Got to post this again.  From the marvellous Kelly Rae Roberts


jen and i have been getting several emails asking for advice on how to create a gathering of women similar to lovebomb. here's the quick and dirty of how we did it. of course, you can do it however you'd like, but the most important thing is to do it - especially if you are feeling the pulls to create a true-blue-beyond-the-internet-community for yourself.

1. partner up with a friend to co-lead your gathering - someone who is a good balance to your personality and who has a similar vision for what you'd like to do. it's helpful to have a partner so that you can share all the responsibilities and it makes all the planning that much more fun.

2. think about where you'd like to hold your gathering. what's a special location that holds meaning for you? we chose a sleepy beach town in Oregon because it was a place that we had both been to and loved deeply. we knew any soul on the planet would love it, too. but it was special because it already felt familiar to us and held meaning for both of us on different levels. it's important to choose a location that will inspire, nurture, calm, and ignite adventure.

3. find a great cabin or house that can sleep lots of peeps in the location you've chosen. having a great space is key in setting the stage for a cozy, intimate gathering.

3. dream up a list of all the people you want to invite. who do you want to meet? are there people you've been chatting with online that you want to meet in person? are there people out there in the world that you admire? are there local friends that you can't live without? who are you being called to? get together with your organizing partner and dream out loud together about who these people are and create your dream list. be sure to let your heart guide you. you already know your tribe deep down, we're sure of it.

4. send out a lovely invitation to your dream list via email - an invitation so juicy (with photos + descriptions of where, when, why) they would be crazy to decline.

5. squeal in delight when most of them say yes, they'd love to come!

6. introduce everyone via email. include their websites/blog addresses so that they can all begin to know one another a bit before meeting one another. some of them may already know one another and some may not. it's important to address the natural concerns that come up as people anticipate being in a brand new group for the first time. keep sending lots of love and welcome out to your group and invite them to create a safe space for each other.

7. collect $ from everyone attending that will cover the rental fees of the cabin/house and all food/drink/and other surprises. you'll be surprised how doable this kind of weekend is when you share the expenses between 10-12 women. it's also a good idea to ask for a small portion of the $ close to the time of the invitation so you can feel confident about your RSVPs.

8. plan to arrive with your planning partner at least one day before your time together as a group begins. this will give you time to shop & get ready, but more importantly it will give you both time to connect and talk in person about what you're dreaming for your gathering. we've been very specific about what we wanted to create and have been amazed at how powerful those intentions can be. whatever you ask for for your group, you WILL get, so put your best wishes out there.

9. on your first night together, welcome your friends to a shared communal meal and the warmest introductions you can imagine. there's nothing like gathering around a table and eating together like long lost friends to get your weekend started on the right note.

10. plan one or two shared activities and let the rest unfold naturally. we decided early on we could trust these women to make our time together magic, and we haven't been disappointed. being honest with the women you've invited about how much you trust and respect them is a beautiful place to start. from that place, true friendship and real connection can blossom and grow.

11. come up with a name for your group. this could be really fun and silly. we call ourselves the lovebombers after one our ladies said she was going to bomb us with love. what can you call yourselves? we're sure you'll come up with a meaningful name specific to your gathering!

we hope you go for it. that you create what your soul needs. that you reach out to all the women in your online circles and otherwise. that you create something so powerful with your friends, that it sustains and transcends.

Decluttering My Computer

So last week my computer crashed and we had to reboot the hard drive.  Luckily my back up did actually work.  But it was a scare.  I have bought an extra external hard drive so that I have 2 back ups.  And I am clearing out the clutter.  I keep a lot of stuff in this computer.  And too much stuff tires the hard drive apparently.

So time for a computer declutter.  I am finding some interesting things.  I evidently know who I am and what I want.   I found a "how I want to live" document from a long time ago and its still how I want to live. 

I also found this.  I have no idea where it came from so apologies if I am using someone else's material without referencing them.  Please let me know if you recognise it.  Its about 'grit' (have found a few articles about this too...  here is something -  a list of advice things. 
  • I know what I want and am committed to getting it. (And if I don’t know, I devote time and energy to figuring it out).
  •       I am so focused on my vision that I don’t get distracted or scattered by irrelevant, draining, or conflicting tasks.
  •        I am willing to experience whatever it takes—defeat, embarrassment, even humiliation—to achieve what I want.
  •       I am always doing things I’ve never done before and/or don’t want to do.
  •       I make at least one unreasonable (i.e. scary) request a week.
  •   I don’t say ‘yes’ when I really want to say ‘no,’ even if it means rocking the boat or upsetting another.
  •  I regularly seek out support, and refuse to spend time with or discuss my dream with naysayers (even if they’re related)
  • Every time I’m afraid to do something, I force myself to do it anyway. (And I catch myself when I try to justify not doing it.)
  • I am rigorous about the thoughts that I think and the words that I use, making sure they’re positive, supportive, and appreciative (of myself and others).
  •  I take time to relax and pamper myself so I don’t burn out.