Friday, March 30, 2007

In Memory

In memory of my Aunt MaryDawn who passed away this last week from a courageous battle with "glioblastoma" (cancer in the brain).

MaryDawn is my Dad's older sister. On all accounts I had always believed she would outlive all of us. If it wasn't for the cancer, I think she would have. For a woman in her 70's she was larger than life, with a personality that was electrifying and full of energy. I am thankful for the competitive and graceful way that she fought the cancer battle. When she was diagnosed she focused all of her energy full speed ahead doing everything she could to beat the odds, and beat the odds she did. The picture above was taken last year at the Tracey Aviary in Liberty Park, Salt Lake City. This was a good week for MaryDawn as it was in-between treatments. So I was able to visit her unconstrained from the effects of treatment. As we talked I found that she had already outlived the others that were diagnosed at the same time. The cancer she had, if I remember correctly, only had a 2% survival rate (my dad will have to confirm that). As sick as she became during treatments she was forceful about her therapy and all the doctors asked her to do. From what I hear, they were amazed. She was absolutely positive and willing to fight the fight. Even though MaryDawn was undergoing treatment, on the day this picture was taken, she and her husband Paul almost rode their bicycles down to the park to meet us, but voted to drive since there was a chance for rain. I believe this is why she was able to prolong her death for so long, she wasn't going to let it knock her down. Like I said, if you were to have met her you would have felt her energy to. It was hard to believe she was in her 70's, she could run circles around those my age. As time went on the treatments were not as successful and ultimately MaryDawn chose "to allow mother nature to take her course". I admire that comment. Sometimes the bigger person is the one who allows themselves to accept tough choices. This was no doubt a tough choice. But she was graceful to the end.
MaryDawn was like a matriarch of our family. One of my favorite things about her was her incredible sense of memory. She was my resource for my genealogy hobby. She was the one who had all the family memories and stories cataloged in her head. I regret that I did not interview her first, but am fortunate to have a lot of information that she verbally gave me.
She could bring life to any party and she loved to talk just as much as I do!!! On top of that she was a pretty funny lady. I never dared her to do anything but she was the type that if you dared her to do something, she would show you that she could do it (in a reasonable way, no unsafe stuff)
I also admired her sense of progression. Age, for our family has always been irrelevant. It must be in our genes because all of us seem to believe in positive thinking and pushing ourselves to continue to do things regardless of age, take care of ourselves, etc. One special memory I have is back in 1988-89 MaryDawn, I believe for her 50th birthday, rode her bicycle from Utah to Colorado. I picked her up in my friend Doug's jeep down at the Pearl Street Mall. Now how many women do you know, who would set out on their own and peddle 1500 miles?? (I have no idea the actual mileage but you get the point). Later for her 60th birthday she set out to ride her bicycle from the West coast to the East coast. The trip was not completed because she got in an accident. The next year she decided to try it again, but this time not alone. She road her bicycle with a group of women cyclists all over the age of 50, from the West to the East. Ken and I met up with her and her group in Bastrop Texas.
She was passionate about life, meeting people from all over the world, and enjoying the earth. I remember on another long bike ride she mentioned that she was always the straggler because she would have to stop and take pictures of the flowers on the prairie. Another trait of our family. She was also passionate about her 3 children and especially her grandchildren. She tended to take care of all of us in her own way. I have great memories of visiting her in North Carolina and her willingness to take me in.

Death is a part of life. Although death has its sting, I'm glad that I can experience the emotions. Because it proves that I've felt love from her. If we did not feel pain, we would not know what joy feels like. There will always be that tug when I think of her or want to e-mail, or missing her updates. I am happy that she led a good life, as that is what she has left us. For me, I know it's not the end.
This is the third person that we know who has died in the past few months. Daria has shed a lot of tears, yet she recognizes that it's not final. It's been interesting to see how the kids process it. For now we are choosing to celebrate that MaryDawn lived and the memories she gave us.

Thursday, March 29, 2007

Banner

Big thanks to my good friend Ino who was able to get my banner at the top of my blog! YEAH!

Tuesday, March 27, 2007

Back in Business

For a blogger it seems that we are always bloggin even if we don't actually post it. I've had such great intentions of posting to my blog, but seem to get side tracked by the most ordinary daily life routines. In order to not write an 200 page post I'll just put snippets of what we've been doing.

Spring Break
No trips planned this year. We spent most of our time playing with friends. The highlight of the week was a fantastic horseback ride with the kids and 5 of our friends. Yes, real horses, not ponies, no lead ropes, just a nice ride for one hour! It was so thrilling! Daria and Dustin love horses just as much as I do. The day was perfect! not to hot, not to cool and a bit overcast. Dustin's horse walked off the path briefly just in time to jump down a tiny incline, I yelled "HOLD ON!" to which he did and he didn't seem to think anything of it. The only other mis-hap was when his horse decided it wanted to go down a different trail, this worried Dustin and he cried a bit but one of the guides was able to get his horse back in line. The kids loved it so much they wanted to do it again right after but that was not part of the plan. Ever since I was a little girl I wanted a horse, now as an adult I think to myself "Why not?". Well, of course if I were ever to own a horse I would want it to live on my property and not have to board it somewhere else. I can still dream.

Ambulance Dad

This year Ken started fulfilling a dream that he has had since he was in High School, to become a volunteer EMT. No, he's not quiting his regular job. This is something he is doing more as a hobby which he can do on his off hours. Eventually when he retires he would like to work as a EMT part time maybe even a paramedic. For now it's just volunteer. So far he's earned the ability to be a ambulance driver, and right now is in classes until June that will certify him as a EMT-basic. It's been a lot of fun for all of us to hear what he is learning. Ken really enjoys helping people and this has been very rewarding. It's an extra comfort to have someone at home who has a little medical sense.


Hoola Hoop Daria
Daria and her best friend Alise tried breaking the school record time for hoola hooping the other night. They were timing themselves. I'm not sure what the school record is, but both of these girls hoola hooped for 4 minutes straight without dropping the hoop! Amazing

Dustin and Soccer
Dustin is still playing soccer and enjoying it. The coach has decided to always play him on the defense. I think Dustin does great at this. He has a good eye for when the ball is coming and when to kick. This last Saturday the team played great. Dustin got kicked in the head (you can see Ken consoling him above), but after a few minutes got right back in.
Pictures
One of the main reasons I started to blog was to keep family and friends up to date on what is going on in our family. Another reason was to share pictures of the many moments in our family. I've been working on putting together galleries which you can see the links at the top of my blog. I'm slowly adding pictures. You will need a password to get in since I'm trying to keep it private (I don't want strangers staring at my kids!). So if you want to look in the galleries, e-mail me for the password.

Monday, March 12, 2007

Life...

Well, as most human beings, my life has been pretty uneventful this past week. Well, not completely uneventful but nothing of noteworthy to report.

Today I had some funny random thoughts and just had to share.

1. Dustin. Yes, Dustin continues to be funny, all the time. While I like his funniness I hope he will figure out before he goes to kindergarten that there are times to be funny and there are times not to be funny. Saturday night we went as a family to Panera Bread for supper. While on our way Dustin had the biggest grin on his face. The grin was associated with the fact that instead of putting on his own tennis shoes before we left, he purposefully put on my tennis shoes, tied them and all. He was very proud of this, and not the least bit hindered by the fact that the shoes were 10 times bigger than his feet. So.... we continued driving to Panera and went in and ate. I tried to ignore the fact that some people must have wondered why our 5 year old had overly large shoes on.

2. Going to the bathroom. Everyone knows that once you become a parent the notion of "privacy" quickly disappears. I was in the restroom (to much information I know), and I could hear Dustin coming down the stairs saying "Mom! mom!, Dad, do you know where mom is?". A moment later Dustin appears at the bathroom door with a handful of super heroes he has just drawn on a stack of construction paper. He is oblivious as to what I am doing and goes on to ask me to look at them and tell him which one is my favorite. I calmly told him that I would be out soon. So he lays them out systematically on my bed and as he walks away I can hear him say "just look at them and then bring them upstairs". The life of a mother.

3. Logic. Each day with kids is a reminder that there are just certain areas of a childs brain that haven't fully developed yet, like in the logic area. Daria took a shower, and used a regular towel. This is normal for Daria, she's a very logical, systematic person. Then Dustin takes a bath, I came in and gave him a towel, and he says "No! that's not my towel, mines the small one" I look over to find that he got out a hand towel to use when he was done bathing. I can't even figure that one out.

4. Piano practice. It's spring break. This means that all normal routines in this house are on hold. Daria hasn't touched the piano all day. She usually practices in the morning, but she's enjoying these days off (even though she still has lessons this week). I finally get a chance to practice late this evening. The moment I begin, it seems to draw Daria to to the piano. She is anxiously waiting behind me with a song book in her hand "hurry mom, I've got to play this piece". I remind her I'm practicing, it will take awhile. With each page I turn she asks if I'm done yet. I eventually got her to leave and find something else to do.

5. Parents. I think the coolest thing about being a parent is it forces you to look at your own parents through eyes that have the layers peeled back. All of those things that one used to hate that their parents did, becomes so understandable and logical as a parent oneself. Like the long showers for instance. I would think that given Daria's small size that a 10-15 minute shower would be good enough. Not so! Daria can drain our water heater in one washing. Now we've put limits on it. She's getting better.

6. Floors. There are two things I really hate to do. Wash floors and clean toilets. It goes back to the "in-box is never empty principal" in the Don't Sweat the Small Stuff book. The fact of the matter is, my mind tends to be to logical sometimes. Like, it just doesn't seem logical to clean the kitchen floor when you KNOW it will be dirty in less than an hour, which is rare, it's usually less than 20 minutes. The same for toilets, you clean them and they get used right away. I was thinking of this tonight because I really feel like I"m on a cleaning strike with my kitchen floor. It drives me insane to clean it. Oh yes the kids will sweep it when they make a mess but that does not always do the job. The kids will help mop, but again, it's not always thorough. So for now I must endure the pain of a floor that will forever get messy.

7. Fruit snacks. Ok, I hate that they call these things fruit snacks. I consider them fruit flavored candy with vitamin C pumped into them. My kids know I wont buy them. But even after years of them knowing I wont buy them, they are still drawn in by the marketing tactics of the boxes while we're at the store. It happened today. The princess box of so called fruit snacks practically jumped off the shelf into our view. I was a bit on edge anyway and told the kids that they would probably be better off going home and eating a table spoon of sugar instead! joking of course. I'm reminded of the fact that Costco here stopped carrying the all natural fruit bars. So when I visited my friend in Utah last year, we went to her Costco and I bought 10 boxes. The problem was trying to figure out how to get 480 fruit bars home. It's amazing how heavy they can be once put together in large groups. I finally figured out I could take them out of the boxes and stuff them into gallon bags and place them in multiple suitcases to even out the weight. It worked perfect!

Now that all of you have read my random thoughts I'm sure you feel much better for it! Ha, ha.

Monday, March 5, 2007

Photos

So I'm playing around with a very cool site "SmugMug", more of a professional photography picture hosting site, but I like its tools. I placed one gallery on my blog as you can see on the upper right hand corner of my blog. It's password protected. I of course will give the password to family and close friends but please do not share it with others, for the privacy of my kids! If you want the password you can e-mail me.

Sunday, March 4, 2007

I'm having blog withdrawals as I haven't been able to post for 11 days!
Last week we celebrated Ken's birthday. The big whopping 43! Doesn't that sound crazy? This is the first year it has really dawned on me that we are, uhm, growing up??

Tuesday was our annual trip to the largest rodeo in the world (a fact). Ken's dad raisesSimmental Show Cattle and they always come down for the Simmental sale. I love it. I never realized how much I enjoyed going to the rodeo. We didn't actually go the rodeo part that night, but stayed in the livestock area where they have the auctions and all the booths where kids can learn about milk, beef, bees, cotton, farming, ride ponies and pet animals. Daria and Dustin love this. Daria and I spent a good hour or so walking through the vendor booths to see what was for sale. A lot of neat stuff, but we just window shopped. Then she wanted to go up and down every isle of cattle. If you've never been to a show like this, just imagine nicely cleaned rows of pristine cleaned cattle from ranches all over the US tied to a rail, my guess is maybe 250+ maybe 300+. It is the funnest way to look at cattle, because they are clean and there are no flies. But still, after seeing a handful of cattle you've seen them all, unless you are there to buy and can see the differences. No problem though, we slowly went down each isle. I didn't mind. Daria is such a animal girl and says she wants to be a veterinarian. So I let her have as many experiences with animals as she can. The funny thing is as we walked she would say "There's a mom cow", "There's a dad". These cattle are HUGE animals (most were Brahma's and Simmental some of the tallest cattle standing as tall as some horses) so it's VERY easy to tell which are male and which are female.

Daria didn't want to attend the sale because she said she couldn't understand what the auctioneer was saying. I told her all they do is say "Blah, blah, blah, $5000.00, blah, blah, blah $5001.00, blah, blah." We both laughed.

I love the sale. I think that it's an art for the auctioneer and the guys who watch the bids. Everyone is always clean cut, trimmed hair, pressed shirts, pressed pants and cowboy hats. There are always the same 3 auction men standing at the bottom of the bleachers. Their job is to watch for the bids in the audience. Once the auction starts it becomes this fabulous show of fast number calling and the men pointing back and forth yelling "HA!" which must tell the auctioneer to up the bid. It's very impressive. Ken's dad didn't buy anything this time.

The highlight of the evening was riding the light rail down to the rodeo. We did this last year. The kids love it. You get to see so many different types of people. A fun ride.

Frustration for the evening was the tiny camera I brought. Ken won this HP camera at the HP world convention last year. It's one of those small throw in your pocket types. We thought it would be great for quick pictures. Well, I'll tell you, I'm not a small camera person. I like all the gadgets and bells and whistles that mine has. I like manipulating the depth and speed or even lighting. This thing takes horrible color matching and has absolutely no shake resistance so most of my pictures were blurred. Why I didn't bring my trusty Nikon is a mystery as I love taking it with me everywhere and have a great backpack that it goes in. Next year, it's coming along.