
Sorry I've been MIA for awhile. I went on a short trip to Las Vegas early this week with my friend Britta to pick up our car. I'll blog soon about the Las Vegas trip :).
This weekend was the LDSFS adoption conference. I was looking forward to it and am glad I went! Vaylene watched Kylie for us yesterday. When we went to pick her up at Vaylene's apartment in Provo she was giggling at my sisters two chihuahuas (Lily & Roxy). Well, truthfully she liked Roxy but was scared of Lily. I think Lily barks too much. She would giggle watching them but didn't like it when Roxy would try to lick or touch her.
I really enjoyed the adoption conference this year. It's crazy to think that about this same time last year we missed the conference because we were in Michigan meeting Abbie for the first time. A pretty darn good reason to miss the conference I think! It's so weird to think about how much has happened in one year. They had a lot of great classes and I met some really nice people. I think I enjoy going mostly because it's one of the only times I get to chat with other adoptive couples who have had similar struggles in building their families. Adoption is such a different experience that I love it when I can meet people that can relate and have also "been there, done that". While I was there I kept thinking that I wish Abbie could have been there with me. I know she would have enjoyed it also :)
I think my favorite class was the birthparent panel. They had four birthmothers that have placed anywhere from twelve years ago to ten months ago. It's interesting how they, including Abbie all have such different stories but yet they are all so similar. They had such strong testimonies of the Savior and of the blessings that adoption has brought their babies, themselves and their adoptive families.
I was particularily touched when they talked about how they each chose their family. They mentioned how they felt very guided by the spirit while they were choosing the family for their baby. One girl mentioned that she wasn't really choosing a family, but she was looking for the family that Heavenly Father and her baby had chosen. It was as if her daughter was telling her "THAT'S my family that I'm supposed to go to". Hearing how each of these babies made it to the right families really touched my heart because I know how true that is. We had a similar experience with Abbie and I KNOW Heavenly Father played a huge role in bringing her to our family. While we were filling out adoption paperwork in the fall of 2006 I felt very strongly in December or so that we needed to get our butt in gear and get our paperwork finished quickly. I just had a gut feeling that we needed to get approved because a baby would be coming soon. Now I know why, because Kylie was conceived that next month.
When Abbie was looking at profiles she chose six of her favorites, and over time narrowed it down to three. After emailing each of the three families she eventually felt more comfortable with us, and couldn't ever think about what to say to the other couples. It was like that for us too. I can't describe it, but we always felt something special with Abbie. We had had a lot of contact from other birthmothers in the months previous to her emails, but none of them felt so right as when we'd talk with Abbie and her mom. Many don't know this but right around the same time we learned about Abbie we were almost matched with another birthmother in Provo. While our emotions were all over the place during that time, eventually we both just couldn't shake the feeling that her son wasn't meant to be ours. I knew we could be great parents to him, but I just didn't feel like he was "our baby". Kylies adoption (the legalities of it) was extremely difficult and something I hope to never go through again. But I can honestly say that I know one hundred percent that she was meant to be our daughter. She has brought SO MUCH JOY AND HAPPINESS to our family and we are so thankful to Abbie for loving us, loving Kylie and making sacrifices for her. Being her mom and dad has been the absolute best thing that has ever happened to us!!!
Anyway, sorry for that tangent. Back to the conference. I was able to attend seven different classes over the past two days and they provided lunch where I was able to meet some nice people. One couple was kind of crazy, but they were very nice, abeit in a kind cooky way. Not quite granola, but definately getting there. I guess every year they travel to Africa or Tanzania to volunteer for the peace core or something like that. They really wanted to adopt from Rowanda and fully intended traveling post placement to Africa to volunteer in the orphanages there. I kept thinking that if they wanted to adopt from Rowanda why were they at LDSFS? There aren't exactly a whole lot of orphans available here (um... probably none) and they seemed put off about the idea of adopting an infant. So I dunno about that.