Tuesday, October 26, 2010

On Stage

What a beautiful time of year! Everywhere we drive we’re surrounded by the myriad vibrant hues of the changing leaves. As I've yet to do a serious photo shoot, instead I'll share a look at the sun setting over the Thames. One evening last week Chad came home from work, grabbed the camera, and took off down the street. We followed him the block to the river and gave a collective gasp at the scene.

Last week was a big one at school for both Gavin and me. At the Magnet School instead of celebrating holidays they sponsor a special day for each child. The theme in Gavin’s classroom was a country report. Gavin chose Wales for a few reasons: several of our ancestors came from Wales, our last name is very common in Wales, and Chad and I had just returned from our recent visit there with tons of pictures. Friday morning at 8:55 found Chad and me sitting in the back of Gavin’s classroom tending the Welsh flag (a red dragon on a white and green background – so cool). When it was time to take the floor, Gavin picked up the teacher’s wand and pointed out all the important features of Wales on the poster he and Chad had worked on together for the past couple of weeks. When he got shy Ms. Ellen encouraged him to speak up “loud and proud.” After he finished he fielded quite a few questions from his classmates. A sample of what they wanted to know more about – how to play cricket, whether we eat Welsh food at our house, and what it’s like driving on the other side of the road. Good job, Gavin!

My turn onstage was Wednesday when I gave a 40-minute lecture on women in the Great Depression in my class on History of Women and Gender in America. I learned so much about this challenging time in history, particularly its impact on women. I marveled at the similarities in the economic, agricultural, and reform conditions leading up to the Great Depression. Women’s strategies for stretching resources and creating value at home reminded me of stories of my grandfather who years after the Depression still carefully straightened and saved every nail while dismantling a shed. I was sobered at the cultural and legislative barriers to women’s work during this era when it was assumed that women worked only recreationally (although by 1940 25% of households were headed by women). Stories of the farm families who lost all in the Dust Bowl were particularly devastating, while the work of Eleanor Roosevelt and Frances Perkins was more inspiring. And there was so much I’d never known about the New Deal. Depressing or not, giving this presentation was a fascinating experience.

Over the past several weeks we’ve seen Arwen’s reading skills really blossom. Every day she comes home anxious to read the array of books in her book back. Here’s her turn onstage:


This weekend the kids had a two-night sleepover with Nathan, MaryLynn, and Julia while their parents enjoyed some time away. Saturday morning we dashed from Boy Scout hike to one soccer game, then another, and another. In the afternoon Chad assembled two lasagnas, Brazilian style, for the dinner at church that night.

Sunday afternoon Chad surprised us with an early return from his responsibilities at church. We celebrated the extra time together with a meander through the Pine Swamp Corridor, an Avalonia Land Conservancy preserve just five minutes from our house. I enjoyed one-on-one conversation with both Gavin and Arwen, who each took a turn identifying and collecting leaves with Chad as well. There’s nothing like unstructured family time on the weekend to equalize the go-go-go of the week. We hope you've had a good one!

Tuesday, October 19, 2010

Feeling kinda normal

Dare I admit that we have NO trips or travel planned until spring break?? Following our Vermont ramblings it was heavenly to be home and do a bunch of normal stuff this week.

On the school front, I turned in my first academic paper in sixteen years, an analysis of Northern women’s economic power and lack thereof in the colonial period through the antebellum era. I’m not sure whose torture was more complete – mine in having to put my thoughts on paper or Chad’s in having to grade a million assignments authored by his own students.

Gavin and Arwen observed Columbus Day by discovering some new trails in the arboretum with Gabriel and Madeline. There was no lack of sticks, rocks, and interesting leaves as the kids ran forward, back, off the trail, and back on. One minute Nancy and I were smiling as Arwen and Madeline were swinging their entwined hands, the next we were coaxing Gavin and Gabriel off a cliff. It was fun to hang out together on a weekday – quite a novelty at this time of year.

Ah, the weekend! Friday night was a rare event – neither Chad nor I had to go anywhere after dinner. After some hanging out with the kids we kicked back and watched a movie together. Saturday we were slow getting up, then headed out for some yard cleanup. After so many months of planting, weeding, and harvesting, it was a relief to finally clear the soil for the winter. Gavin and Arwen were great workers!

That afternoon we attended a sweet memorial service for a friend who recently passed away. Chad got to conduct the service, while I accompanied a group of young singers on the piano. My friend Kim had written a beautiful eulogy that highlighted not only the beauty of his life but also her own experience living with, loving, and learning from an older brother with a mental disability. I’m so glad we could be there.

Sunday brought the culmination of much preparation and practice for our ward’s Primary program. Chad and I beamed from the audience as Gavin and Arwen sang out from the choir seats. Then the big moment came – Arwen’s speaking part. Despite regular opportunities to hone her public speaking skills (kids share a scripture, give a talk, or offer a prayer every couple of months in Primary), stage fright never fails to overcome her even after thorough preparation. This time she had a Ben & Jerry’s Mint Chocolate Cookie sundae with fudge sauce and whipped cream riding on it. And she did it!! We were so proud of her, as we were of Gavin when he stood up in front and clearly repeated his part with a smile. The ice cream was delicious!

Tuesday, October 12, 2010

WE ALL STILL LOVERMONT

Every day last week found Gavin and Arwen anxiously reporting to their teachers and classmates how many days until we went to Vermont. With two years of beautiful images and fun memories to fuel them – to say nothing of the promise of friends to play with – anticipation levels were at an all-time high.

Whereas in past years we’ve read aloud together in the car, Gavin and I delved into our own personal reading – he into a trio of Nate the Great books that are his current love, me into essays on women in the Great Depression for an upcoming class presentation. As we headed north the colors became more vibrant. Before long we arrived in Massachusetts and the first stage of the official reason for the trip. We hiked into the autumn forest, leaves crunching underfoot. Scrambling up and across moss-covered rocks, we searched out the now-leaf-covered sensors Chad planted a year ago. Gavin and Arwen were each proud to scout out an illusive sensor we otherwise would have missed. We were thrilled to find all ten out of ten.

Farther along our journey we stopped at the Polka Dot Café, where the booths still sport the same springs that the place opened with decades ago under some long-forgotten name. Chad took Gavin and Arwen for a peek at the steam engine next door while we waited for our food. No matter the fare, it’s always a treat to eat out together. The meal became especially memorable when Arwen explained the reason for requesting a slice of lemon meringue pie – her teacher had just read a book in class that featured the dessert and she had been wondering what it was like. She loved it!

Like last year, we arrived at Little River State Park late enough to set up camp in the dark and go straight to bed, affording a wonderfully surprising look at the fall splendor the next morning. The kids were thrilled to see their friends who had arrived after they fell asleep. They scampered off to the playground across the road while Chad and I flipped pancakes with Tricia and Brad and compared notes on the journey. (Theirs had been a bit more adventurous than ours . . . )

After devouring a mountain of pancakes we wandered down to the reservoir where the kayak awaited. While the kids pretended not to wade, Tricia schemed ways to get us all out on the water at the same time. Deciding we preferred not to rent any additional kayaks, we took a more creative route, though which short lived and somewhat inclusive was loads of fun.

After ditching a few passengers, Tricia, Julia, and I took off into the middle of the lake. How amazing to sit entirely surrounded by such an array of gorgeous color. As much as I appreciate the foliage nearer the coast, nothing rivals the leaves in Vermont.

Our next excursion took us to Shelburne Pond for the second research trip – AKA treasure hunt. This stop became so popular even the initially dubious participants had to admit it was a blast. After a brief orientation from Chad, the kids were off and had found all ten sensors before I could blink an eye. Maybe that had something to do with the next stop on our agenda . . .

You simply can’t stay in Waterbury, Vermont without visiting the Ben & Jerry’s factory. Here our enthusiastic guide shared the origins of the company, walked us through the ice-cream making process, and shared some benefits of employment with Ben & Jerry’s. Apparently, each employee gets three pints of ice cream for every day they work, something they frequently leverage as a bartering tool. And – not sure if this is fact or fiction – the quality control guys each eat a pint and a half of ice cream every day (they get free gym memberships and cholesterol screenings).

No trip to Ben & Jerry’s is complete without a visit to the scoop shop. I couldn’t turn down a taste of my all-time favorite, New York Super Fudge Chunk. With full and happy tummies, after a visit to the flavor graveyard we headed back to the campground.

We had remarked many times how thankful we were to have enjoyed two dry camping trips together this summer. It must have been time to shake things up a bit – by the time we pulled into our campsites the rain was really coming down. Over the next hour and a half, while Tricia and Brad struggled to erect their canopy (yes, it took almost that long) we discovered that the firewood which we’d taken such pains to keep dry was incapable of burning. Instead of our traditional weenie roast we settled for leftovers from our picnic lunch, and instead of hours of grownup time reminiscing around the fire we played a family game of Fortunately/Unfortunately (which both Gavin and Arwen loved). By 8:00 we were all in bed, hoping against the sounds of the torrential downpour to make it through the night dry.

Sometime in the night I awoke to the flashing of lights and the blaring of a car horn. Brad had been kind enough to roll over on his keys, getting me just alert enough for a trip to the bathroom. I needed that. On our way out the next morning we stopped at the end of the reservoir to take in the majesty of the colors under a sapphire sky.

Heading south we took the scenic route through a string of sleepy towns, each with its white steepled church. It was all Tricia and I could do to pass farmers markets, yard sales, and farm stands without stopping. By the time we reached the birthplace of the prophet Joseph Smith near Sharon, Vermont we were ready to get out and eat. After our cold evening and morning we weren’t anxious to picnic on the lawn and were thrilled when the directors invited us to lay our spread on the immense dining room table in their home. When I worried about the mess we might leave on their tablecloth, the woman remarked, pulling out a photo of her 42 children and grandchildren, “as if I don’t know what a mess is.”

After yet another loaves and fishes experience (provisions intended for one lunch having sustained us through three meals), the kids enjoyed a final frolic around the monument before we parted ways. Our family’s final stop was in Hanover, New Hampshire near Dartmouth College where we completed our perfect record, finding in all thirty of thirty sensors.

I asked Chad if he felt at all nostalgic at the close of this stage of this research project. I shouldn't have been surprised to find no sentiment there. Thankfully, we’re hooked enough on Vermont to make it back in future years without the draw of sensor trekking.

More photos of our trip
here.

Tuesday, October 5, 2010

Conference Messages

The exciting news of the week is that it’s not been all that exciting. We’ve been glad to continue settling into our fall routine. Though we are sometimes confused about the season, going from intensely humid warmth to almost-crisp autumn air within a couple of days.

This week, as we do every couple of months, we invited the missionaries from our church to join us for dinner. I’m afraid the uneventful state of things at our house didn’t extend to them – their car had just been rear-ended on the way to our place. We helped settle things down for them with our cider-sautéed chicken and British flapjacks.

One afternoon we managed to finish up with homework in time to visit Nixon, a golden retriever in training to become a guide dog. The last time Arwen had seen the now 6-month-old pup he was tiny. Not now! Our friend Val worked with him on appropriate behavior with strangers as Gavin and Arwen delightedly stroked his soft, ruddy fur.

Friday night was our inaugural family pizza party of the season. We picked up a Big Y party pizza (can we say humongous?) and settled down with some root beer in front of Walt Disney’s Robin Hood. What a hit – clever disguises, crafty deception, and an archery tournament. The kids ran up the stairs in fright only a couple of times. And Chad was in his element – I hadn’t realized what a fan of the movie he was until I saw how much of it he could quote.

Yesterday Gavin came home from school with an envelope containing an invitation to participate in an after-school program for “proficient third grade mathematicians”. With Chad’s and my mutual love for math, we’re excited to see Gavin taking off in this direction.

Okay, so I guess there was something exciting about this week. It was the weekend of the semi-annual worldwide conference of our church which is broadcast online. Over Saturday and Sunday we watched four two-hour sessions together. At least mostly together – we manage to get Gavin and Arwen to take in a couple of talks before Legos get the better of them. Saturday Kim, Sarah, and Claudia joined us for a cinnamon roll brunch during the first session, then hung out much of the rest of the day. It was great having them with us.

The conference was a source of inspiration for us as usual, centering on themes such as gratitude, freedom of choice, the role of modern prophets, and the wise use of technology. We were particularly excited at the announcement that a new temple will be built just an hour away in Hartford.

Here are some of my favorite Conference quotes:
  • What we want our children to know five years from now is what we need to be talking with them about today – Rosemary M. Wixom
  • All true work is sacred – Thomas Carlisle
  • Your self-worth doesn’t depend on the length of your to-do list – Dieter F. Uchtdorf
  • Simplicity is the ultimate sophistication – Leonardo da Vinci
  • We become what we want to be by being what we want to become every day – Richard G. Scott
  • What the world needs is courageous parenting – Larry R. Lawrence
  • Minimize regrets by expressing love and gratitude now – Thomas S. Monson

We’ll spend the next six months trying to internalize all this good stuff!

Monday, October 4, 2010

Away in the UK: Haworth

Despite my late-night navigational planning, I couldn’t resist revamping my schedule once on the road. That was particularly true in Haworth. Once we had decided to make this trip, I set out looking for interesting places to visit. The hometown of the Brontës beckoned, though I’d only read Charlotte's Jane Eyre within the last year and knew virtually nothing about the author's remarkable yet tragic family. I geared up for the trip with a read of Emily's Wuthering Heights. Despite a shortage of sympathetic characters and a lack of cheerful elements in the plot, I found myself feeling compelled to read to the end. I checked out a few tomes on the Brontës themselves and at the last minute took only the entertaining-looking The Secret Diaries of Charlotte Brontë.


After an hour’s drive with minimal roundabout complications, I found myself standing in front of the historic Brontë parsonage in Haworth. A simple house, but filled with relics from the lives of each of the family members: siblings Charlotte, Branwell, Emily, and Anne, together with their widowed father Patrick. This was decidedly one of the best museums I have ever visited – just the right amount and type of documentation, countless authentic artifacts, even activities for children, and impeccably maintained. (If you'd like the experience without forking out for the plane ticket, you can read about each room here and take a virtual walkthrough here.) I wandered through at my leisure, trying to imagine the three sister authoresses navigating life with an alcoholic brother and an unconventional cleric father. How remarkable to look at the very dining room table the sisters paced around while discussing the characters and plot lines of their respective novels. I was overcome by the uniqueness of their experience and the amazing opportunity they shared as published female novelists in the mid-nineteenth century, together with the limitations of living in a tiny village where none but their family could boast more than a village education.


Being on my own, I took my time and read every word in each exhibit. After leaving the parsonage I peeked into the church built on the site of the one in which Patrick Brontë preached and Charlotte’s eventual husband, Arthur Bell Nichols served as curate. In the village tiny shops are still tucked in among the cobblestones, the stocks forming a quiet reminder of times long past. The Black Bull pub (source of Branwell’s ale) and the apothecary shop (where he procured his opium) have been restored, the latter now sporting all kinds of good-smelling and -tasting treats.


I had intended to move on at this point in my day, but one of the famous walks of the Brontë sisters beckoned. I left the car behind and ventured three miles out on the moors, chatting with sheep and admiring clumps of heather along the way. The halfway point on the path featured the waterfall and bridge at which Arthur Nichols proposed to Charlotte; at the end was Top Withins, a farmhouse said to have inspired Wuthering Heights. Despite warnings of rain, the skies stayed dry for me and I thoroughly enjoyed my walk across the hilly, wild landscape.


It wasn’t until shortly before landing at JFK that I finished The Secret Diaries (having wept buckets over its later chapters). In its pages I discovered that Charlotte was Jane Eyre, and her real-life character elicited my sympathies even more than the subject of her famous novel had. Having walked her home and favorite haunts, I sensed profoundly the depth of her personal struggles and triumphs. Of all our time in the UK, my time in Haworth proved to be the most personal and thought provoking.