ItzaLoveThing

Not quite sure where I belong anymore, or if I even do, and not sure how I feel about that!

1. Husbands, Love your Wives Well! Your children are noticing how you treat her. You are teaching your Sons how they should treat Women and you are teaching your Daughters what they should expect from Men.

2. Someone once said, “Being in love means never having to say you’re sorry.” Whoever said that is probably divorced! The Truth is that husbands and wives must be quick to forgive and to humbly seek forgiveness from each other. “I Love You,” “I’m Sorry” & “I forgive you.” should be said often.

3. Be VERY careful about having friends of the opposite sex. If you have a “friend” that you tell things to that you don’t tell your spouse, then you are creating toxic situation. Affairs don’t start in the bedroom; they start with conversations, emails, texts and communication that lead down a dangerous path. Protect your Marriage!

4. Don’t be jealous of somebody else’s Marriage; invest in your own! If the Grass looks Greener on the other side, you need to stay home and water your own grass.

5. Don’t complain about your Spouse’s flaws…they are the very reasons why he/she didn’t find a spouse better than you!

6. Husbands and Wives must love each other regardless of their imperfections. Loving your spouse does’t mean that you approve of everything that they do, but it does mean that your commitment to them is bigger than all of their flaws.

7. ”If you want to travel fast, go alone, but if you want to travel far, go together.” -African Proverb

8. A marriage only works when both partners are fully committed. When only one spouse is doing all the work, it’s like trying to swim with one arm tied behind your back…you only go in circles. Work together. Serve each other. Always Love each other.

9. If your Spouse breaks their Vows, give them your Forgiveness instantly, but give your Trust Slowly. The first part is called “Grace” and the second part is called “Common Sense.”

10. Don’t try to fix your spouse or change your spouse; just Love them and let God take care of the rest!

11. Husbands and Wives must love and accept each other unconditionally…“Therefore, accept each other just as Christ has accepted you so that God will be given glory.” Romans 15:7

12. Hey Husbands, if you want to improve things in the Bedroom, start by serving your wife in other rooms of the house. Something as practical as doing the dishes or folding laundry could end up being good foreplay!

13. Don’t build your Marriage on your feelings which will constantly be changing. Build your Marriage on your Faith in God and your undying Commitment to each other and your feelings will usually catch up.

14. When you make your marriage vows on your Wedding Day, you didn’t use words like “Maybe” or “Unless”. Marriage never works if we’re thinking of an Exit Strategy. “Til Death do us Part” is the best and only way.

15. If you’re willing to leave your spouse for another person, in terms of your Character, it’s not much different than taking your children to an orphanage and trading them in for other kids whom you find more attractive or polite than your own kids.

16. Don’t focus on improving your Marriage…Focus on improving Yourself, serving your Spouse and growing daily in your relationship with God and your marriage will start improving on its own!

17. Married Couples often say things were more fun “back when they were dating.” Don’t stop dating your spouse just because you’re married! Bring the fun back and make “Date Night” a priority!

18. Your words have the power to build up our spouse or to tear them down; to bring out the best in them or the worst in them. Choose to be their biggest Encourager. Choose to forgive and seek forgiveness from them. Choose to speak words of Life and to build your marriage.

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ARE YOU WITH THE RIGHT PARTNER? During a seminar, a woman asked," How do I know if I am with the right person?" The author then noticed that there was a large man sitting next to her so he said, "It depends. Is that your partner?" In all seriousness, she answered "How do you know?" Let me answer this question because the chances are good that it's weighing on your mind replied the author. Here's the answer. Every relationship has a cycle… In the beginning; you fall in love with your partner. You anticipate their calls, want their touch, and like their idiosyncrasies. Falling in love wasn't hard. In fact, it was a completely natural and spontaneous experience. You didn't have to DO anything. That's why it's called "falling" in love. People in love sometimes say, "I was swept of my feet."Picture the expression. It implies that you were just standing there; doing nothing, and then something happened TO YOU. Falling in love is a passive and spontaneous experience. But after a few months or years of being together, the euphoria of love fades. It's a natural cycle of EVERY relationship. Slowly but surely, phone calls become a bother (if they come at all), touch is not always welcome (when it happens), and your spouse's idiosyncrasies, instead of being cute, drive you nuts. The symptoms of this stage vary with every relationship; you will notice a dramatic difference between the initial stage when you were in love and a much duller or even angry subsequent stage. At this point, you and/or your partner might start asking, "Am I with the right person?" And as you reflect on the euphoria of the love you once had, you may begin to desire that experience with someone else. This is when relationships breakdown. The key to succeeding in a relationship is not finding the right person; it's learning to love the person you found. People blame their partners for their unhappiness and look outside for fulfillment. Extramarital fulfillment comes in all shapes and sizes. Infidelity is the most common. But sometimes people turn to work, a hobby, friendship, excessive TV, or abusive substances. But the answer to this dilemma does NOT lie outside your relationship. It lies within it. I'm not saying that you couldn't fall in love with someone else. You could. And TEMPORARILY you'd feel better. But you'd be in the same situation a few years later. Because (listen carefully to this): The key to succeeding in a Relationship is not finding the right person; it's learning to love the Person you found. SUSTAINING love is not a passive or spontaneous experience. You have to work on it day in and day out. It takes time, effort, and energy. And most importantly, it demands WISDOM. You have to know WHAT TO DO to make it work. Make no mistake about it. Love is NOT a mystery. There are specific things you can do (with or without your partner), Just as there are physical laws Of the universe (such as gravity), there are also laws for relationships. If you know how to apply these laws, the results are predictable. Love is therefore a "decision". Not just a feeling. Remember this always: God determines who walks into your life. It is up to you to decide who you let walk away, who you let stay, and who you refuse to let GO! ♥

As I think about the ups and downs that come with life I realize that it is all a cycle... in every relationship you have your ups and your downs without  a doubt.  You have those that you will hurt unintentionally, and those that no matter what you do you can never please even if you tried.  At the end of the day you have to be happy with yourself and the decisions you make, and as long as you know that you are not being malicious or intentionally hurting someone that is all you can do.  At times I feel like every move is watched (thanks to social networking), and scrutinized in the wrong way.  Some things are not what they appear, regardless of how they appear.  unless you REALLY know what is going on or take a second to ask one can come up with MANY speculations of what they think may be.  The speculations then only become fuel that add to the fire and some times causing more pain and frustration at times...so who's best interest is had in moments like that?  It is easy to add ones opinion to what they do not know... but I challenge us all (including myself to step back and before adding fuel to someones fire) step back and don't say anything...if you are trying to be a friend at most listen.  Let's not judge one another's actions, let's lift each other up.  Let's ask questions, and give honest answers, and accept the honest answers for what they really are instead of trying to dig deeper.  In the end our friendships should not be measured by how many times things have been misunderstood but rather by all the times that whole heartedly one has been there for another, and how regardless of what they know they can pick up the phone at any time and the other person will be there with out a doubt.  In any relationship it takes effort form both parties in order to keep it lasting and on going.  One can never be selfish enough to not even take a second to say oh btw how was your morning, or your weekend.  Treat others the way you want to be treated.  

I feel it deep down...finally getting back to where it all began

Thankful that when I go to sleep and wake up it will be a new day!!!! Letting go of what once was is never easy, but sometimes is out of our control....Thankful for what once was, not sure I would have made it out of my darkest times, or even loved again if it wasn't for those moments...I have come to realize I have held this person so dear to me because they were there through my most vulnerabalist (yes I made that word up) times, they knew my silence was nothing wrong, they knew my grieving was something I had to go through and when I was done I was going to be ok.  They walked next to me every step of the way, sometimes even paving the way for me, showing me there is a light at the end of the tunnel....They taught me it was ok to love again and for the longest time saw us through some of our hardest moments but believe in us from day one... and now as I type this holding back my tears i have realized another piece of me has died.... I trusted, I was vulnerable, I was loyal, honest etc...but at the end of the day I guess I just thought more of the friendship then they did.  Never in a million years would I have thought it would be like this...but it is out of my control...I am at a age that I do not want to wonder what is going on, and honesty is key...but I must remember that when we ask for honesty we must be willing to accept the truth...I will accept it, life does go on...that has been proven to me time and time again........Every season must come to a end!