Mosteller Miracle

Ilia wants to send his Friend Toma Kola h is MP3 player so we are looking for an Ukrainian adapter  We talked about sending  money to buy one but would rather pay someone here and then send  so Toma would have it for sure.

It was so wonderful to see all you amazing people that we are on this journey with last night ! I am personally really struggle with being the parent I want to be with these children but I do feel Heavenly father is try to help me with some tools  and I want to list some that I am finding helpful!

 Of course first and foremost is the scripture and pray ( I will never forget the day I reread again how he will " with the temptations also make a was to escape , that ye may able to bear it"

Transforming the Difficult Child: The Nurtured Heart Approach
Howard Glasser; Jennifer Easley 
A note with this book with as many kids as we all have the point system did not work well time wise but the positive theory was VERY helpful.
 
If you need help with being firm The total transformation CDs are helpful
( I could sell you mine cheap)

 Heather T. Forbes' Bestselling Book, Beyond Consequences, Logic & Control, For those of us who need help with RAD kids

Sometimes some of these ideal seem opposite but for me personally I  need a portion of each!

I also mention the BYU counseling clinic they are not equipped to deal with many of the kids themselves but many time we as parents or families need help coping and the are so reasonable $15 a visit

I have also found ways of dealing with our inner demons,  past fear and beliefs that get in the way our having true faith and hope with our families and parenting.

 I am thankful for the support of so many of you  and your word of wisdom and hope!

The last thing I want to say is something I say to my builder when he asking asking why we were going the the fire, death, stolen cars, building a house and adoption These word came out my mouth ( If any one know if it is a quote I should credited someone for) or if the Lord actually inspired me I said " THE GREATER THE DREAM THE GREATER THE OPPOSITION)

My prayer for us all is for HOPE!
Love Debbie

For those of you who remember Yuri /Yura Vasuk , he was Baptized last Sat in Kiev. He thanks all " the good examples" that have been apart of his life. Of all the people I meet in Ukraine he was the kindest and most honest so I am excited to see this blessing in his life!

Daniel will be baptized Sat  29 at 4pm Nephi North stake center 1125 N 400 E please join us if you can!!

I am sitting in front of the computer copying and looking up  receipts as the IRS is requiring  this  of us. Anybody having the same Joy?

We have come to Phoenix AZ for the oldest grandchild HS graduation. the first 24 hour have been pretty wonderful. Of course there are less boundaries to push against so life is nice for the time being...Yea! We all need it!

I do see a couple of mom blog post adoption regularly. but must of us do not. I understand now why we do not! We are running around like crazy women and honestly barring Dear Stephanie we do not really want to record all the heart ache. Though someday we will actually laugh about the day the child was expelled form school for running around on the roof and worse of all not coming down when his teacher or even the Principal ask. . Or the fact some week David or I are at the school to sit through a day with a misbehaving child. One mom was horrified when I admitting I am not forcing him to brush his teeth or bath every day or even eat breakfast. We are concentrating on respect for other especially teachers and Principals. respecting other property  and no hurting others. We are making great improvement in respecting  others'   things  (especially stores) .  We as parents are making great strides to give praise for all the the good (or some days finding a couple good things to praise! Yes we are grateful if things go well 60 to 70 percent of the time! We pray he is learning to trust. We are happy the days he will actually look us in the eyes; happy when he talks in English to us and happy when he spontaneity give affection!