
I was listening to BH in the car on Sunday morning. They were talking about happines and how to measure and achieve it. I didn't hear it all, so to cut a long story short thay said you shoudl think of 3 positive things each day that have happened to you, to keep your outlook positive and make you feel grateful. We all tend to just complain about things that have not been as we have hoped and we should be doign the opposite.
Right. What were my three things yesterday?
1. At least I have a house with food to eat and tea to drink.
Yes, well I would expect these things anyway, so I won't count them. They'ree too obvious. Carry on like that and I will have hundreds of positive things each day and will be judged too happy, which I am not.So what then? The sun shone.
Then the sun went in and it rained so that was knocked on the head.

Still on 1. A lot of birds followed me when I went to the ponies - 2 robins, 3 blue tits, a great tit, a male and female chaffinch, a something else and 2 stonechats. That did feel quite special so that can be item 1.

2. The sun came back out and stayed out. There's 2.

3.I went riding and had a nice time. Yes, well I often go riding and enjoy it so is it special enough or is a "given"? No way! That would be an attitude far too ungracious to be expressed! That is my no.3.
I will have to keep this up. Every day, I moan, moan, moan about my work, my boss, my colleagues, my clients etc etc .... I might easily turn into a version of my late aunt N, who just picked fault with everything and if she wasn't complaining we were all worried as to what was wrong with her!
The person on the radio said transient, material things like winning money or being given a nice bottle of wine won't give you lasting happiness once you have, say, drunk the wine. Well, I don't know. You can enjoy it all evening and be grateful to the person who gave you it. It could be one of your three things for that day - that someone was kind and generous to you and you enjoyed the wine.
He said you feel much better if you give. If you donate money to Oxfam one day, you feel better for it. Well, I can't say I do. I know I've done a good thing but the feeling lasts no more than a few minutes and if I did start to feel good for longer I would be warning myself against becoming smug and self-righteous!
It's no good starting the three things for today. I'm back at work, it's cold and my boss has just given me something to do that I know nothing about. Hmph. Back to the moaning and misery then.
The face and the rider were self portraits. The robin I photographed at Teesdale High Force but the little so-and-so turned his side to me at last minute. It was nearly a perfect full frontal.
This was meant to be posted on Monday but I forgot.