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Friday, May 4, 2018

To plan or not to plan, it doesn't matter

Someone lamented no one was free to celebrate his birthday with him even though he has been doing the same for them. This is quite a tricky situation to defuse, so I chose not to comment too much to him and just listened.

I've been through the same emotional turmoil before as well. For me, I always try to remember and celebrate those that are close to me and honestly part of me, at that time, wished they would reciprocate it when my birthday comes. When they didn't, I started to overthink and assume that they didn't appreciate my effort and time and just taken me for granted.

That's where I was wrong.

They have never asked me to celebrate or plan for their birthday, in the first place; if I am to do so, it is out of my own volition. So, I shouldn't be expecting them to reciprocate when they have no obligation to do so.

Live and let be.

Love,
me

Monday, April 30, 2018

III year

The third year.

And for fuck's sake(and as expected), he didn't remember the anniversary. He only remember it's his birthday =,= really hopeless punya boyfriend, I purposely made it on his birthday to make him remember better but seems like it's all for naught

Not like it's a big thing for us, anyway.

Just like Shin once said, we are like couple who have been together for years. So, we don't really have that same urge to celebrate and make it big. Got him a gift though, for this year. A practical one at that; a computer chair HAHAHAHAHAHA at least it will be good for his back since he always online till late at his deck on weekdays.

Honestly, I'm happy with him because I can be who I am. I don't have to filter my words, I can curse him and he will return it ten-fold. It's a fun relationship as we don't feel constrained by anything and also because it's an open one. Things have been working out well for 3 years and I don't think we need any improvement in any way.

For many more years to come, bii

Love,
me

Friday, March 2, 2018

28+1

I am now 28+1 years old, one more to go before I'm joining the 30's club. I don't feel old though, maybe because my life has been relatively the same ever since I'm 23yo till now. Nothing much has changed and nothing much will, I suppose.

I am never one to celebrate much for birthday for my own, though I will try to plan for others. Spent the day staying at home playing game and exercising, as usual and went for a gathering with our friends at night for the 8th Day of CNY. He and couple of his friends are Hokkien, so they have to pray to their ancestors on the 8th Day. By the time we went back, it's close to 5AM already. One of the rare occasions I'm home after 4AM not due to clubbing.

Unexpectedly, he gave me something for my birthday, again. Last year, it was a playing card; this year, a Mi band. We never think it's compulsory to get something for each other during Valentine's or birthday; that's why it's always a pleasant surprise to receive something. I didn't give him anything for his birthday last year. For this year, I already had something in my mind and a place to bring him to for dinner.

Let's hope my financial situation doesn't deteriorate too badly till April weeeeeeeeeeeeeeeee

Love always,
me

Tuesday, February 6, 2018

Welcome to the 30's club(not me, luckily)

HAPPY BIRTHDAY MY DEAR BUTCH!

You are now proudly 30, so please behave like one instead of your usual teen behaviour; it's really unbeCUMing of you.

When I got to know you, you were only 24 at that time; time flies really fast. Ever since then, it has been one hell of an adventure. We drifted apart sometimes, we ceased talking every now and then and that's okay. Just like relationship, friendship has its low tide as well. What's matter in the end is that we found each other back. And of all the places, it had to be at Marketplace =.=

Hopefully you enjoyed the simple celebration you had that night at DBKL, and why the heck you didn't get drunk urgghhhh


Love always,
Your other butch