Remember in my first post that said "as long as we have no major car problems we are fine financially"? Well guess what car problems. We are still "fine" financially...thank god for plastic (I know that still needs to be paid off, but it's better than paying cash, or taking it out of savings.)
About 8 months ago I kept hearing a thunk in the back of my car. It was fine until I would get to 65 mph, then...hang on because it was a bumpy, thunking ride. Well we had several different people look at it and shockingly nobody could tell us what the problem was. Tires fine, shocks, struts fine, everything else fine. Ok then why the hell does my car thunk as soon as I hit 65?
As time went on it kept getting worse and worse. Finally I couldn't stand it any longer. On Saturday we took the car to National Tire and Battery. Can we say big problems. Duh, I figured that.
After having the car for the morning they called us and said the following.
*The front right tye rod is shearing (not good)
*The front shocks, springs, and struts are starting to go and will need to be replaced soon.
*The back shocks, springs, and struts are GONE!!! As in there was so little spring it was ripping apart the housing unit (whatever the hell that means) Anyways that was what was causing the thunking.
The grand total for everything that needed to be done are you ready?.....$1,400.00!!!
Ya, let me go and pull that off of my money tree in the back yard. Geesh o Man, all I could do was laugh when my husband got off the phone with them.
What we decided to do was get the tye rod, and everything replaced in the back fixed first. They told us those were safety issues. So those were fixed yesterday. We paid $772.oo for that all to be replaced.
They told us that the front stuff was wearing and needed to be replaced, but it was not necessary to do it at this moment, just within the next few months. Yippie!!! Note the sarcasm in my writing!
The only "good" note to all of this is that 15 months ago we were in a car accident (not our fault) When our car was fixed they supposedly put on "high quality used parts" when replacing the damage. Well come to find out some of what was replaced in the accident was poor quality used parts, and those are some of the things that we needed replaced this weekend. So I will be calling our insurance company and telling them that they fixed our car with extremely shitty parts and see if they will reimburse us for those parts. They should, since they replaced with faulty parts.
Oh boy our good luck continues. Like I said...thank goodness for plastic!
Here is to hoping the next few days will be better than the last few! And on the flip side...at least the thunking noise is gone.
Sunday, June 29, 2008
Thursday, June 26, 2008
Why???
I know I haven't been blogging for very long, and I'm sorry, but this is going to be a pitty me post. I need to get a few things off my chest.
My husband and I have not had a very good week. The two of us are fine, our marriage is great, but life in general is kind of sucking.
See my husband has a very difficult job, and it is all political. (who would have thought college football coaching would be political, man talk about drama) It doesn't necessarily go by how good he is at his job, but instead it goes by who he knows and what they can do for him in order to set up for the future. And when you are just starting out, you don't know many people. In turn he has gotten stuck doing every shitty job ever asked of him. He has worked his ass off for the last 5 years. I'm not just saying that because he is my husband and I love him to death. But he really has worked harder than anyone I know during the last 5 years. He has not only done his job description, but has "filled" in when other people can't do their job. Everyone always gives him the important things to get done. Why you ask? Because everyone knows that when he does something, it will get done right. Anyways I could go on and on. But I think you get the gist of what I'm saying.
All I'm asking for is that my husband gets the opportunity that he so desperately deserves. I want him to wake up in the morning excited about his job, the way he was when he first started out in the profession. I'm sick and tired of him getting screwed out of a job, that he is more than qualified for, because some rich ass kid's daddy made a phone call and got him the job when he hasn't worked hard enough to earn anything. Especially when my husband has put in more than his fair share of grunt and background work. I just want him to be happy.
As far as me. I just want to have a baby. That's all I've ever wanted is to have a family. I've always wanted to be the best wife and mother, that I could be. That was my dream when I was a little girl. I know I (we) have only been trying for 11 cycles, but it is starting to get very frustrating. And more than that I'm starting to wonder more and more everyday, if there is some sort of problem, as to why it hasn't happened for us yet. And that scares the shit right out of me. We have decided that if I don't get pregnant this month, then we will go ahead and get some testing done in July. I talked to my Dr. about this, and he is on board, with taking the next step.
So in a nutshell all I want is for us to be happy. Is that too much to ask for?
We are good people, who have worked really hard and deserve to be happy. I'm not asking for unrealistic trivial objects to make us happy like, gold, diamonds, and furs. I just want us to make enough money to live a "comfortable life", for my husband to wake up happy and love going to work, instead of being miserable day after day, and thinking about giving up his dream because he can't catch a break.
A job that my husband loves and a perfect little baby, so we can start our family, is that too much to ask for in life? Happiness and a family???
Sorry this got so long, but it has been building all week, and I needed to get it off my chest.
My husband and I have not had a very good week. The two of us are fine, our marriage is great, but life in general is kind of sucking.
See my husband has a very difficult job, and it is all political. (who would have thought college football coaching would be political, man talk about drama) It doesn't necessarily go by how good he is at his job, but instead it goes by who he knows and what they can do for him in order to set up for the future. And when you are just starting out, you don't know many people. In turn he has gotten stuck doing every shitty job ever asked of him. He has worked his ass off for the last 5 years. I'm not just saying that because he is my husband and I love him to death. But he really has worked harder than anyone I know during the last 5 years. He has not only done his job description, but has "filled" in when other people can't do their job. Everyone always gives him the important things to get done. Why you ask? Because everyone knows that when he does something, it will get done right. Anyways I could go on and on. But I think you get the gist of what I'm saying.
All I'm asking for is that my husband gets the opportunity that he so desperately deserves. I want him to wake up in the morning excited about his job, the way he was when he first started out in the profession. I'm sick and tired of him getting screwed out of a job, that he is more than qualified for, because some rich ass kid's daddy made a phone call and got him the job when he hasn't worked hard enough to earn anything. Especially when my husband has put in more than his fair share of grunt and background work. I just want him to be happy.
As far as me. I just want to have a baby. That's all I've ever wanted is to have a family. I've always wanted to be the best wife and mother, that I could be. That was my dream when I was a little girl. I know I (we) have only been trying for 11 cycles, but it is starting to get very frustrating. And more than that I'm starting to wonder more and more everyday, if there is some sort of problem, as to why it hasn't happened for us yet. And that scares the shit right out of me. We have decided that if I don't get pregnant this month, then we will go ahead and get some testing done in July. I talked to my Dr. about this, and he is on board, with taking the next step.
So in a nutshell all I want is for us to be happy. Is that too much to ask for?
We are good people, who have worked really hard and deserve to be happy. I'm not asking for unrealistic trivial objects to make us happy like, gold, diamonds, and furs. I just want us to make enough money to live a "comfortable life", for my husband to wake up happy and love going to work, instead of being miserable day after day, and thinking about giving up his dream because he can't catch a break.
A job that my husband loves and a perfect little baby, so we can start our family, is that too much to ask for in life? Happiness and a family???
Sorry this got so long, but it has been building all week, and I needed to get it off my chest.
Sunday, June 22, 2008
My trip to WalMart
Yesterday I went grocery shopping at Wal Mart. It's nice to get everything we need for the week and one store. Downfall to WalMart shopping is completley stupid/dumb ass people. The following is what I heard from a "couple" during my WalMart trip. I swear they were following me around the store. One more aisle and I would have hit them with my cart.
The first spotting of them was in the parking lot. My husband and I were getting out of our car and having a good coversation. Then all of a sudden we heard this god awful women yelling at her kids. I swear to goodness, she had 4 kids all under the age of 3. I think there might have been a set of twins. As she was screaming at her looked like 2 year old she figured, what the hell, I'm already screaming at them, lets blow some nice cigarette smoke in their little faces to. So she continued to yell, I mean scream at her loot of kids while she was smoking.
Once in the store her "husband" put the youngest child into the shopping cart. I would say the baby was about 4 months old. He just layed the baby in the front of the cart. No blanket or anything. The poor baby was just laying there, with the hard metal cart pressed against this neck. My husband knew I was about to get pissed. He looked at me and said, there is nothing you can do about that family so just leave it alone. Ok he is right, but I can't stand it when I see people treat their children that way, especially when there are people out there, who can't have children!
Then...I was in the HPT aisle, stocking up on OPK's for this cycle. When yep, you guessed it "the family" came strolling up along side of me. The mom was still screaming at her kids, the baby was still pressed up against the cart. Are you freaking kidding me? Then the mom stops screaming, turns to her husband and says, and I quote "I can't belive you got me fucking pregnant again, you fucking moron" Nice is all I had to say. I turned around and look at the couple, gave them a completly pissed off look at walked away from them. Wait there is more...
I then went along with the rest of my shopping. A friend of mine, just had a baby, so I wanted to buy her some blankets for her. When you guessed it, in the baby aisle the "family"walks up again. Are you kidding me, stop following me around the dam store!! They were getting formula for the baby or so I thought. See they put the formula in the cart, then decided to take it out. Why you ask, I over heard them say that they didn't have enough money and they would have to wait til the end of the week until they got more money. Then the mom says she would just water down milk for the baby. But get this....there were 2 yes, I said 2 cases of beer in the cart. I almost lost it.
I wanted to scream at these horrible people. Number 1: Learn about your body! 2. Don't have sex, you fucking idiots, you can't take care of the kids you have!!! 3. Put the dam beer back and get your baby the formula he needs!! 4. Don't ever have sex again, you fucking idiots!!!! 5. Stop yelling at your children, and try loving them and talking to them, like people. You will be further ahead.
Ok, that is my rant for the day. But I really do hate, it when I see people who don't take care of or respect their children. I also hate it when I see that these people are also the ones who get pregnant so easily. Especially when there are so many "good" people out there, who CAN take care of a child and can't get pregnant for what ever reason. Sometimes life is unfair.
Alright rant is over, just wanted to share a WalMart experience. I may go to a different grocery store next time.
The first spotting of them was in the parking lot. My husband and I were getting out of our car and having a good coversation. Then all of a sudden we heard this god awful women yelling at her kids. I swear to goodness, she had 4 kids all under the age of 3. I think there might have been a set of twins. As she was screaming at her looked like 2 year old she figured, what the hell, I'm already screaming at them, lets blow some nice cigarette smoke in their little faces to. So she continued to yell, I mean scream at her loot of kids while she was smoking.
Once in the store her "husband" put the youngest child into the shopping cart. I would say the baby was about 4 months old. He just layed the baby in the front of the cart. No blanket or anything. The poor baby was just laying there, with the hard metal cart pressed against this neck. My husband knew I was about to get pissed. He looked at me and said, there is nothing you can do about that family so just leave it alone. Ok he is right, but I can't stand it when I see people treat their children that way, especially when there are people out there, who can't have children!
Then...I was in the HPT aisle, stocking up on OPK's for this cycle. When yep, you guessed it "the family" came strolling up along side of me. The mom was still screaming at her kids, the baby was still pressed up against the cart. Are you freaking kidding me? Then the mom stops screaming, turns to her husband and says, and I quote "I can't belive you got me fucking pregnant again, you fucking moron" Nice is all I had to say. I turned around and look at the couple, gave them a completly pissed off look at walked away from them. Wait there is more...
I then went along with the rest of my shopping. A friend of mine, just had a baby, so I wanted to buy her some blankets for her. When you guessed it, in the baby aisle the "family"walks up again. Are you kidding me, stop following me around the dam store!! They were getting formula for the baby or so I thought. See they put the formula in the cart, then decided to take it out. Why you ask, I over heard them say that they didn't have enough money and they would have to wait til the end of the week until they got more money. Then the mom says she would just water down milk for the baby. But get this....there were 2 yes, I said 2 cases of beer in the cart. I almost lost it.
I wanted to scream at these horrible people. Number 1: Learn about your body! 2. Don't have sex, you fucking idiots, you can't take care of the kids you have!!! 3. Put the dam beer back and get your baby the formula he needs!! 4. Don't ever have sex again, you fucking idiots!!!! 5. Stop yelling at your children, and try loving them and talking to them, like people. You will be further ahead.
Ok, that is my rant for the day. But I really do hate, it when I see people who don't take care of or respect their children. I also hate it when I see that these people are also the ones who get pregnant so easily. Especially when there are so many "good" people out there, who CAN take care of a child and can't get pregnant for what ever reason. Sometimes life is unfair.
Alright rant is over, just wanted to share a WalMart experience. I may go to a different grocery store next time.
Saturday, June 21, 2008
Fun Little Game
I was reading thru my list of blogs this evening and came acrossed this fun post on Nancy's Blog: The New Life of Nancy. I thought it would be fun to "copy"her idea (hope you don't mind)
What I've done will be in black:
Bought everyone in the bar a drink
Swam with wild dolphin
Taken a Ferrari for a test drive
Been inside a Pyramid
Held a tarantula
Taken a candle lit bath
Said I love you and meant it
Hugged a Tree
Bungee jumped
Visited Paris
Watched a lightening storm at sea
Stayed up all night long and saw the sun rise
Seen the Northern Lights
Gone to a huge sports game
Walked the stairs to the top of the Leaning Tower of Pisa
Grown and eaten your own vegetables
Touched an iceberg
Slept under the stars
Changed a baby’s diaper
Taken a drip in a hot air balloon
Watched a meteor shower
Gotten drunk on champagne
Given more than you can afford to charity
Looked up at the night sky through a telescope
Had an uncontrollable giggling fit at the worst possible moment
Had a food fight
Bet on a winning horse
Asked out a stranger
Had a snowball fight
Screamed as loudly as you possibly can
Held a lamb
Seen a total eclipse
Ridden a rollercoaster
Hit a home run
Danced like a fool, not caring who watched
Adopted an accent for an entire day
Actually felt happy about your life, even for a moment
Had two hard drives for your computer
Visited all 50 states
Taken care of someone who was too drunk
Had amazing Friends
Danced with a Stranger in a foreign country
Watched wild whales
Stolen a sign
Hitchhiked in Europe
Taken a road-trip
Gone rock climbing
Midnight walk on the beach
Gone sky diving
Visited Ireland
Been heartbroken longer than you were in love
In a restaurant sat at a stranger’s table and ate with them
Visited Japan
Milked a cow
Alphabetized your CDs
Pretended to be a superhero
Sung karaoke
Lounged around in bed all day
Posed nude in front of strangers
Gone scuba diving
Kissed in the rain
Played in the mud
Played in the rain
Gone to a drive-in theater
Visited the Great Wall of China
Started a business
Fallen in love and not had your heart broken
Toured ancient sites
Taken a martial arts class
Played a computer game for more than 6 hours straight
Gotten married
Been in a movie
Crashed a party
Gotten divorced
Gone without food for 5 days
Made cookies from scratch
Won first prize in a costume contest
Ridden a gondola in Venice
Gotten a tattoo
Rafted the Snake River
Been on television news program as an “expert”
Got flowers for no reason
Performed on a stage
Been to Las Vegas
Recorded Music
Eaten shark
Had a one-night stand
Gone to Thailand
Bought a house
Been in a combat zone
Buried one/both of your parents
Been on a cruise ship
Spoken more than one language fluently
Performed in Rocky Horror
Raised children
Followed your favorite band/singer on tour
Taken an exotic bicycle tour in a foreign country
Picked up and moved to another city
Walked on the Golden Gate Bridge
Sang loudly in the car and didn’t stop when you knew someone was looking
Had plastic surgery
Survived an accident that you shouldn’t have
Wrote articles for a large publication
Lost over 100 lbs
Held someone while they were having a flashback
Piloted an airplane
Petted a stingray
Broken someone’s heart
Helped an animal give birth
Won money on a TV game show
Broken a bone
Gone on an African safari
Had a body part below the neck pierced
Fired a rifle, shotgun or pistol
Eaten mushrooms gathered in the wild
Ridden a horse
Had major surgery
Had a snake as a pet
Hiked to the bottom of the Grand Canyon
Slept for more than 30 hours over 48 consecutive hours
Visited more foreign countries than US States
Visited all 7 continents
Taken a canoe trip that lasted more than 2 days
Eaten Kangaroo meat
Eaten sushi
Had your picture in the paper
Changed someone’s mind about something you care deeply about
Gone back to school
Parasailed
Petted a cockroach
Eaten fried green tomatoes
Read the Illiad
Selected one important author who you missed school to read
Killed and prepared an animal for eating
Skipped all of your school reunions
Communicated with someone without sharing a common language
Been elected to public office
Written your own computer language
Thought to yourself that you’re living your dream
Had to put someone you love in hospice care
Build your own PC from parts
Sold your own artwork to someone that didn’t know it was yours
Had a booth in a street fair
Dyed your hair
Been a DJ
Shaved your head
Caused a car accident
Saved someone’s life
See, I told you I lead a boring life. But what the hell, thought it would be fun to do anyways.
What I've done will be in black:
Bought everyone in the bar a drink
Swam with wild dolphin
Taken a Ferrari for a test drive
Been inside a Pyramid
Held a tarantula
Taken a candle lit bath
Said I love you and meant it
Hugged a Tree
Bungee jumped
Visited Paris
Watched a lightening storm at sea
Stayed up all night long and saw the sun rise
Seen the Northern Lights
Gone to a huge sports game
Walked the stairs to the top of the Leaning Tower of Pisa
Grown and eaten your own vegetables
Touched an iceberg
Slept under the stars
Changed a baby’s diaper
Taken a drip in a hot air balloon
Watched a meteor shower
Gotten drunk on champagne
Given more than you can afford to charity
Looked up at the night sky through a telescope
Had an uncontrollable giggling fit at the worst possible moment
Had a food fight
Bet on a winning horse
Asked out a stranger
Had a snowball fight
Screamed as loudly as you possibly can
Held a lamb
Seen a total eclipse
Ridden a rollercoaster
Hit a home run
Danced like a fool, not caring who watched
Adopted an accent for an entire day
Actually felt happy about your life, even for a moment
Had two hard drives for your computer
Visited all 50 states
Taken care of someone who was too drunk
Had amazing Friends
Danced with a Stranger in a foreign country
Watched wild whales
Stolen a sign
Hitchhiked in Europe
Taken a road-trip
Gone rock climbing
Midnight walk on the beach
Gone sky diving
Visited Ireland
Been heartbroken longer than you were in love
In a restaurant sat at a stranger’s table and ate with them
Visited Japan
Milked a cow
Alphabetized your CDs
Pretended to be a superhero
Sung karaoke
Lounged around in bed all day
Posed nude in front of strangers
Gone scuba diving
Kissed in the rain
Played in the mud
Played in the rain
Gone to a drive-in theater
Visited the Great Wall of China
Started a business
Fallen in love and not had your heart broken
Toured ancient sites
Taken a martial arts class
Played a computer game for more than 6 hours straight
Gotten married
Been in a movie
Crashed a party
Gotten divorced
Gone without food for 5 days
Made cookies from scratch
Won first prize in a costume contest
Ridden a gondola in Venice
Gotten a tattoo
Rafted the Snake River
Been on television news program as an “expert”
Got flowers for no reason
Performed on a stage
Been to Las Vegas
Recorded Music
Eaten shark
Had a one-night stand
Gone to Thailand
Bought a house
Been in a combat zone
Buried one/both of your parents
Been on a cruise ship
Spoken more than one language fluently
Performed in Rocky Horror
Raised children
Followed your favorite band/singer on tour
Taken an exotic bicycle tour in a foreign country
Picked up and moved to another city
Walked on the Golden Gate Bridge
Sang loudly in the car and didn’t stop when you knew someone was looking
Had plastic surgery
Survived an accident that you shouldn’t have
Wrote articles for a large publication
Lost over 100 lbs
Held someone while they were having a flashback
Piloted an airplane
Petted a stingray
Broken someone’s heart
Helped an animal give birth
Won money on a TV game show
Broken a bone
Gone on an African safari
Had a body part below the neck pierced
Fired a rifle, shotgun or pistol
Eaten mushrooms gathered in the wild
Ridden a horse
Had major surgery
Had a snake as a pet
Hiked to the bottom of the Grand Canyon
Slept for more than 30 hours over 48 consecutive hours
Visited more foreign countries than US States
Visited all 7 continents
Taken a canoe trip that lasted more than 2 days
Eaten Kangaroo meat
Eaten sushi
Had your picture in the paper
Changed someone’s mind about something you care deeply about
Gone back to school
Parasailed
Petted a cockroach
Eaten fried green tomatoes
Read the Illiad
Selected one important author who you missed school to read
Killed and prepared an animal for eating
Skipped all of your school reunions
Communicated with someone without sharing a common language
Been elected to public office
Written your own computer language
Thought to yourself that you’re living your dream
Had to put someone you love in hospice care
Build your own PC from parts
Sold your own artwork to someone that didn’t know it was yours
Had a booth in a street fair
Dyed your hair
Been a DJ
Shaved your head
Caused a car accident
Saved someone’s life
See, I told you I lead a boring life. But what the hell, thought it would be fun to do anyways.
Thursday, June 19, 2008
Good Grief...
This morning when I left for work at 7:40, gas was only $3.99. Then when I went out on my lunch break gas was still only $3.99. Then in a mere 3 hours later it jumped to $4.10/gallon of gas! Good grief! This is so ridiculus!!
I read an article on CNN that said that if a person is making minimage wage at 40 hours a week, then one whole day of their pay will go to filling up their car with gas. What a discouraging thought!
My husband and I are leaving for vacation on July 3, and will be back on July 13. We have a 5 hour drive to our first destination our parents house, then a 3 hour drive to my Grandma's house, a 3 hour drive back to my parents house, and then another 5 hour drive back to our house in Ohio. We will be going home to Michigan to visit family. I figure we will probably spend close to $300.00 in gas!!!!! OMG, I can't believe that.
My Grandma lives on the lake in a resort town, can we say NO fun shopping because of the dam gas money we will be using instead. It's a good thing I don't really need many new clothes. (like that has ever stopped me before!) It's also a good thing we will be staying with family, so there will be no need to buy "extra" food or pay for a hotel.
Man what is a working family of two to do?! We are going to try and have fun despite the extremely high amount of money we will be spending on gas.
I read an article on CNN that said that if a person is making minimage wage at 40 hours a week, then one whole day of their pay will go to filling up their car with gas. What a discouraging thought!
My husband and I are leaving for vacation on July 3, and will be back on July 13. We have a 5 hour drive to our first destination our parents house, then a 3 hour drive to my Grandma's house, a 3 hour drive back to my parents house, and then another 5 hour drive back to our house in Ohio. We will be going home to Michigan to visit family. I figure we will probably spend close to $300.00 in gas!!!!! OMG, I can't believe that.
My Grandma lives on the lake in a resort town, can we say NO fun shopping because of the dam gas money we will be using instead. It's a good thing I don't really need many new clothes. (like that has ever stopped me before!) It's also a good thing we will be staying with family, so there will be no need to buy "extra" food or pay for a hotel.
Man what is a working family of two to do?! We are going to try and have fun despite the extremely high amount of money we will be spending on gas.
Wednesday, June 18, 2008
Pet Peeves
Alrighty, this is going to be a post about some of my pet peeves. I swear to the goodness, there are some friggin stupid people out there, who have been irritating me beyond belief the last few days. Here they are in no particular order
*People who are in their car either driving or riding and throw their damn cigarette butts out of the car window. Umm hello, they make ash trays in cars now a days. Why throw your dirty nasty smoked butts along the side of the road. You smoke them, you take care of them!
*People who "push" their religion on you because they think their religion is the "right" way to go. Last time I checked this was America, the land of the free. Meaning that you can be any religion you feel comfortable with and what works for you in your life. I was recently told I wouldn't be going to heaven because I don't go to church every Sunday. I personally feel that a person's religion does not dictate whether or not they go to Heaven or Hell. I feel that if you are a good person, who does good things, and a genuine good person who dose not steal, kill, or commit other high crimes then you will go to Heaven. And furthermore, where does someone get off telling me I won't go to Heaven because I don't go to church and because I'm not their religion? How does that make them better than me?
*Blinkers-need I say more, they put them in cars for a reason!
*Wearing black and navy blue together. I don't know why but it bugs the crap out of me.
*Smacking your food, while on at a lunch meeting. You are meeting with people to discuss a work related topic. Please chew with your mouth closed, and swallow before talking. Nobody wants to see you half chewed up food in you mouth while you are talking. And for Gosh's sake, please don't smack your food like a cow.
*Smoking while pregnant. Come on, there are people out there who take perfect care of their self and aren't or can't get pregnant, then you walk into the grocery store and see 3 pregnant women in the parking lot smoking. Way to think about your unborn child. (good grief)
Alright I think that is about it. I hop I didn't offend anyone, that wasn't my intent. Just wanted to list a few pet peeves of mine, that I've noticed an over abundance of the last few days
*People who are in their car either driving or riding and throw their damn cigarette butts out of the car window. Umm hello, they make ash trays in cars now a days. Why throw your dirty nasty smoked butts along the side of the road. You smoke them, you take care of them!
*People who "push" their religion on you because they think their religion is the "right" way to go. Last time I checked this was America, the land of the free. Meaning that you can be any religion you feel comfortable with and what works for you in your life. I was recently told I wouldn't be going to heaven because I don't go to church every Sunday. I personally feel that a person's religion does not dictate whether or not they go to Heaven or Hell. I feel that if you are a good person, who does good things, and a genuine good person who dose not steal, kill, or commit other high crimes then you will go to Heaven. And furthermore, where does someone get off telling me I won't go to Heaven because I don't go to church and because I'm not their religion? How does that make them better than me?
*Blinkers-need I say more, they put them in cars for a reason!
*Wearing black and navy blue together. I don't know why but it bugs the crap out of me.
*Smacking your food, while on at a lunch meeting. You are meeting with people to discuss a work related topic. Please chew with your mouth closed, and swallow before talking. Nobody wants to see you half chewed up food in you mouth while you are talking. And for Gosh's sake, please don't smack your food like a cow.
*Smoking while pregnant. Come on, there are people out there who take perfect care of their self and aren't or can't get pregnant, then you walk into the grocery store and see 3 pregnant women in the parking lot smoking. Way to think about your unborn child. (good grief)
Alright I think that is about it. I hop I didn't offend anyone, that wasn't my intent. Just wanted to list a few pet peeves of mine, that I've noticed an over abundance of the last few days
Monday, June 16, 2008
It's Not As Easy As It Sounds
What you ask?
Well having or should I say trying to have a baby. Who would have thought it would be that hard? My regular Dr. (not my OB/GYN) told me at my physical last July, that I would be pregnant in 3 months. Umm well Doc, that time has gone and passed and in 4 weeks it will be one year from that yearly physical and still no baby.
Now just a little background on our TTC journey so far, just so those of you that don't know me, get where I'm coming from in the upcoming posts.
Well my husband and I decided last year in June that we were ready to start our family. I mean neither of us are getting any younger. So after 7 years of being on the pill I went off in July of 2007, so almost a year ago. I gave my body a month to get adjusted to being off the pill and then in September we decided to go for it. So we tried Sept, Oct., and November without any luck at all. However, I will say that when we first started out, I really didn't know much about TTC and just figured it would happen. I also used those friggin online calendars that tell you when you are ovulating. MISTAKE NUMBER1!! By December I wasn't pregnant, so we knew we were already going to take the months of December-February off. (We didn't want to get pregnant during those months, b/c then there would be a chance my husband would be gone for birth time)
During the "break" I read a great book about TTC and figured a lot of stuff out. I also took this time to educate myself about everything that goes into TTC. What an eye opening experience is all I have to say. It amazes me that people get pregnant on "accident"! There is alot that goes into this process!
Then in March we started trying again, and we are still trying. I'm now on Cycle 11 of TTC. However I'm not really sure that the first 3 months would have been a success due to the lack of right time, this includes the time off as well. Although, we didn't really prevent it from happining either. However since March we have had perfectly timed out cycles, but still waiting for our BFP.
In February I had an appointment with my OB/GYN who specializes in fertility related issues. He said that I was perfectly healthy and that we just needed to have sex more. My husband LOVED his answer!! He also did blood work to make sure I was ovulating. Which I am, based on two months of bloodwork. He also did an internal ultrasound to make sure everything looked good inside. He said it did, just to keep working at it.
The Dr. also said that I could get an HSG test done and that my husband could get a SA, not that he thought there was anything wrong, just that we could if we wanted to. In February, we talked about it and decided we should wait for a little while longer before getting any "testing" done. Simply for the fact, that NOTHING in our life comes easy for us and we figured at that time we had only reallly tried for like 3 months. However, now I wonder if we should just go ahead and get the tests done. It has now been 4 months of perfectly timed out cycles and nothing. But at the same time I'm scared shitless to get the tests done. Why? What if there is a problem with either of us....that's the scariest part. For me that is even scarier than waiting and trying for a year.
We decided in Febuary that we would wait a solid 12 months of trying before we got the tests done. That time will come in October. I really don't know if I can wait that long, even though I'm scared out of my freakin mind to have them done. Fearing what the results could be.
Then there is that other part of me that says why go thru all the testing when it can take a normal healty up to a year before they get lucky, a fact that I've read, and been told my numerouse people, including my OB.
So in a really big nutshell this is my TTC history thus far. I have NOT had any tests done to say we or I am infertle, by any stretch of the imagination. However, I do know what if feels like to have gone thru 8 cycles of BFN's and it SUCKS!
I will update on any exciting or late breaking baby developments as they happen. I will also say that my husband has been my rock and has been GREAT thru this whole process.
I promise in the future my posts will NOT be this long, just wanted to finish filling you all in.
Well having or should I say trying to have a baby. Who would have thought it would be that hard? My regular Dr. (not my OB/GYN) told me at my physical last July, that I would be pregnant in 3 months. Umm well Doc, that time has gone and passed and in 4 weeks it will be one year from that yearly physical and still no baby.
Now just a little background on our TTC journey so far, just so those of you that don't know me, get where I'm coming from in the upcoming posts.
Well my husband and I decided last year in June that we were ready to start our family. I mean neither of us are getting any younger. So after 7 years of being on the pill I went off in July of 2007, so almost a year ago. I gave my body a month to get adjusted to being off the pill and then in September we decided to go for it. So we tried Sept, Oct., and November without any luck at all. However, I will say that when we first started out, I really didn't know much about TTC and just figured it would happen. I also used those friggin online calendars that tell you when you are ovulating. MISTAKE NUMBER1!! By December I wasn't pregnant, so we knew we were already going to take the months of December-February off. (We didn't want to get pregnant during those months, b/c then there would be a chance my husband would be gone for birth time)
During the "break" I read a great book about TTC and figured a lot of stuff out. I also took this time to educate myself about everything that goes into TTC. What an eye opening experience is all I have to say. It amazes me that people get pregnant on "accident"! There is alot that goes into this process!
Then in March we started trying again, and we are still trying. I'm now on Cycle 11 of TTC. However I'm not really sure that the first 3 months would have been a success due to the lack of right time, this includes the time off as well. Although, we didn't really prevent it from happining either. However since March we have had perfectly timed out cycles, but still waiting for our BFP.
In February I had an appointment with my OB/GYN who specializes in fertility related issues. He said that I was perfectly healthy and that we just needed to have sex more. My husband LOVED his answer!! He also did blood work to make sure I was ovulating. Which I am, based on two months of bloodwork. He also did an internal ultrasound to make sure everything looked good inside. He said it did, just to keep working at it.
The Dr. also said that I could get an HSG test done and that my husband could get a SA, not that he thought there was anything wrong, just that we could if we wanted to. In February, we talked about it and decided we should wait for a little while longer before getting any "testing" done. Simply for the fact, that NOTHING in our life comes easy for us and we figured at that time we had only reallly tried for like 3 months. However, now I wonder if we should just go ahead and get the tests done. It has now been 4 months of perfectly timed out cycles and nothing. But at the same time I'm scared shitless to get the tests done. Why? What if there is a problem with either of us....that's the scariest part. For me that is even scarier than waiting and trying for a year.
We decided in Febuary that we would wait a solid 12 months of trying before we got the tests done. That time will come in October. I really don't know if I can wait that long, even though I'm scared out of my freakin mind to have them done. Fearing what the results could be.
Then there is that other part of me that says why go thru all the testing when it can take a normal healty up to a year before they get lucky, a fact that I've read, and been told my numerouse people, including my OB.
So in a really big nutshell this is my TTC history thus far. I have NOT had any tests done to say we or I am infertle, by any stretch of the imagination. However, I do know what if feels like to have gone thru 8 cycles of BFN's and it SUCKS!
I will update on any exciting or late breaking baby developments as they happen. I will also say that my husband has been my rock and has been GREAT thru this whole process.
I promise in the future my posts will NOT be this long, just wanted to finish filling you all in.
Sunday, June 15, 2008
Post Number 1-An Introduction
Well this is it...my first blog and my first post. I figured I "waste" enough of my time reading blogs by other people, that I might as well start one myself. So here it goes, as I said in my introduction, my husband and I lead pretty boring lives, so don't expect anything earth shattering here. This will be about our day to day lives and events that we are going thru. Basically it will be a little of this and a little of that. I hope you all find it interesting and somewhat amusing.
Most of the "drama" in our lives come from my husband's job. See he is a college football coach, who is just starting out in the profession. I will tell you that there is a ton of drama that comes along with his job, and there is new drama almost everyday. He has been in the profession for about 6 years, and has been shit on along the way for most of the time. Don't get me wrong, there have been some good times. But it has mostly been filled with him working his ass off for people, who can't do their job right, and him getting absolutely no credit for it. There has been the occasional "thank you" and "great job". But for the most part, he gets very little lovin' from a majority of the coaches he has worked with. Why you ask does he put up with it and still fight for a full time coaching job, instead of quiting and having a "normal" job. Well, plain and simple football is what he loves to do and he has dreamed of being a college football coach since he was seven years old. So we put up with the shit and the suffering in hopes that one day somebody will realize how awesome he is at his job, and give him the full time coaching job he deserves and has worked his ass off for. So far in the 7 years we have been married we have moved3 times in search of the "perfect job" I will get more into the the life of being married to a college football coah later, thats a post within itself.
I on the other hand have a pretty "normal" job. Currently I'm working full time in a very good childcare center. Some call it a daycare, but I hate that term. I didn't go to college for 4 years to learn the correct way to bring up days. I went to college for 4 years to learn the best way to take care of and bring up children! I have always loved being around children and thought I wanted to teach elementary school, but to be honest I can't stand some off the attitudes that kids have now a days. I'd probably be tempted to pop one of them in the mouth. So I switched majors from elementary ed, to Child Psychology, emphasising in Child Development. Instead of listening to the potty mouth of elementary kids, I get to help little kids, learn to go potty. I also get the warmest hugs about 50 times a day. My profession gets a verry bad rep. Many times early childcare workers are thought of as just "babysitters", please don't ever call me that! I work hard in my classroom, and in my room, I write out lesson plans focussing on what toddlers need to learn, based on their own individual assessments. I could go on and on, about this, but sometimes it makes me a little irritated, that I take care of other people's children all day and get little credit for it. Just because I don't work in an elementary school doesn't mean I can't or don't teach. I have taught hundreds of kids hundreds of things. Enough said about that.
Ok, thats enough about what we do for a living. Anything else you need to knwo. Hmmm let me think. Well all I can tell you is that we are trying to survive in a shitty economy, in a shitty small town with little around it. But all and all, we are doing fine. Don't get me wrong, we could definately use some more money, but in the grand scheme of things, we could be doing a whole lot worse, and we are keeping our heads above the water. (please cars, don't break down)
Oh, yeah. There is one other detail going on in our life. Besides trying to get a better job anywhere in the country for my husband we have also decided to start a family. We are both in our early 30's and decided we probably shouldn't wait much longer. We started trying in September tried until December, took 3 months off and started trying again in March. So far no luck for us in the baby department. We figured it would have happened right away. Should have known with our luck...NOTHING is ever easy for us. So every month we try harder than the month before. Hopefully, things will turn around soon in that area of our life, and we will have a little baby before we know it. I will keep you all updated on that front. Oh, please don't say anything to our family or friends!(yeah, like you know them) Very few people know we are trying and we would like to keep it that way in order to suprise the crap out of them. Everyone still thinks I'm on the pill. Boy will they be suprised if it ever happens!
Alright this is long enough. But I wanted you all to have the gist of our daily life. Hope you all enjoy and stay tuned for new developments on The Tale of Two Coins.
Most of the "drama" in our lives come from my husband's job. See he is a college football coach, who is just starting out in the profession. I will tell you that there is a ton of drama that comes along with his job, and there is new drama almost everyday. He has been in the profession for about 6 years, and has been shit on along the way for most of the time. Don't get me wrong, there have been some good times. But it has mostly been filled with him working his ass off for people, who can't do their job right, and him getting absolutely no credit for it. There has been the occasional "thank you" and "great job". But for the most part, he gets very little lovin' from a majority of the coaches he has worked with. Why you ask does he put up with it and still fight for a full time coaching job, instead of quiting and having a "normal" job. Well, plain and simple football is what he loves to do and he has dreamed of being a college football coach since he was seven years old. So we put up with the shit and the suffering in hopes that one day somebody will realize how awesome he is at his job, and give him the full time coaching job he deserves and has worked his ass off for. So far in the 7 years we have been married we have moved3 times in search of the "perfect job" I will get more into the the life of being married to a college football coah later, thats a post within itself.
I on the other hand have a pretty "normal" job. Currently I'm working full time in a very good childcare center. Some call it a daycare, but I hate that term. I didn't go to college for 4 years to learn the correct way to bring up days. I went to college for 4 years to learn the best way to take care of and bring up children! I have always loved being around children and thought I wanted to teach elementary school, but to be honest I can't stand some off the attitudes that kids have now a days. I'd probably be tempted to pop one of them in the mouth. So I switched majors from elementary ed, to Child Psychology, emphasising in Child Development. Instead of listening to the potty mouth of elementary kids, I get to help little kids, learn to go potty. I also get the warmest hugs about 50 times a day. My profession gets a verry bad rep. Many times early childcare workers are thought of as just "babysitters", please don't ever call me that! I work hard in my classroom, and in my room, I write out lesson plans focussing on what toddlers need to learn, based on their own individual assessments. I could go on and on, about this, but sometimes it makes me a little irritated, that I take care of other people's children all day and get little credit for it. Just because I don't work in an elementary school doesn't mean I can't or don't teach. I have taught hundreds of kids hundreds of things. Enough said about that.
Ok, thats enough about what we do for a living. Anything else you need to knwo. Hmmm let me think. Well all I can tell you is that we are trying to survive in a shitty economy, in a shitty small town with little around it. But all and all, we are doing fine. Don't get me wrong, we could definately use some more money, but in the grand scheme of things, we could be doing a whole lot worse, and we are keeping our heads above the water. (please cars, don't break down)
Oh, yeah. There is one other detail going on in our life. Besides trying to get a better job anywhere in the country for my husband we have also decided to start a family. We are both in our early 30's and decided we probably shouldn't wait much longer. We started trying in September tried until December, took 3 months off and started trying again in March. So far no luck for us in the baby department. We figured it would have happened right away. Should have known with our luck...NOTHING is ever easy for us. So every month we try harder than the month before. Hopefully, things will turn around soon in that area of our life, and we will have a little baby before we know it. I will keep you all updated on that front. Oh, please don't say anything to our family or friends!(yeah, like you know them) Very few people know we are trying and we would like to keep it that way in order to suprise the crap out of them. Everyone still thinks I'm on the pill. Boy will they be suprised if it ever happens!
Alright this is long enough. But I wanted you all to have the gist of our daily life. Hope you all enjoy and stay tuned for new developments on The Tale of Two Coins.
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