Thursday, December 9, 2010

I am not braggin.......but I have to share what I have helped accomplish.

I am a numbers cruncher, a digit geek. Those who know me well, KNOW this is true! I am not bragging about my little factoid or what I have helped to do but I want to share some information with everyone of you.

Well, I have a friend Deanna, and her family is in the process of adopting a child born with Down syndrome from a European country.

These adoptions are NOT cheap. They are costly, shamefully, costly when you see how these children live and are treated. And each and every child waiting to be adopted is literally living on borrowed time.

Ok, back to my numbers fascination. You see Deanna needs to raise around $30,000 for this adoption. Deanna also has 1,406 friends on Facebook. It turns out if every person would donate just $21 she could raise nearly all of that $30,000 and for $21.34 from every friend on Facebook she could raise the full amount!!! Just an extra 21!!!!

This is not coincidence. I don't believe in coincidence. I believe in what I like to to call a "God Nod" or a "God Thing". An extra $21 to bring home a child with an extra 21st chromosome to their FOREVER home. That is pretty cool.

This is Melanie

Grab This!
Have you got an extra $21?? I will be sending mine to Deanna, it won't be easy but it will get done!!

I generally don't have the extra money and tend to donate some of my Longaberger baskets for this sort of thing (and will be doing so for the fundraiser Cathy will be hosting for Melanie and Deanna), but after realizing the 21 connection---I cannot not send the extra 21!!!

AND if you have an extra 21 you can help Deanna too http://reecesrainbow.org/sponsorsader

Thursday, December 2, 2010

The Author

I never knew I would write a masterpiece in my lifetime. However, I have come to that realization. I am writing a masterpiece everyday. The good, the bad, the ugly and the boring. All of it is a masterpiece just the same.

The works by Christie and Jared will look nothing like the works of Christie and Joseph and still those will look nothing like the works of Christie and Jackson. And not one of those works will look like the works of Christie and Shawn.

I am lucky though. There is an even greater masterpiece being written. My masterpiece. Mine. All mine (ah, who am I kidding). The works of God and Christie, is not my masterpiece. It is His. And let me tell ya, there has been some very good, some very bad, some very ugly and some very hum-drum, put you to sleep boring stuff in it--but, MAN, it has been interesting!

In February 1995, my dad and Pam gave me a Bible for Valentine's Day. My dad wrote something very special in that Bible. He told me one of the greatest gifts God can give a man (or woman) is a child but that gift is not fully complete until that child turns back to God and claims Him as their savior.

Daddy, if you are reading this, you can celebrate this Monster gift.

We are all capable of masterpieces written by the divine hand. Have you begun your masterpiece yet?


Wednesday, December 1, 2010

It's December....

And it is snowing here today. I am still sick and feeling an unsettling feeling in my tummy. I was just checking out Babycenter a few moments ago and I just cannot seem to forget about something a friend of mine had written.

Sheva was in New York recently visiting family and, unfortunately, encountered some resistance where Rozie is concerned. My heart goes out to her. I just cannot imagine the hurt she has dealt with over what happened.

I had tried my best to point out the generation gap that would cause such feelings to be brought to light. Still, it doesn't make such thing right in any fashion.

My family has always been so accepting of Joseph--except for once when my father-in-law said that God would heal him (even that I don't think was not acceptance but more fear than anything). Everyone we know loves, Loves, LOVES Joseph. They all think he is the cats meow. Even the older generations just gush over him. My Aunt Max is the same age as the people who were shunning Rozie and, for whatever reason, my Aunt Max looks at Joseph as Joseph. Nothing more. Nothing less.

My family does have experience with disabilities. Patty Jones has been a blessing to the Massey family for as long as she has been alive. I was shown by my family and by my first husband's family (The Goad's) how to LOVE a person with a disability. I was taught how to raise them in their home and LOVE them. I was taught how to show respect to each person, no matter their abilities.

I wish with everything in me I could erase the pain that has marred Sheva's heart. I really do. But I am thankful for my own family being so accepting and I am thankful that she shared with us the battle in her own heart to deal with it and move past it. I pray she is able to do so, swiftly and easily. But, I also pray that in the time those family members are left here on Earth that they will learn to LOVE Rozie, Down syndrome and all.


Tuesday, November 30, 2010

Thankful for doctors

Today we see Dr. Belcher, the infectious disease doctor. I am hoping to hear great reports on Joseph's bloodwork and hoping to find out when the PICC is to be removed.

I am praying I can make it to the doctor appointment too, I finally caught the funk and am not feeling up to par.


Monday, November 29, 2010

Time is of the essence people!

Do you know who I am?

I am the one
You cannot accept
I am the one
You stare at
I am the one
Forgotten
I am the one
Denied love
I am the one
Dying for life
I am the one
Someone is praying for
I am the one
Someone is rallying for
I am the one
Someone wants
I am the one
With special needs
I am the one
Worthy of LOVE
I am the one
Who needs to be saved
I am the one
Dying for a better life.

Help these children PLEASE! Their lives literally depend upon your willingness to pray, give and love.

You all know Daniel, Photobucket I am praying so hard for him to have a chance at life. Here is a slide show of other kids awaiting love.......

Angels on their way...





I MISSED A FEW DAYS....LOL

I am thankful the month of November is nearly over and done with. Too many sicknesses too many surprises.....



Saturday, November 27, 2010

Thankful for sleep

Ahhhh, sweet joys of life!!!! LOL I got a total of 13 hours of sleep today. 8 overnight and then 5 more after I gave Joseph his morning dose of Clinda. Shawn kept the kids occupied so I could sleep, too bad he has the funk now.


Friday, November 26, 2010

thankful for not

Having to go out to go shopping for Black Friday deals!!!!!!! LOL My shopping is nearly complete, I have just two things I have to get anyways and my Christmas shopping is done. It is so nice to only buy 5 gifts per child. Each boy gets one from Santa, one from each of their brothers, one from Mommy and one from Daddy (or in Jared's case, one from Shawn).

There is not much under our tree, but we don't go broke either and, hey, this was Nana and Papaw get to spoil the boys and we don't have tons of stuff they never touch.





Thursday, November 25, 2010

thankful......

I am thankful, I am still healthy enough to take care of my sick kids.....yep, Joseph got the funk early this morning (just 2 hours after I went to bed). He has kept down 6 ounces of orange kool-aid now for 2 hours.

Wednesday, November 24, 2010

Thankful it's almost time......

for a break and time for bed!!!! After being up with Jackson all night last night due to the flu and then cleaning and disinfecting the house all day, I just wrote my final paper on Hallucinogens and will be giving Joseph his last dose of Clinda for today and then I am hitting the hay for 4 hours until I have to get up and get his next dose ready.

I am also thankful I am not sick and neither is Joseph. Lord, I pray, please keep us healthy. Pretty, pretty please, Lord. Amen!

nighty-night all!


Tuesday, November 23, 2010

Thankful for joyful noise

Jared's first word...real word was FAN. Weirdo kid! LOL We were in the dining room on Kingston trying table foods for one of the first times, he was around 8 or 9 months old. He had been watching the ceiling fan, I told him "Fan", "Fan" with great emphasis on the "F" sound. He repeated with no problem. From there, he just exploded with his verbal communication (yet he never called me mom, never said momma...he called me boobah til he was nearly 2). By the time he was 15-16 months you could literally carry on a conversation with him. He is now 8 years old and reads at the 5th grade 8 month level.

Jackson is quite verbal and a little parrot. He repeats EVERYTHING. EV-REEE-THING!LOL And he comprehends his word choices. Jackson is one smart little cookie. He has known all of his shapes (including diamond, oval and octagon) and all of his colors for a very long time now. He can sing his ABC's (however he leaves out I-P most times) but everything else is in perfect order. He is a busy boy and, still, he is a verbal sponge.

Then, there is my Joseph. My middle child, my second blue-eyed blondie with pale white skin. He resembles his older brother, Jared, more than I could have ever imagined. Of course, he has Down syndrome. Down syndrome means delays and Joseph is no exception to this rule. I enjoy the delays, really I do, it is so nice to take it slow with him when the other two boys are rushing ahead in life and accomplishment. Joseph is happy to live life day by day, amazing me in his ease of pace. He recently has been talking much more...and it is sooooooo COOL! He was hollering "Jared" earlier today. Jared is sick and Joseph was telling him night-night. He is now saying "CEREAL"...and it sounds like sur-rul which is awesome pronunciation! He also say, "Bye, Dad" and blew him kisses then said "See you later" when daddy went to bed. I love it!


My boys tend to be talkers, early talkers and very fluent. Yet, with Joseph we have waited, patiently for his JOYFUL NOISE. And he has not disappointed.





Monday, November 22, 2010

Thankful for a good prognosis

We saw Dr. Kayes today for Joseph's Perthes Disease. Prognosis is good! I saw the x-rays myself and there is definitely a fragment of bone in there but otherwise the area is healthy. We follow up in 9 months to see how the bone is doing at that time. Meanwhile, we just watch him for any suspicious signs. YAY!



Saturday, November 20, 2010

ROCKSTARS!!!!!!!!

I am thankful today for ROCKSTARS!!!!


Like Sheva and her family. Sheva is one of my nettie-besties (internet bff's) and I love her posts on her Shtub
and the posts she creates for fun on our Babycenter Ds board. Just a couple of days ago she posted a "high functioning" post and why our kids are "ROCKSTARS". We have been entertained with WONDERFUL pics of our kids and comments as to why they are "HIGH FUNCTIONING ROCKSTARS". I love it!

Here is my addition to why Joseph is a rockstar:
Joseph is a ROCKSTAR because he is an artist............even when he is coloring my walls, dishwasher, frigerator....whatever LOL

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and because he gives the best, "How you doin'?" pose....EVER!! LOL





Friday, November 19, 2010

Fabulous facilitators.......and thankfulness too!

Today I am thankful for the two women who are my facilitators at IWU right now. I missed the last two days of one week's courses and then 4 days of the next week's courses. Thankfully, both women have been gracious in allowing me time to get caught back up. I am so grateful to say, I AM CAUGHT BACK UP!!! And my new week starts today, not too shabby for a gal that was very far behind.

Thankfully, this is my last week in my Drugs and Alcohol course and then off for Thanksgiving, then just one more week in Managerial Finance after the break!


Thursday, November 18, 2010

Thankful for not having to clean up the kitchen

LOL

Tonight my sister, Geneva, cleaned up the kitchen for me. I am very far behind on my coursework and still catching up. So not having to clean the kitchen is nice (and it leaves me time for a mini-blogpost)

Wednesday, November 17, 2010

Thankful for education oppotunities

I am so thankful for the chance to educate people about disabilities, especially Down syndrome.

I got this message from a friend yesterday on Facebook:

ok i'm prolly gonna sound ignorant here and i don't want to offend or upset you, but i'm just wondering something.
first off Ive tried not to use the word "retarded" anymore since seeing all your posts and how hurtful it can be to people.
but i'm wondering what word is acceptable to use that will not offend someone who has a child with downs or any Handicap(?) for that matter?
if we are in a store and one of my children asks, whats wrong with him/her? because they are curious and don't understand what do i say? handicap? special needs?
i'm just trying to educate myself so i don't offend or hurt anyone's feelings and so that i can help my children know without teaching them something that would do the same.


Here is my reply to my friend:

I ♥ that you care enough to ask and educate yourself and that proves there is no ignorance there.

Now, if you see someone out and about with any type of disability and they ask a question or you notice them staring (which is normal for children to do). I would reassure them that the person is just like us but they have a disability and explain they may need more help doing things than they do. For instance, someon3 using a wheelchair needs the chair to "walk" without the use of their legs. Some one with Down syndrome may look a bit different and frighten them just explain that God makes us all unique and their uniqueness is Down syndrome. If they ask what that is, the way we explain it at home is that Down syndrome makes Joseph grow slower and learn a bit differently than we do. The older kids are just now learning why he has Down syndrome (he has 47 chromosomes and we have just 46). Now, since we have Joshua in the family (and he is bi-racial) we tell him that just because we are white and he is black (he identifies himself that way) we are still related and family. This is no different for Joseph, we may only 46 chromosomes and he has 47 but we are still related and we are still family.

Kids really don't need to know much, except this: Disabilities are PERFECTLY natural. They happen everyday in our world and there is nothing "wrong" with a person with a disability. I don't care for the word handicapped but many people don't mind it. I just don't see Joseph as handicapped, he has a cognitive disability and developmental disabilities. He is fully capable, society handicaps him. Special needs is fine too, I use that term myself; but in the grand scheme of things we all have special needs. :)

You are doing your children a great service by instilling acceptance in them. You make me proud to call you my friend.

♥♥♥



Tuesday, November 16, 2010

Perthes Disease

Today I am thankful for Google searches on the interwebs! LOL Here is some information on the life-long disease we found by coincidence (cannot say accident, this was no accident this was part of God's plan) when we did Joseph's x-rays to see what was wrong with his left hip. He has been diagnosed with Perthes Disease of the RIGHT hip.

Legg-Calve'-Perthes Disease
The National Osteonecrosis Foundation

Legg-Calvé-Perthes disease is a rare disease of the hip that afflicts approximately 1 in 1200 children. Of those children, only about one in four are girls. About 5% of all diagnosed develop the disease in both hips (bilaterally). Most of these children are very active and often very athletic. The age of diagnosis is usually between 2 and 12 years old, with the average age of 6. Legg-Calve'-Perthes children tend to be of shorter stature due to delayed bone age. The purpose of this pamphlet is to provide you with more information to help you understand this condition and some of the treatments.

What is Legg-Perthes Disease?

Legg-Calvé-Perthes disease (LCPD) is a form of osteonecrosis of the hip that is found only in children. It is known by a few other names such as ischemic necrosis of the hip, coxa plana, osteochondritis and avascular necrosis of the femoral head. Most commonly it is called Legg-Perthes disease, LCPD, or Perthes.

LCPD is of unknown origin. It is known that bone death occurs in the ball of the hip due to an interruption in blood flow. As bone death occurs, the ball develops a fracture of the supporting bone. This fracture signals the beginning of bone reabsorption by the body. As bone is slowly absorbed, it is replaced by new tissue and bone.

Initial Phase

Reabsorption Phase

Reossification Phase/Healed

Four Stages of LCPD

1. Femoral head becomes more dense with possible fracture of supporting bone;
2. Fragmentation and reabsorption of bone;
3. Reossification when new bone has regrown; and
4. Healing, when new bone reshapes.

Phase I takes about 6-2 months, Phase 2 takes one year or more, and Phase 3 and 4 may go on for many years.

Who is at Risk?

There is no specific cause known for LCPD, however, there are some risk factors. Some of the factors identified as possible links include children who are small for their age and are extremely active. The disease is found more often in Asians, Eskimos, and Whites, with a much lower incidence found in Australian aboriginals, Native American, Polynesians and Blacks. Exposure to secondhand smoke is correlated with LCPD.

First Symptoms

The first symptoms characterized in LCPD are usually a limp and perhaps pain in the hip, groin, or knee (known as a referred pain). Often you will first notice limping during your child's active play. They usually cannot tell you an instance when they hurt themselves. They may not be able to tell you exactly where they hurt, especially if the pain is referred toward the knee area. They may not even experience much pain. Other cases may not be diagnosed until some precipitating event (fall, twisting injury) leads to an x-ray that uncovers the previously undiagnosed Legg-Calve'-Perthes disease.

Diagnosis

Initial diagnosis will require an x-ray, magnetic resonance imaging (MRI) or bone scan. Other diagnostic measures may include tests for limitation of abduction, a measurement of the thigh to determine muscle atrophy, and tests to determine the child's range of motion.

Extent of Disease

It is rare for a patient to have whole head involvement. However, age can play an important role in the prognosis of the disease. New bone growth typically reshapes better in younger children and it may improve with growth.

There are several different classifications used to determine severity of disease and prognosis.

The Catteral Classification specifies four different groups to define radiographic appearance during the period of greatest bone loss.

The Salter-Thomson Classification simplifies the Catteral Classifications by reducing them down to two groups: Group A (Catteral I, II) which shows that less than 50% of the ball is involved, and Group B (Catteral Ill, IV) where more than 50% of the ball is involved. Both classifications share the view that if less than 50% of the ball is involved, the prognosis is good, while more than 50% involvement indicates a potentially poor prognosis.

The Herring Classification studies the integrity of the lateral pillar of the ball. In the Lateral Pillar Group A, there is no loss of height in the lateral 1/3 of the head and little density change. In Lateral Pillar Group B, there is lucency and loss of height of less than 50% of the lateral height. Sometimes the ball is beginning to extrude the socket. In Lateral Pillar Group C, there is more than 50% loss of lateral height.

Many doctors utilize these classifications as they provide an accurate method of determining prognosis and help in determining the appropriate form of treatment.

Prevention

There is no known effective preventative measure.

TREATMENT
The Goal

The goal of treatment is four-fold:
I) to reduce hip irritability
2) restore and maintain hip mobility
3) to prevent the ball from extruding or collapsing
4) to regain a spherical femoral head

Types of Treatment

Often at the initial diagnosis, the physician may take a "wait and see" approach to get a clearer picture of the progression of the disease. As long as the patient's symptoms are mild, the physician may only prescribe physical therapy exercises to help maintain good range of motion. If the patient's mobility changes, then the physician may prescribe either non-surgical or surgical treatment.

Non-Surgical Treatment
Non-surgical treatments come in varying forms. Crutches are used for non-weight bearing treatment for pain. Casts, traction, and braces help return range of motion and mobility. Range of motion exercises may be given to you by your physical therapist to do with your child in the home.

Surgical Treatment
Tenotomy
A "Tenotomy" is a surgery that is performed to release an atrophied muscle that has shortened due to limping. Once released, a cast is applied allowing the muscle to regrow to a more natural length. Cast time is about six to eight weeks.

Osteotomy
There are different types of "osteotomies" (cutting the bone to reposition it) and, depending on the need they are performed at different stages of the disease. At times with the softening of the ball, there is the possibility of the ball slipping out of the socket. To protect it, a femoral varus osteotomy, with or without rotation partially redirects the ball into the socket.

Another approach to surgically treating Legg-Calve'- Perthes is to do an osteotomy above the hip socket. This allows the surgeon to reposition the hip socket in such a way that the femoral head will have less tendency to become deformed. The shelf arthroplasty gives added coverage of the ball from the top lip of the socket. Both the innominate and the shelf arthroplasty help in reshaping.

LOOKING TO THE FUTURE

Studies on long-term results of LCPD indicate that the incidence of late degenerative osteoarthritis is dependent on two factors. If the ball reshapes well and fits well in the socket, arthritis is usually not a concern. If the ball does not reshape well, but the socket's shape still conforms to the ball, the patient will tend to develop mild arthritis in later adulthood. Patients who~ femoral head does not shape well and does not fit well in the socket usually develop degenerative arthritis before the age of 50.

Although Legg-Calvé-Perthes disease cannot be prevented, much has been accomplished toward minimizing its effects. Research and clinical studies continue to provide patients with better long-term results.



Monday, November 15, 2010

Thankful........

I was going to post a month full of things I am thankful for but then life got in the way. After a very scary and exhausting week. I am going to give 15 things I am thankful for to catch up to speed. Above all I am thankful for God, so now I will acknowledge the little things for which I am thankful.

I am thankful for:
1) a warm roof over my head
2) a husband that works his tail off
3) a sister who really pulled through for my family this week
4) food in belly
5) clothes on my back
6) laptops
7) cable modems
8) fast download speed
9) cell phones
10) texting
11) good friends
12) prayers
13) antibiotics
14) PICC lines
15) diagnoses








Sunday, October 31, 2010

31 for 21 is NOW complete!

I did it!! I made it to the end! And I did it with 32 posts!! Well, here are the Halloween pictures I promised. Turns out our Monster Mash was a bust...the twins were TERRIFIED of the mummy costume I had made for them. Soooo, Jared was a commando, Joshua a vampire, Janae was the bride of Frankenstein, Joseph was a froggie (which was Jared's costume when he was a year old and now all of my boys have worn it), and Jackson was Spiderman (which he and his twin LOVED by the way).

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And one more mention of something ABSOLUTELY FABULOUS!

Andrea Roberts of Reece's Rainbow has been voted People Magazine's 2010 HERO of the year for her dedicated efforts to help children, born with Down syndrome, in Eastern European countries find their forever homes and leave behind their desolate lives in the orphanages over there. Please pick up this weeks (it has Prince William on the front)People Magazine and read her story and learn how YOU can help Reece's Rainbow today!!!!!



Saturday, October 30, 2010

Trick or Treat!

Well, I just finished a mummy costume for Jackson and have now decided Joseph will be Frankenstein. Janae will be the bride of Frankenstein, Joshua will be the Vampire and Jared the Mad Scientist. We are trick or treating tonight...pictures tomorrow~


Friday, October 29, 2010

For all those babies waiting to find their Forever Home

KISSES IN THE WIND (The Waiting Child's Lullabye)


I hold you in my heart and touch you in my dreams.
You are here each day with me, at least that's how it seems.

I know you wonder where we are... what's taking us so long.
But remember child, I love you so and God will keep you strong.

Now go outside and feel the breeze and let it touch your skin...
Because tonight, just as always, I blow you kisses in the wind.

May God hold you in His hand until I can be with you.
I promise you, my darling, I'm doing all that I can do.

Very soon, you'll have a family for real, not just pretend.
But for tonight, just as always, I blow you kisses in the wind.

May God wrap you in His arms and hold you very tight.
And let the angels bring the kisses that I send to you each night.



Thursday, October 28, 2010

Thankful Thursday...

Anyhow, I just wanted to say I am blessed with great friends and family. Carry on!



Wednesday, October 27, 2010

Wanna see some BEAUTIFUL children?

This is a video made by Ashley. She is the sister of a soon to be one year old little girl (Laura) who was born with Down syndrome. Laura's sister loves her very, very much and has become a nice part of our Ds family on Babycenter. Sooooo, check it out and then check out her blog too by clicking this link Something Beautiful




Tuesday, October 26, 2010

I am a Prayer Warrior

I have registered with Reece's Rainbow to be a prayer warrior for Daniel.

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Boy, Born May 14, 2007

Daniel is a cutie! 3 now, and in need of a loving family he can grow up in. He was born with a functional systolic murmur, but he is doing well. He has a giant smile, and huge blue eyes, and a spirit that can light up a room!! Daniel is facing the institution in the coming year.


This is all the information I have privy too about Daniel. I am committing to pray for him and Reece's Rainbow everyday until he finds his forever home. This must happen soon or he will be institutionalized and from that point, it is very possible he will never be adopted and may very well die within his first year of trying to survive the conditions at the institution. PLEASE, help me, help Daniel. We can make a difference. You can sponsor him by donating money to his adoption fund. You can pray alongside me. If you are looking at his face and YOU KNOW he is YOUR CHILD..please, make that move and bring him home! I will be praying for you and for Daniel.





I never knew...

Before I had a child with Down syndrome, I was uneducated. There was so much I just did not know. Why should I know? The statistics didn't matter to me then and they did not affect me at all. But know? Well, know I know. I know just how many people would choose not to have a child like mine if they knew prenatally that child would be born with Down syndrome.

90% of all women who KNOW while they are pregnant their child will have Down syndrome will choose to end that child's life. Snuff it out and carry on. It breaks my heart. I am in tears right now just writing about it.

Abortion breaks my heart. Period. But, when you add in the factor that so many people think a child with Down syndrome is not worthy of life, it really, really tugs at my heart strings.

I think back to the children that I have been touched by who were simply angels on loan from God and were called home entirely too soon. Babies like Gabby, and little boys like Ike. Their mothers wanted nothing more than to have their children with them and, yet, somehow, for whatever reason, their wants were not answered. And then those babies that are never born, their wants were never answered. It hurts.

God bless Gabby's family and Ike's family (she passed this year and he has been gone 4 years now).




Monday, October 25, 2010

I got nuthin.....LOL ENJOY THE PICS

I make cakes...some are great, some aren't but his one.....ROCKS!!!!

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Down syndrome 101

This is a momentous occasion...my 101st blog post!!!

Down syndrome 101

What is Down syndrome?
Down syndrome is the most common and readily identifiable chromosomal condition associated with mental retardation. For no known reason, an accident in cell development results in 47 rather than the usual 46 chromosomes, thus changing the orderly development of the body and brain.

How Common is Down syndrome?
• Approximately 4,000 children in the U.S. are born with Down syndrome each year, or one in every 800 births.
• The incidence of Down syndrome is higher in women over age 35.
• Most common forms of the syndrome do not usually occur more than once in a family.

Characteristics of Down syndrome
There are over 50 clinical signs of Sown syndrome, however, it is rare to find all or even most in one person. Some common characteristics include:
• Poor muscle tone
• Slanting eyes with folds of skin at the inner eyes
• Hyperflexability of joints
• Short, broad hands with a single crease across the palm on one or both hands
• Broad feet with short toes
• Flat bridge of the nose
• Low set ears
• Short neck
• Small head
• Small oral cavity and/or short, high pitched cries in infancy

Is There a Cure?
Currently, there is no cure for Down syndrome. However, researchers have identified the genes that cause the characteristics of Down syndrome and are working to enhance their basic understanding of Down syndrome and facilitate the development of effective interventions and treatment strategies. You can learn more at http://www.dsrtf.org/

Educational Implications
Research has shown that stimulation and encouragement during early developmental stages improves the child’s chances of developing to his or her fullest potential. For children with Down syndrome, the most effective treatments are early intervention programs. These programs offer parents special instruction in teaching their child language, cognitive, self-help, and social skills, and specific exercises for gross and fine motor development.
Just as in the normal population, there is a wide variation in mental abilities, behavior, and developmental progress in individuals with Down syndrome. Their level of cognitive delay may range from mild to severe, with the majority functioning in the mild to moderate range of cognitive ability. Due to these individual differences, it is impossible to predict future achievements of children with Down syndrome. And because of the range of ability in children with Down syndrome, it is important for families and all members of the school’s education team to place few limitations on potential capabilities.


Sunday, October 24, 2010

Well....

It is amazing how this little extra piece of genetic material can tie so many families together. But today, my mind floats back to a family (who may or may not have a child with Down syndrome) that I just cannot forget.


Last year, around this time, we began to see a few posts from a new mommy who had some questions about transient leukemia (a leukemia that some kids with Down syndrome are born with but can resolve on it's own). Then she posted that her little girl had a confirmed diagnosis of T21 following a blood test. Later, she posted a few more posts and then one about some of her family "outing" her daughter's diagnosis and not being happy that people would know about the Down syndrome and feared they would treat her differently. Many of us moms, including myself, responding we could see the Down syndrome in her eyes and that it was not a bad thing. The mom did not like this post at all and I fear we ran her off.

A few days (or maybe longer, I really don't know) she had a post about her daughter sitting unassisted at 4 months (I think) and someone from our Ds board commented about sitting and Down syndrome---this thread got very ugly, the mom accused the poster of being rude and making accusations about her daughter and her health.

This mom has never returned to the Babycenter Down syndrome support board, for all I know she is not active on babycenter at all. I found her on Facebook (it was easy to search her name + her husband's name + their daughter's name which led me to her on Facebook and myspace). Anyhow, she friended me for a hot minute on Facebook then she dropped me and went private. I let it go but then, again, her gorgeous baby girl popped into my head. I wondered how she was doing and tried to send the mom a note. She never answered.

I don't care if she has Down syndrome or not, it makes no difference to me. But if she does, there is a lot of support out there waiting for her and her mommy if she would come back. And I cannot seem to forget them. I don't know if I ever will. I feel bad for having offended the mom, Annette. Maybe, I should just let it go...





Saturday, October 23, 2010

My cutie pies

How can you resist a face so sweet??? I love looking back on pictures of Jared when he was younger and Joseph & Jackson as babies a(they are officially big boys now that they are 3 years old).

Here is a few pics of the boys. This is Jared waiting for his bus on the first day of Kindergarten and the twins swinging out front before they were even a year old.

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Thursday, October 21, 2010

Online Support Community

If you have a child with Down syndrome come join us on the Babycenter Down syndrome Support Board. I have to say, this group of women is wonderful and the bonds I have with them is strong. They have been supportive and loving. Just click on the Babycenter picture below to heck it out, I cannot say enough about them.





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Wednesday, October 20, 2010

Something easy today....

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Halloween is coming up......so what's in store for this year? Another theme, of course!

Last year was Cat in the Hat and Thing 1 & Thing 2.

This year?????   Our very own Monster Mash!

Jared will be the Mad Scientist.
Joshua will be the Vampire.
Janae will be the Bride of Frankenstein.
Joseph will be the Mummy.
And Jackson will be Frankenstein (or the Werewolf).

Stay tuned for Pictures!








Tuesday, October 19, 2010

Guilty? Or not?

The past few days on the Babycenter Down syndrome Support Board have been very interesting. Missy had started a discussion about how true you were with everyone else once you received the Down syndrome diagnosis for you child. Many woman, and fathers too, experience a gamut of emotions after learning. These emotions range from fear, to anger, to sadness, to denial, to depression, to anxiety, and even to grief. Grief for the loss of the child they had envisioned for themselves. It breaks my heart for so many people to experience such pain, either during their pregnancy or following the birth of a child with Down syndrome.

The course of this discussion on my beloved BC-DS board has lead to some very cathartic posting by women who dare to be painfully honest, baring their souls in complete safety, knowing they will not be judged. And then one momma asked a very pertinent question, she said, "I have an additional question...why do we beat ourselves up so bad for those dark, ugly feelings and those outlandish things we thought or said?  Why can't we just feel and say and just take it all at face value?"

She has a very good point, my response to her was this, "I think that is a great ponderance. I would imagine that some woman "beat" themselves up because the reactions they first had are NOT what we, as mothers, are "SUPPOSED" to have when we first see our kids.  And for those of us who had those negative thoughts were probably shocked for themselves that they could even feel those feelings for their own child."

"As a society, we women, are programmed that the perfect baby is nicely chubby, with rosey checks, a button nose, blue eyes, ten fingers, ten toes and for some women it even goes further and they are programmed (sometimes by themselves) that there is a perfect gender to have as well. And once that child is born, we fall in love instantly and everything is as rosy as that perfect child's cheeks.
No one, or for the majority of us--hardly anyone, teaches us that babies in all wondrous ways are perfect. No one teaches us that disabilities are perfectly natural. No one teaches us how to love and want that child born with that "imperfect" perfection. No one teaches us it is ok to be scared...scared shitless and ROCKED to our cores with fear. No one tells us it is ok not to feel instant LOVE for our children (whether disabled or not). And it is. These fears and disconnection are ok and normal in reasonable amounts. And for those moms who can now say, "I felt this, this, and some of this; and say, now I know it wasn't the end of the world. And I love my child with a fierceness that rocks my soul in a wonderful way", I applaude them all. They have  learned and are willing to share and show other moms they are not alone."

And that is why this group is fabulous. I am in the minority (I know of just a few more moms on here that are like I am in not having experienced the grief). And I am ok with that, the majority of us here have much better advice in this area than I do. Which is good, 'cause I am pretty windy! Wink
See, I never experienced this grief, anger, or sadness.....at least not for Down syndrome. I am not superwoman, I am just as prone to my feelings as the next gal and when Joseph was diagnosed with Epilepsy it rocked my world. My own maternal grandmother died after having a seizure and smothering herself.  Therefore, I was fearful because of what I had been taught.

So, what do you think? Do you think our own teachings as a child affect how we first reacted to our child's diagnosis? Or do you think it is something else that is going on entirely?



Monday, October 18, 2010

Why We No Longer Use the "H" Word

(good stuff found on the interweb) LOL

Why We No Longer Use the “H” Word
by Dan Wilkins
http://www.thenthdegree.com/Lit.asp

What is it about the word “handicap” that so offends many of us living with disabilities? Within our Disability Culture, progressive thinking has steered us away from using the word “handicapped” as a label or descriptor for someone living with a disability for a couple of reasons. To begin with, contrary to long time societal thinking, it is not synonymous with the word “disabled”. More on this in a moment.

Most importantly, it is the very origin of the word that leaves such a bad taste in our mouths. It conjures up imagery that perpetuates archaic misperceptions of the value of people living with disabilities and their potential for contribution to their community and to humanity as a whole.

Though I have a Brit friend who argues the truth of this origin, many believe the word comes from Old World England when the only way many with disabilities could survive was to sit on a corner or on the side of the road with a “handy cap” held out for passers by to fill out of pity. A pretty negative connotation. Not at all an empowering legacy, is it? And, sadly, it is not just a part of our distant past...

I do not wish to break from the “handicap vs. disability” issue but it is important to point out that this basic premise of projecting pity as a mechanism for exacting funds from the masses is still being used today. If I may rant for a paragraph, children and adults with disabilities continue to be exploited every day, most visibly, every Labor Day when Jerry Lewis does his annual Smellathon, er, telethon. Twenty-four hours of patting and hugging “poor, helpless cripples” until FINALLY, in the last five minutes, through red blurry eyes, hair mussed, sleeves uncuffed, bow tie loosened and akimbo, sweat dripping and sleep deprived, he tells us, with all the apparent (or is that transparent) sincerity of a really bad lounge singer, that we “will never walk alone”. (Hey, Jerry, I’ll never walk AGAIN! and, truth be told, that’s O.K.) He demands that we, the heart wrenched public, give, GIVE, until it hurts. GIVE, so that, for another year, we can walk the street unashamed to look someone in the eye; unashamed that we might have fearful, discriminatory thoughts toward “those people”; unashamed that our society continues to fight equity and access to all it has to offer. Buy the premise, pay the dues and it’s another year of “no fault insurance”.

Jerry isn’t the only one, just the most notorious. There are others. Be wary. Kahlil Gibran said “the gifts which derive from Justice are greater than those which spring from Charity.” There is power in this statement. If you want to make a difference and, at the same time, help put an end to the pattern of pity and paternalization, find an organization that is promoting self-control and Independent living; one whose mission is that of building confidence and ability, awareness and community. Try your local Center for Independent Living. It’ll be money or time well spent.

Back to disability vs handicap. Now that we know the origin of the word, we realize that there is little dignity to be found there, except when we look into the souls of those who, over history, wrapped themselves in the label like a banner when there was no other word; who lived, fought and died defending their right to belong in a world trying so hard to eliminate them or hide them away.

All this is not to say that there is no appropriate context in which to use the word “handicap” or “handicapped”. There is. Let me explain.

I have a disability. I broke my neck in an auto accident in 1980. It is an integral part of who I am and, to some degree, it impacts the way I do things in the world. I only become “handicapped” when I cannot reach a goal.

It may be a narrow door, or a set of steps; an inaccessible parking structure or a restaurant with no accessible bathroom. For some it may be no signage or braille menus, no interpreter or service dogs allowed. It may be someone’s attitude out there: “Hey! You can’t come in here! We didn’t vote for the law and we’re not making changes.” or my own attitude: “I’m just a quad...I’ll never amount to anything.”

Though I’m not big on continuums, let me illustrate it this way. Two lines. One horizontal. One vertical. They form a big plus sign. (See diagram). The horizontal line represents disability and the (relative, and I stress relative) significance of its involvement and impact on the person, with minimal impact on the left side and significant impact on the right. The vertical line represents the degree to which the external or internal (self-concept, confidence, etc.) handicap limits one from reaching a goal. We’ll put minimal impact at the bottom and significant impact at the top.




Now let me tell you the story of two friends. “Friend A” (not his real name) has Cerebral Palsy as his disability. He uses a word board and head stick to communicate with those who do not understand or speak CP. He uses an electric wheelchair and a chin stick to get around. I stressed parenthetically above the issue of relevance with regard to how we perceive the significance of disability. We, not really knowing Friend A but seeing him on the street, might be quick to place him far along the horizontal continuum of disability, considering him to be pretty significantly disabled. And I would tell you that Friend A’s self-perception would put him much farther back toward the minimal end. I would also tell you that Friend A is just finishing up his degree in Social Work at the local University. Here’s a guy whom most would consider has a significant disability, yet, he’s out there making a difference in his life and in the lives of others. He’s not allowing his disability or society’s low expectations to handicap him. He’s going to contribute to his community. I would say he sits pretty low on the handicapped scale. Does this make sense?

On the other hand, I have a friend, “Friend B” (not his real name either). He lost a couple of toes in a farm accident. He walks fine. No pain. No limp. Nothing. Pretty minimally disabled, wouldn’t you think? But can I get him to go to the beach with me, or swimming? Absolutely not. He’d like to but he goes nowhere without shoes on. He won’t even wear sandals. Pretty minimally disabled but, again, it’s relative. He considers himself pretty significantly disabled. So much so that his own attitude; his own self-concept has him significantly handicapped.

A final difference: if we were to consider these two continuums over a period of time, we would most likely see that the disability continuum, in most people’s lives, would remain relatively static when compared to the handicapped continuum which would fluctuate with every situation and barrier(s) presented.

It is important to understand the context in which to use the words we use. The best way not to offend someone living with a disability, and I often insert the word “living” because we tend to forget that we are all living, breathing, interacting, supporting, pushing, pulling, etc.; basically trying to get from Point A to Point B with as little hassle as possible, the best way not to offend someone living with a disability is to refer to them first as just that: as Someone, as a person, as a teacher, a student, an athlete, whatever they happen to be at that moment. That they have a disability is secondary or even tertiary. People are people. People are not diagnoses, or prognoses. They most certainly are not their disabilities. Their disabilities are a part of who they are, perhaps a tenth or twentieth of who they are completely; affording most of all a unique perspective on the world and one’s place in it. It is not something of which to be ashamed but something of which to be proud.





Sunday, October 17, 2010

The Eugenics Temptation

(sharing again today)

The Eugenics Temptation By Michael Gerson
michaelgerson@cfr.org
Wednesday, October 24, 2007; Washington Post

James Watson, the Nobel Prize-winning scientist who helped discover the structure of DNA in 1953, recently pronounced the entire population of Africa genetically inferior when it comes to intelligence. And while he hopes that everyone is equal, "people who have to deal with black employees find this not true."

Watson's colleagues at the Federation of American Scientists found his comments "racist, vicious and unsupported by science" -- all true. But they could not have found those views surprising. In 2003, Watson spoke in favor of genetic selection to eliminate ugly women: "People say it would be terrible if we made all girls pretty. I think it would be great." In 2000, he suggested that people with darker skin have stronger libidos. In 1997, Watson contended that parents should be allowed to abort fetuses they found to be gay: "If you could find the gene which determines sexuality and a woman decides she doesn't want a homosexual child, well, let her." In the same interview, he said, "We already accept that most couples don't want a Down child. You would have to be crazy to say you wanted one, because that child has no future."

When it comes to the parents of disabled children, Watson has somehow confused "loving" and "courageous" with "crazy" -- the sign of a heart clearly inferior to the gentle hearts of children with Down syndrome. And most of us have met women who don't look like models and gay people who prefer being alive to the preferences of their parents.

"If you really are stupid," Watson once contended, "I would call that a disease." What is the name for the disease of a missing conscience?

Watson is not typical of the scientific community when it comes to his extreme social application of genetics. But this controversy illustrates a temptation within science -- and a tension between some scientific views and liberalism.

The temptation is eugenics. Watson is correct that "we already accept" genetic screening and selective breeding when it comes to disabled children. About 90 percent of fetuses found to have Down syndrome are aborted in America. According to a recent study, about 40 percent of unborn children in Europe with one of 11 congenital defects don't make it to birth.

No one should underestimate the wrenching challenge of having a disabled child. But we also should not ignore the social consequences of widespread screening of children for "desirable" traits. This kind of "choice" is actually a form of absolute power of one generation over the next -- the power to forever define what is "normal," "straight" and "beautiful." And it leads inevitably to discrimination. British scientist Robert Edwards has argued, "Soon it will be a sin of parents to have a child that carries the heavy burden of genetic disease." A sin. Which leaves disabled children who escape the net of screening -- the result of parental sin -- to be born into a new form of bastardy and prejudice.

This creates an inevitable tension within liberalism. The left in America positions itself as both the defender of egalitarianism and of unrestricted science. In the last presidential election, Sen. John Kerry pledged to "tear down every wall" that inhibited medical research. But what happens when certain scientific views lead to an erosion of the ideal of equality? Yuval Levin of the Ethics and Public Policy Center, a rising academic analyst of these trends, argues: "Watson is anti-egalitarian in the extreme. Science looks at human beings in their animal aspects. As animals, we are not always equal. It is precisely in the ways we are not simply animals that we are equal. So science, left to itself, poses a serious challenge to egalitarianism."

"The left," Levin continues, "finds itself increasingly disarmed against this challenge, as it grows increasingly uncomfortable with the necessarily transcendent basis of human equality. Part of the case for egalitarianism relies on the assertion of something beyond our animal nature crudely understood, and of a standard science alone will not provide. Defending equality requires tools the left used to possess but seems to have less and less of."

Watson and many scientists assert a kind of reductionism -- a belief that human beings are the sum of their chemical processes and have no value beyond their achievements and attributes. But progressives, at their best, have a special concern for the different, the struggling and the weak. When it comes to eugenics, they face not only a tension but a choice -- and they should choose human equality over the pursuit of human perfection.




Saturday, October 16, 2010

My friend, Rosa.

Many people don't even know anything about a new bill that passed and has now been signed into law by President Obama


Rosa's Law. President Barack Obama publicly honored Rosa Marcellino at the White House Friday, days after signing a bill carrying her name which will strip the term “mental retardation” from some areas of federal law.

The measure known as Rosa’s Law will replace the terms “mental retardation” and “mentally retarded” with “intellectual disability” and “individual with an intellectual disability” throughout federal health, education and labor policy. It was introduced by Sen. Barbara Mikulski, D-Md., after she met Marcellino, 9, and her family who lobbied for a similar bill in Maryland last year.

On Friday, Marcellino, who has Down syndrome, attended a ceremony in the East Room of the White House with her family where the president referred to her as “inspiring.”

I am totally infatuated with the idea of the term "Mental Retardation" being removed from my son's IEP and federal legislature as well as my son's health records; and "Intellectual Disability" being used in place.

So, what's the big deal with mental retardation? After all, it is a medical term. Well, to me, using mental retardation or even just retardation (retarded) hangs heavily with negative connotation. In short, I relate MR (and any form of it) with negativity. Stupid. Imbecile. Dumb. Incapable of achieving knowledge.

Intellectual disability or cognitive disability, to me, does not have that connotation. The word intellect is defined as: the power of knowing as distinguished from the power to feel and to will : the capacity for knowledge and/or the capacity for rational or intelligent thought especially when highly developed. You see intellectual implies my son has smarts and is capable; which is entirely true.
Now, disability is defined as: a disqualification, restriction, or disadvantage. And while I don't like to see it in black & white; that definition of disability is pretty much spot on.

My son has an intellectual disability; he has the capacity for knowledge but, because of the Down syndrome, he is at a disadvantage for obtaining that knowledge. He is disadvantaged because society does not believe in him. He is disadvantaged because schools want to segregate him because they don't know how to teach him alongside his peers (well, more like they don't want to do that because it rarely has been done). He is disadvantaged because he learns differently (and what two kids learn the same anyways).

Now, we just need for Merriam-Webster to give us a definition for intellectual disability because, as of now, there is no literal definition for this term...I am guessing that will change soon as this "new" term will soon be signed into law and change wording for many things in my son's life. But, even if they don't give it a definition, I already know what it means for us.

So, now you know a little about Rosa's law. :)