Hey family members,
   omggggggggggg, I’m screamingggggggg, This feels like my first post all over again. I know you guys have been asking where I’ve been and all but don’t worry, I’m back now and I can assure you that I’m not leaving again.

I was extremely busy with school work and my mental health wasn’t at it’s best , I had to take that break to get myself together but not to worry , I’m back and better.

So today’s post is going to be about How to manage your mental health. in these times , we all need to learn to manage our mental health cause with everything going on , it’s just a lot to not be guided. Here are tips on how to manage your mental health:

Talk about your feelings

Talking about your feelings can help you stay in good mental health and deal with times when you feel troubled. You can talk to someone you trust and know that can help.
Talking about your feelings isn’t a sign of weakness. It’s part of taking charge of your wellbeing and doing what you can to stay healthy.
Talking can be a way to cope with a problem you’ve been carrying around in your head for a while. Just being listened to can help you feel supported and less alone. And it works both ways. If you open up, it might encourage others to do the same.

Keep active

Regular exercise can boost your self-esteem and can help you concentrate, sleep, and feel better. Exercise keeps the brain and your other vital organs healthy, and is also a significant benefit towards improving your mental health.
(I need to take this advice too)
Exercising doesn’t just mean doing sport or going to the gym. Taking walks, doing house chores can also keep you active.

Eat well

Your brain needs a mix of nutrients in order to stay healthy and function well, just like the other organs in your body. A diet that’s good for your physical health is also good for your mental health. Eat good food and be happy.

Ask for help

There’s nothing better than catching up with someone face to face, but that’s not always possible. You can also give them a call, drop them a note, or chat to them online instead. Keep the lines of communication open: it’s good for you!

None of us are superhuman. We all sometimes get tired or overwhelmed by how we feel or when things don’t go to plan.

Take a break

A change of scene or a change of pace is good for your mental health.

It could be a five-minute pause from cleaning your kitchen, a half-hour lunch break at work, or a weekend exploring somewhere new. A few minutes can be enough to de-stress you. Give yourself some ‘me time’. we all need breaks to rest and reincupurate for another work time

Do what you’re good at

What do you love doing? What activities can you lose yourself in? What did you love doing in the past?

Enjoying yourself can help beat stress. Doing an activity you enjoy probably means you’re good at it, and achieving something boosts your self-esteem.

Accept who you are

We’re all different. It’s much healthier to accept that you’re unique than to wish you were more like someone else. Feeling good about yourself boosts your confidence to learn new skills, visit new places and make new friends. Good self-esteem helps you cope when life takes a difficult turn.

Care for others

‘Friends are really important… We help each other whenever we can, so it’s a two-way street, and supporting them uplifts me.’

Caring for others is often an important part of keeping up relationships with people close to you. It can even bring you closer together.

Thank you for reading today’s post , I appreciate the love and support. God bless you 🙏❣️

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Dear Friend,

I don’t know you, but I know something about you. I know you’re tired.

I know you live with demons, ones that are close and loud.

I know how relentless they are in their pursuit of you.

I know that you spend your days trying to silence them and your nights trying to hide from them and the hell they put you through.

Most of all, I know how hard you work to hide it all, to pretend you’re fine, to paint a convincing smile upon your face, and to act as if all is well with your battered soul.

I know that all of this has left you exhausted that you’ve numbed yourself and hurt yourself and starved yourself in the hope that their voices will become silent and their fists will be lifted and you can finally breathe again.

I know that right now it doesn’t seem like that moment will ever come.

I know right now you’d rather leave than live

And even though I’m not standing in your shoes right now, and even though I don’t know you, and even though I have no right at all I’m asking you to stick around.

I’m asking you to stay. To endure your incredibly painful, totally senseless now because I can see your glorious, blindingly beautiful then, if you do.

If you stick around, you will reach a spot that the sadness won’t let you see right now you’ll reach tomorrow.

And that place is filled with possibility. It’s a day you’ve never been to. It’s not this terrible day. There, you will not feel exactly what you are feeling right now. You may be stronger, or see things differently, or find a clearing, and life may look a way it hasn’t in a long time: It may look like it’s worth staying for.

I want to make you a promise: what you are going through right now is painful, but it’s temporary. I know it seems hopeless. You feel isolated and alone like no one understands or no one would care if you’re gone. Dear friend, you are so wrong. Let me tell you why. Your life matters. It matters to me and it matters to God. Here’s how I know. Almost 3000 years ago, God spoke to his prophet Isaiah (46:10) telling him I make known the end from the beginning and that means that God knew the end of the story before He wrote the first word. God knew your name! Before he said, “let there be light” (Genesis 1:3), even before your great grandparents met, God had a purpose for you. Your life matters because you bring a unique blend of gifts and abilities that our world has never seen before. No one has had your fingerprint before and no one has had your exact DNA. No one has had the precise things that make you the person that you are.

So I guess this is just a reminder, from someone who sees what you may not see from here, the future, one that’ll be a lot better with you in it.

This is a plea and a promise, a dare and an invitation.

Stay.

Hang on.

You are loved.

Things will get better.

Trust me.

Cry and get angry and ask for help and punch a wall and scream into your pillow and take a deep breath and call someone who loves you. When you let people in, the demons shrink back, so allow others to carry this sadness with you until you are stronger.

But for you, for those who will grieve you should you leave, and for the tomorrow that you deserve to see…

Please, stick around.

❤️💡

Thelamide ❤️

Hey family members,

Happy new year! Welcome to 2021 , I pray this year brings peace to the world and joy to our hearts ijn. I pray this year is our year of breakthrough, good health, clear skin and more wealth.

Welcome back to my Blog page , I missed you guys so muchhhh!! My Christmas and New year was amazing and it was fun celebrating with family and friends. How was yours?

This is a welcome back post and also me telling you to except more amazing contents from me this year , so help me God.

Thank you for all the support in 2020, I know you guys will support me more this year. I can proudly say I have the best family members in the world and I’m confident in you all. Thanks for always having my back.

I know this year will be filled with so many Blessings, Great things ijn. Just stay positive, trust God and speak to existence what you want and do not want. Don’t mind those staying”Don’t hype 2021″. Hype it ooo , even the Bible says ask and it shall be given into you. So say what you want and it shall be so in Jesus name.

Cheers to our best year ever in good health and wealth.🥂

Thelamide❤️💡

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Hey family members ❤️

Hope you’re all doing great? This is not exactly a post but it’s a post (lol) it’s the last post in 2020.

First of all , merry Christmas ❤️ , I pray the reason for the season blesses us abundantly in Jesus name.

I want to Thank God almighty for how this year turned out , though tough but great still , it was a year full of ups and downs but God still showed himself mightly . I gained a lot this year , this platform included. God sent me the best family members to read what I write.

When I was about to start , I honestly didn’t believe people will read it , I had so many doubts even till after my first post but seeing the way you guys blew my mind with reposts , comments and likes clearer every doubt I had. I’m grateful to you guys and I promise to serve you more interesting content in 2021.

Have a blessed Christmas and prosperous new year in advance.❤️

Thelamide❤️

Dear mom, mother, momma, mummy, idol:

I love you so much. Without you, I would never be here where I am right now (quite literally). You’ve been my biggest inspiration for all my life. You are so strong, so compassionate, and so incredibly generous. There are so many good things I could say about you. The list could go on forever.

I love you for giving me life, for loving me, for sacrificing so much so that I can have so much. You’re not only my mom, you’re my role model and my best friend. You’re my number one fan and you support me in everything that I do. You listen to me complain and cry and laugh. You lift me up when I am at my absolute lowest, and laugh with me when I am at my highest. You are the only person I can turn to when I feel like everything is falling apart. You continually offer guidance and advice when I feel hopeless. I’ve never loved anyone like I love you. And you love me unconditionally. I’m so blessed to have been raised by you. I’m so blessed to have such a strong and compassionate person to look up to. You make me want to be a better person. I can only hope that I “grow up” to be half as an incredible woman as you are.

When I count my blessings, I count you twice mum , Thanks for loving me unconditionally. Thanks for always being there for I and my brother . Thanks for never giving up on us even when we put you through so many tough times . Thanks for the secret prayers that you do all the time. Thanks for being my Atm 🤣

I want to let the world know how much you mean to me, but there are not enough words to explain how extraordinary you are. This new age will bring you more wisdom, good health, and God’s favor upon your life. You are the best thing that has ever happened to me. Happy birthday.
Your heart is as pure as flowing water, and you’re never afraid to stand for the truth no matter how hard it is. You are a mom like no other, and God’s love will never depart from you. You’re the best, and I wish you the best things heaven can give.

Happy birthday mummy ❤️

From your little girl

Thelamide ❤️

Hey Family members, How are you doing? I’m okay ,a little bit pissed at some things but I’m fine. Today’s post is about Abuse.

We hear from many people who are in abusive relationships, and even those who have left relationships, but say that they love their abusive partner. They wonder, “Why do I love someone who has hurt me so much?” It can feel strange, confusing and even wrong to love someone who has chosen to be abusive.

While these feelings can be difficult to understand, they aren’t strange and they aren’t wrong. Love isn’t something that just disappears overnight. It’s a connection and emotional attachment that you create with another person. Love comes with a lot of investment of time, energy and trust. It’s not easy to just let go of a life you’ve built with someone, whether they’re abusive toward you or not.

If you’re struggling with feelings of love for an abusive partner, it could be for a number of reasons:

You Remember the “Good Times”

Your Partner Has Experienced Their Own Trauma

Love Can Be a Survival Technique

You might want to believe your partner when they say that things will change and get better because you love them, and they say they love you. It’s okay to feel that love and want to believe your partner. But it’s important to consider your own safety and that what your partner is giving you isn’t actually love.

Love is something that is safe, supportive, trusting and respectful. Abuse is not any of these things; it’s about power and control. It IS possible to love someone and, at the same time, realize that they aren’t a safe or healthy person to be around. You deserve to be saved , respected and truly loved at all times.

What starts off as well intentioned forgiveness turns into forfeiting your life for someone who is never going to be capable of being a truly healthy partner. Controlling, abusive partners need help. You are worth more in this life than waiting for their sickness to get better. You are worth a partner that respects you exactly as you are. You are worthy of a partner that does not control you or force you to hide parts of who you are. What if you even had a partner that was there to be a catalyst – even to your own personal growth in a healthy way? Imagine how far you could go in your life by shedding what is dragging you down. The longer you stay, the more difficult you will find the truth something you believe.

Experiencing abuse will eventually rob you of your self-worth. Being the victim in these relationships can cause you to think, “If only I had dressed better, or cleaned the house better, or been more affectionate… then maybe the fight wouldn’t have started.”

You should never think this way. If you had done everything perfectly the fight still would have started. The abuse still would have happened. Your partner is fighting something in themselves not of you, but taken out upon you. Nothing you do or don’t do can fix them or prevent this from happening again. You are not in control of this situation no matter how wonderful you are to them. Even if relationship never gets physically abusive, emotional abuse can escalate over time with devastating consequences, even death. And while emotional abuse does not always lead to physical abuse, physical abuse in relationships is nearly always preceded and accompanied by emotional abuse.

I hope this helps someone realize how special they are and should not settle for less.

See you next time

Thank you ❤️

TheLamide ❤️

Hey family members,

Trust we had a great week , today’s post is a story of a day in my life and it is very hillarious .

As a jss2 student, I used to do so many extra lessons even after 4pm closing time, especially mathematics cause I was very bad at it , still bad at it though. So this fateful day , my mum gave me #10,000 naira lesson fees to give my teacher , on getting to school, I didn’t see my math teacher immediately so I kept the money in my socks so I won’t misplace it and went about my daily activities.

It was time for sport later that day and we had to change out of our uniform to our sport wear. I had friends that we were all lazy and were not participating in any sport activities, so we decided to play “socks game”( it’s a very funny game we played in secondary school).

As the good Samaritan that I am , I gave up my socks for the game. The game was fun until I saw my math teacher pass , then I remembered I had to give him money , I looked down at my feet and my heart dropped. I started looking for the money but I could not find it, I didn’t even know where I dropped the money . I cried that day ehn cause I knew my mum would kill me because she expressly told me to give the money to my math teacher immediately I get to school.

I thought about not going home, but who would let me sleep in school? So I went home.when I got home, I told my brother about it and instead of him to make me feel better,he was saying things like “mummy will kill you “”you’re dead today”. Omoo ( would it be me if I don’t add omo to my story)

I cleaned the whole house ,then decided to write a letter that I was leaving the house and that my mum should not look for me . I even wrote that she should drop money for me and I’ll pick it up the next day when going to school, I also wrote that she should continue paying my school fees but she should not look for me.( Don’t ask me what I was thinking about, also note that I was 11 or so)

I packed few clothes and left the house , I went to our church and it was locked, then I went to my friend’s shop and stayed there ,Her mum asked where I was coming from and I said ” I went to collect cloth from the tailor for my mum”. I stayed for a few hours and when they were about to close shop ,her mum asked me to start going home .

I finally decided to go back home , tear the letter and act like nothing happened. Unfortunately for me , I met my mum at home already reading the letter . It was as if I should run back ,i knew I was I was in serious trouble. She gave me the beating of my life that day that even my neighbors were begging on my behalf. Since that day ,anytime I want to do something foolish, I always remember the beating and rethink.

She later called me to speak to me , that’s my caring and loving mother for you and even still gave me food and the goodies she brought From work that day.❤️

It ended in tears and food for me that day and I’m sure I’m not the only one that has made some stupid decisions like this before. You can share your story in the comment section, let’s laugh about it together.

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Stay positive ❤️💡

TheLamide ❤️

Hey Family members ,

I hope you’re doing well , Today’s post is about loving yourself.

You don’t love yourself enough, do you?

It’s heart breaking how you’ve learned to feel this way about yourself .We need to change that.

I remember a saying ” Treat others the way you’d like yourself to be treated I think it’s time we flipped that around.

Have you ever noticed how you treat yourself ? The mean words you say, the bullying that’s going on in your head? It’s making you feel worthless and it isn’t fair.

I used to be like you .

Everyday, I filled my head with unkind words. I beat myself up.

“you are a failure” I would say. “You’re never going to pass your exams” . But then I passed with good grades. “You’re useless” , I thought. “You couldn’t even get an A”.

And you know what? I kept beating myself up about my results until I was putting myself under huge amount of pressure. I was exhausted, mentally drained and extremely stressed but I got an A , it still never felt enough.

Nothing I could do was enough to stop these voices in my head. They kept growing louder and louder. They had more things to say.

“You’re too fat , you take up too much space.” ” You’re useless, you can not do anything right” . My entire day was full of negative self-talk. I couldn’t let go of the small things. Everyday was spent crying.

Something had to change.

With a lot of therapy and developing a relationship with God, I started working towards being kinder to myself.

It was hard believe me but I reminded myself that my standards were impossibly high . Instead of recognizing everything I did wrong , I praised myself for everything I did right.

Everyday , I made sure to do somethings to treat myself .I stopped worrying that I wasn’t using every second as best i could to get ahead in my career, i gave myself space to enjoy my life.

So you know all that negative self-talk ?

It’s no good for you. It’s soul destroying and there’s no way to justify it.

Enough people will try to drag you down .why would you help them ?

This has to be the moment

You give it up and start loving yourself, Because if not now,when?

Please try, everyday , to treat yourself the way you treat others.And I don’t mean those moments where you were at your absolute worst, forget them .Think of how kind you can be and give some of that kindness to yourself.

Treat yourself to a nice meal or movie.Give yourself time to meet with friends and enjoy them.

look at what you can do to make your life easier.

When you’re ready, listen to how you speak to yourself. You’re your harshest critic. Why is that ?Where did that voice come from ? Who taught you to hate yourself? It’s worth figuring out . Learn why you treat yourself like a villain .

It’ll take time but grab a pen and write them down as they come to you next time you’re giving out about how terrible you are, give them a read .We all have flaws but you are still a fantastic person .

The good things about you out weigh the bad , trust me.

You’re not useless , you’ve done so many great things. Against all your struggles you’ve made of this term you’re not a failure. Your greatest success just haven’t happened yet.

You’re not worthless ,you’re priceless.

You deserve love ,you deserve joy ,you deserve to have the infinite amount of love you give to others showered back on you. You deserve your own love.

So treat yourself the way you treat others. it our new given rule.

I hope this helps someone ❤️ See you next Friday, stay happy and positive ❤️❤️

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TheLamide ❤️

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Hey Family members

How are you doing? Thank you all for the love you all showed me on my last post, I was shocked for real. May God almighty continue to bless you.❤️

So sometimes ago , a friend told me her rape story and I was able to comfort her with my words and I know that there are other women out there like her, who are going through a lot waiting for the right words to be said to them , so I decided to write to them.

To my friend, the rape survivor;

I don’t know your name but this is for you. For the one who still can’t process it , for the one who is still reluctant to use the word. What an ugly word it is; RAPE.

To the world, it conjures up images of the creepy man hiding in the bushes late at night, but to you , it may not have been that way. perhaps, it’s the night you stayed behind at work when you thought the office was empty , or maybe it was that time you trusted that relative or that friend to drop you home in his car , or it was that gathering where someone followed you out of the room without you noticing. No matter what it was or how it happened, please remember, it was not your fault.

It was never your fault.

I’m sorry there was no one to support you as you walked home that day. I’m sorry that you had to put on a brave face in public with your mind screaming, your stomach in knots and your legs barely supporting your weight as your body begged to give up.

I’m sorry that you had to cry in the privacy of your shower and scubbed your skin to erase any trace or memories of what happened that day. I’m sorry that you went about your day and the weeks that followed in a state of numbness , because you felt like you couldn’t tell a soul, that nobody would understand ,that you would be judged ,that you would be told that you brought it upon yourself.

I’m sorry that you blamed yourself for not fighting hard or screaming loud enough. I’m sorry you lived in denial because accepting it had happened meant accepting a pain too heavy for you to carry.

I’m sorry you grew up in a culture that attributes Chasity to holiness , a culture that would never make exceptions for rape because it would never understand rape. I’m sorry that you saw your future collapse, that you thought marriage was no longer an option for you, that no one would ever want you , that you were no longer worthy of the dreams you once had.

I’m sorry that you felt your world ending everyday, but you couldn’t tell a soul. I’m sorry that you walked this journey alone , but know that you were never really alone ,there are others ,so many others living with the same weight. You all are survivors.

Know that no matter how alone you may have felt , and how abandoned you may have felt , God has always been there with you, witnessing every tear , every nightmare, every haunting thought , every pinch of pain you endured , every second of patience.

Even when you felt your faith falter, when you got angry at him , when you cried out “why me?” , He was there, watching over you. He alone knows the immense weigh of your pain and he alone will reward you for your patience. Trust that he will guide you through your recovery, he will numb the pain in your heart , he will give you inner strength you never knew you had to fight through this. He will send you a friend who will breath life back into you.

Please, know that you are worthy of love , you are worthy of happiness, you are worthy of all the things you told yourself you would no longer deserve because somebody violated you. It was not your fault. It was never your fault.

You deserve all the good this life has to offer. You will get through this ❤️

I really hope this helps someone going through this trauma. Please,if you’ve ever been raped or violated, speak up , so many people are ready to listen to your story , including me❤️

Till next Friday

Enjoy❤️❤️

TheLamide ❤️

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