Baby and big girl discipline

For this past year, I have constantly compared Alice to Penny. Part of it has come from having two girls and the natural comparison that comes from siblings (Penny started sleeping 10-12 hours a night at three months, just like Alice…Penny got her first tooth about the same time Alice got hers…). Part of it, though, came because my girls, for the first year, looked so similar (see examples here).

This past week, though, I’ve started really paying attention to their differences. A lot of it comes from this picture, taken at Penny’s one-year pics.

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Photo by Ruston Photography

THIS looks NOTHING like Alice. This is all Penelope.

I don’t know why it took such a visual realization that my children are different (or why it took a whole YEAR), but it did. And I love seeing their differences.

Take food, for instance. Alice has always loved eggs – scrambled, boiled, or fried. No matter how I make them, Penny absolutely refuses (something Alice never did at one year, just for the record). Alice loves peaches and oranges (Penny does not), and Penny loves watermelon (which Alice will not touch because it has seeds).

Even more exciting is seeing their precious personalities develop. I tell Kyle – pretty seriously, too – that Alice’s spiritual gifts are going to be an encourager and a consoler – because she’s amazing at both. She always wants to make people feel better if they are hurt or sad, and she is constantly everyone’s cheerleader. For example, tonight I put her books back on her bookshelf while she was cleaning her room, and she said, “Thank you, Mommy! You are so kind!”

I’m not sure what Penny’s spiritual gifts will look like, but her sense of humor is already developing – she pretends to eat my finger, then shoves it away and laughs hysterically. She is into EVERYTHING. Today alone she managed to sneak under her crib (and thankfully get out on her own), climb in the dishwasher, try to pull the tablecloth down, and, of course, eat everything her fingers could grab off the floor. She could care less about television, loves music, and has started loving books (it took long enough!). She points to things she wants me to describe more, and I’m pretty sure she’s saying more than we give her credit for.

I have a few reservations as they get older, too – because it’s already hard enough to parent Alice! I told Kyle I have to pray up every day for her because she is so tender hearted…and so willful too!! I haven’t done an “Alice Quotes” in a while, but here are just a few doozies I’ve dealt with THIS WEEK:

Alice: (when I refused to pillow fight with her, she put her hand on my cheek and said) “I’m not playing this game. I know the rules, and you know the rules.”

Alice: “I do what I want.”

Alice: (Arguing with her father because she wanted the ONE laundry basket she couldn’t have) “If you don’t give me this laundry basket, I will be sad and I will cry!”

Alice: (arguing with Kyle that she needed grapes – that we didn’t have – before bed – it’s a procrastination technique) “If you don’t give me grapes, I will yell and I will go in Penny’s room and yell and wake her up.”

But, no, she’s really tenderhearted, too. I promise.

I have started trying to discipline Penny now that she’s one. Alice thinks this is the greatest – probably because she likes to see Penny get in trouble when she pulls Alice’s hair (which is fairly often) or throws food on the ground (which is at every meal). But their discipline is still very different. I don’t pull Penny out of her high chair and put her in time out every time she throws food on the ground. But if Alice doesn’t behave in the count of three, she goes in time out. No questions asked. And I think that’s hard for Alice to understand, but she’s handling it well. I explain that she’s a responsible big girl and that I do expect more from her because she is such a big girl, and Penny is still just a baby. Plus – big girls get to have more fun, like stay up later, eat brownies, and go to big church. So it’s a give and take.

It’s also so fun to hear my voice echoed in little Alice. We were leaving the library today, and Penny was very unhappy about it. As I was sweating bullets while buckling her in the stroller (it was an ordeal), Alice was stroking Penny’s head and saying, “Shhhh. It’s okay, Penny. I know you’re mad, but it’s okay. We’ll come back later, okay?”

That little girl – she and her sister have their mama’s heart.

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Penny turns one

My baby is one.

My baby is no longer a baby anymore.

I suppose, technically, yes, she is still a baby, not a toddler, but she is crawling and almost walking and eating real food like peanut butter and whole milk, and she just doesn’t seem very baby-ish anymore. But she’ll always be my baby girl.

We had her birthday festivities basically throughout the whole first part of the month. We celebrated up with family in Hot Springs, where she was a little tentative that everyone was singing “Happy Birthday” to her, but after that, she figured it out. I think she already is aware that when people sing “Happy Birthday,” yummy cake follows.

In things that precious Penny has accomplished this month…

  • She says a variety of words (?) now, such as barking at the dog and mimicking Alice (and now us) when she says, “Cockadoodle doo.” She says something similar like, “doo doo doo.”
  • Music fanatic – even in restaurants. If a song she likes comes on, she will just dance. She LOVES Kindermusik classes.
  • Is doing great transitioning to whole milk. We’re still doing a half/half mixture, but she only gets sippy cups now, and she’s doing lovely.
  • Still has mama separation anxiety. Thankfully, it doesn’t last long, but she does hate it when I leave the room.
  • Can walk assisted with just one hand now. She really can walk because she really doesn’t use my hand for anything except confidence – but she has not taken any steps on her own.
  • Has five teeth – three on top, two on bottom. Still in size 4 diapers and 18-24 month clothing.
  • Still takes an afternoon and a morning nap, though she can skip that morning nap if needed.
  • Sleeps from 7 p.m. til about 7:30 a.m. now. Going back to school is going to be hard for all of us!
  • She loves water. LOVES water. She loves playing in the sprinklers, being in the pool, being in the bath, whatever. I have a little mermaid on my hands.
  • She (and Alice) love when I read to them during breakfast and lunch. Penny’s fav books are still ones that have different textures (particularly Usborne’s “That’s not my” series and ones that make noise).
  • She pitched a fit from start to finish at her 12-month checkup on the 14th, but she weighed 21 lb, 13 oz (80th percentile) and was 29 ¼ inches long (75th percentile).
  • Favorite foods can be found in the dairy, carb, and fruit aisles. Loves bagels or oatmeal for breakfast, grilled cheese sandwiches, crackers, strawberries, bananas, and pepperonis – which I find that last so funny for some reason. She loves pepperoni pizza.

It’s been a wild year, CP, but we have loved it. I never knew my heart could expand so perfectly to include a second child – but it did. It truly is a miracle how that works, because I am so infatuated and in love with Alice. But the moment Penny was born, she had my heart, too – and I found I loved Alice with equal ferocity. I love watching my girls play together, I love seeing their similarities and differences already taking shape, and I love that Kyle and I still get one-on-one time with each of them.Screen Shot 2017-07-18 at 6.49.16 AM

Happy birthday, my darling girl.

 

Penny: 11 months

One more month…and then she’ll be a solid one year old.

Things Penny has added to her “I am awesome” list:

  • From 10 months to 11 months, WE DID NOT GO TO THE DOCTOR!!! Can I get an amen on that?? This, I believe, is the second month OF HER LIFE that we did not visit a doctor of some sort.
  • Can’t be 100% sure, but I’m pretty sure this kid says “thank you” when I give her food and yells, “Hey, Judah,” to get my attention.
  • LOVES music – especially when she plays it and Seeds worship music.
  • I quit nursing her last Saturday, and so far we haven’t looked back. Girl loves her food and her bottles/sippies (she gets a bottle just at night now). She loves blueberry muffins, fruit, yogurt, and toast.
  • Has mama separation anxiety…pretty bad. Maybe it’s just me being protective over my last little baby, but I just think she has separation anxiety bad – but it’s obviously not bad enough that she doesn’t stop crying after a few minutes, so that’s good.
  • Still moves like crazy. She stood up on her own earlier this month, but she’s very cautious, so I don’t think we’ll have a walker anytime soon.
  • Has four teeth now – two on the top and two on the bottom. Those top two are so mean to her.
  • Wears size 4 diapers and 18-month clothing.
  • Loves walking if you hold both hands (again, very cautious).
  • Needs to take a morning and afternoon nap. I say needs because if she’s at church (or VBS like this week), she apparently thinks it’s fine to skip that morning nap. It. Is. NOT.
  • Gets very angry if she doesn’t get her way – which is not often.
  • Generally is supposed to sleep from about 7-7. Usually it’s about 6:45-6:45 though.
  • Starts her very first Kindermusik class this week!

She is beautiful and inquisitive and exploratory and I just love this little star to pieces!!

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Penny: 10 months

My deepest apologies, dear CP, but I have neglected to do you a 10-month blog until you are a full 10.5 months old. Not that it matters too much, as you’re doing much of the same stuff now that you were two weeks ago, but I apologize that you’re 10-month birthday fell right at the end of school, when my focus was on my work so I could celebrate SUMMER.

— At 10 months, I don’t think we visited the doctor this month, except for going to see an ENT, who said no tubes! At first I was a little disappointed, as Penny had dealt with a runny nose since basically October, but now that she’s cleared up for about a month, I’ve been fairly pleased.

— Is speaking well. She has said “Alice,” (which is the sweetest thing) and says a variety of other semi-words, such as “lala,” “yaya,” and “baba.”

— She took a bottle four times a day, but (surprise!) we switched her to three bottles/nursing sessions last week. She loves fruit, dairy, and carbs. She tolerates green beans and sweet potatoes, but basically hates all other veggies – even in squeezie form!

— Started crawling like a champ. That girl is FAST. She started crawling and didn’t stop.

— Still adores bath time – a little too much. We had to move her to the kitchen sink because she kept diving head first in the tub. I was breaking a sweat just bathing her.

— Has two teeth on the bottom.

— Weighs about 20 lbs and wears size 4 diapers and 12-18 month clothing.

— Loves to walk while holding someone’s hands.

— Sleeps from 7-7 and takes a morning and afternoon nap, usually lasting about 2 hours total.

— Still grabs everything. EVERYTHING. And is so determined.

We love you, Penelope!

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Penny: 9 months

As per our usual, we did see the doctor again this month, but this time it was for an ear infection. Not my favorite, but at least it wasn’t a UTI! We haven’t had one since Christmas, thank goodness, and this is the longest stretch she’s gone without one. Even if we have one again now, we’re making some progress!

Penny has been a doll, as usual. We were told by her pediatrician that she is spoiled and that it is okay for us to put her down every once in a while. Everyone says how sweet she is – it’s because she gets her way all the time! Her darling personality continues to develop; she definitely knows what she wants and will voice her opinion until she gets it.

She’s also very laid back, for all of her demanding qualities. She’s satisfied pretty easily, is a very happy and content baby, and she loves life. I couldn’t ask for much more!

This month, Penny…

— Generally doesn’t talk too much. She still coos, says “dada” and occasionally some other words (“gaga,” “mama,” “yaya,” and such), but she laughs more than anything else.

— Is refusing bottles/sippy cups most days. She’s not interested. She’d rather not take that bottle at school. Thankfully, she eats her solid foods really well, though. On weekends, she nurses four times a day and eats solid foods three times (about 8 oz each time). On work days, she’s offered a sippy but more often than not won’t take it.

–Is working to crawl, but not much. She is definitely not a crawler, but she is finally showing signs that she can. She’s much better at crawling/scooting backwards than anything else.

— Loves bath time still. She can chew on some ducks.

— Speaking of chewing, Penny has a tooth! That bottom one finally came in, and the next one isn’t far behind, I can tell.

— Weighs 19 lb, 10 oz and is 28 ½ in long, 75th percentile for both. She wears 12 month clothing and size 4 diapers.

— Loves standing up, assisted. LOVES it. Would much rather stand than sit or try to crawl. She is so proud of herself when she does; you can see it in her face. She thinks she’s a big girl.

— Still sleeps from about 7 p.m. to 6:30-7 a.m. and takes two naps. The naps usually total about 2-3 hours.

— Still is into EVERYTHING. I mean, EVERYTHING. She will grab anything that comes near her. It cracks me up.

— Officially retired the bumbo. She was able to move it around, so it had to go. The swing is about to be retired next.

— Loves people and seeing things. She will strain her neck around to see what’s going on around her.

She is such a social, outgoing baby.

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An interview with Alice — age (almost) 4

  1. Who is your favorite person in the whole world?

Mia and Mattie
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  1. What your favorite color?

Purple and pink and red

  1. What’s your favorite show to watch on TV?

Princesses

  1. What’s your favorite outfit?

A costume – Elsa

  1. What sport do you like best?

Football

  1. What’s your favorite song?

“Hello” by Adele

  1. Who is your best friend?

Mia W and Mattie and Mia L and Mattie Lynn

  1. What do you want to be when you grow up?

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  1. What is your favorite book?

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  1. What color is your hair?

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  1. What color are your eyes?

Blue

  1. What’s your favorite food?

Bananas – all the bananas

  1. What’s your favorite treat?

Easter eggs

14.What animals do you like?

Lions (even though she made me and Kyle remove all the lions from her room a few nights ago because they were scary….)

  1. What do you like to do with Daddy?

Tickles

  1. What do you like to do with Mommy?

Basketball (I took her to a game, and she got to hug the coach)
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  1. What’s your favorite movie?

Lion Guard

  1. What’s your favorite store?

Toys R Us

 

Happy birthmonth, dear one!

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Studying Scripture

I don’t remember my first Bible study.

I remember my first “big girl” Bible study with a group of girls at my church. We studied Beth Moore’s “So Long, Insecurity,” which, to be honest, I don’t remember that well. I do remember the connectedness I felt with the group, though, and a desire to grow more in Christ with these women around me. I had often done Bible studies in college thanks to the BCM, but this was probably my first Bible study attended as a married woman.

Since that time so many years (and so many children!) ago, I’ve completed numerous studies. Beth Moore is still one of my favorite teachers, though I’ve branched out with studies by Lisa Harper, Priscilla Shirer (LOVE), Kelly Minter, and even the fallen-from-public-grace Jen Hatmaker. Beth Moore reigns as my favorite, though, because of her insistence that we all can learn on our own. She encourages her students to study Scripture themselves, to question their teachers, and seek answers from God, not from man. Which I love. I love that she encourages people to go straight to the Word. Not to another book or another teacher or (the most distasteful, in my opinion) another study of hers. To God’s Word. Where we should be going in the first place.

I’m actually finishing up her “Entrusted” study on 2 Timothy, and I’m already finding myself at unease. What do I do now? Who do I study? Our church generally offers a fall and spring women’s Bible study. This is the spring one. How am I supposed to wait until fall for the next study?

Before “Entrusted,” I had been using this Life Lived Beautifully Journal, which was very helpful in keeping me focused on Bible study and prayer, as I have lots of trouble maintaining both, it seems. Either I focus too much on prayer and too little on Scripture study or vice versa. So I might go back to that.

I’ve also thought about listening to podcasts during my morning quiet time. Matt Chandler with The Village Church is always spot on, and I’ve recently been introduced to Risen Motherhood, which also has a podcast.

Then there’s so many books that I could study, but they don’t delve as much into the Word as I want. I want to study it, but I want to understand as well. And I like having a plan. Will I study a Scripture, a person, a theme, or a book? The Bible is a really big book. People spend their lives studying it. Sometimes, to me at least, it seems quite daunting to try to study something on my own.

Our church is offering a Scripture journaling class this Thursday, too, that I’m planning to attend. I’m not overly sure what all it entails, but I’m happy to share when I figure it out.

But one thing is for sure: I’ve got to find something. I’m pretty sure my favorite time of the day is morning before the kids get up. Kyle makes my coffee, and I sit in my reading chair in our bedroom and do my quiet time. I don’t want to – I can’t – give that up. But I also like to have a plan.

What’s everyone else do? Any suggestions?

Penny: 8 months

I’m a few days late on this. Penny is celebrating her Spring Break, so Kyle and I have divvied up days of watching her. It’s been a lovely week spending one-on-one time with our baby girl. We don’t get enough individual time with either kids, unfortunately, so when we do – even when we have to take days off of work to do so – we celebrate our time with them.

What Penny has accomplished this month…

  • She can say “dada,” “Alice,” and “mama” (finally). I’m pretty sure I also have heard her say, “yaya” and “Judith,” but I can’t verify that for sure. Her favorite thing to say is, “Hey, daddy.” Or maybe it’s my favorite thing to hear her say, because it’s the most precious.
  • She nurses/takes a bottle four times a day and eats solids (4-8 oz) three times a day. Girl loves her food! She’s a big fruit fan, but she will tolerate her veggies like a good baby. She also is in love with puffs. IN. LOVE.
  • With all this food comes growth! We’ve seen the doctor frequently this last month battling RSV, and I’m pretty sure her last weight check was 18 lb, 10 oz. She is in 12 month clothes (can still squeeze in 9-12 month, but 12 months fit pretty good) and in size 3 diapers.
  • Can semi-crawl…backwards. Poor lamb. She’s so frustrated by it.
  • Loves sitting in a laundry basket in the tub. It’s her favorite.
  • Still loves her pink cat lovie. We have officially quit trying to swaddle her, too. We just lay a blanket over her at night.
  • And for her nighttime activities, she sleeps from 7 a.m. to 6:30-7 a.m. (we generally get her up around 7, but she’s chatty about 6:30 usually). She takes a morning and afternoon nap, usually totaling up to 2-3 hours.
  • Still into everything. And everything goes in her mouth.
  • Loves books with texture still. Her favorite books are the Usborne “That’s not my…” series.
  • Loves people. She is just as social as Alice.
  • She can stand sort of well if she’s holding on to something.

She is such a doll.

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Penny: 7 months

Goodness, goodness, where has the time gone?

My baby girl is seven months old, and we almost let it pass us by this morning. She is beautiful and sassy already, and we are just so in love with her.

In her amazingness this month, Penny…

  • Started eating yogurt and puffs, which was a big deal. She is fascinated with puffs and really enjoys yogurt.
  • She can eat a solid eight ounces in a sitting. Add that to being nursed/having a bottle four times a day, and this girl is doing well. She weighed 17 lb, 10 oz earlier this month.
  • And we know she weighed that because, as usual, we were at the doctor’s office AGAIN. This time, though, it was for RSV. Thankfully, she had a mild case, but it was still very worrisome for us for about a week.
  • She is trying very hard to crawl. She scoots and rolls to get toys out of her reach.
  • Loves books that have texture.
  • Is into EVERYTHING. Don’t leave ANYTHING ANYWHERE near her, because she will get it.
  • Is obsessed with this pink cat lovie. HAS to have it at night.
  • Speaking of night, she’s getting better and better at breaking out of her swaddle, which is a pain, because then she’s wide awake two hours early…
  • Goes to bed at 7 p.m. and wakes up (supposedly) at 7 a.m. Most of the time it’s earlier than that, though.
  • Is trying hard to say “Alice.” It’s so sweet.
  • Her feet must be delicious.
  • Can move like crazy in her walker now.
  • Is wearing 9-12 month clothes and wears size 3 diapers.
  • Is discovering her voice more – which means lots of shrill, happy screams.

She’s so much fun to be around and is always so happy! We love this darling girl.

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These girls — a photo collage

It’s become a running joke in our house that I gave birth to twins separated by three and a half years. We really need to write names on the back of the girls’ baby pictures, because for real — I GAVE BIRTH TO TWINS SEPARATED BY THREE YEARS.

For your viewing enjoyment…

I must say, Kyle and I may make a certain type of girl, and I’m so glad it’s a beautiful type!