Monday, June 21, 2010
温岚 傻瓜
歌词词:温岚 曲:吴克群
其实他做的坏事我们都懂
没有什么不
同眼光闪烁
暧昧流动
闭上眼当作听说
其实别人的招数我们都懂
没有什么不同
故作软弱
撒娇害羞
只是有一点别扭
傻瓜也许单纯地懂
爱得没那么做作
爱上了我不保留
傻瓜
我们都一样
被爱情伤了又伤
相信这个他不一样
却又再一次受伤
傻瓜
我们都一样
受了伤却不投降
相信付出会有代价
代价只是一句
傻瓜
truth is, a man will never change. but its ok. i'll count my blessings, and i know better days are just up ahead. =)
-when are you
coming back? ;
Monday, March 01, 2010
aug 18 2009- last post. i guess my friends will be startled when they see this post too. ;)
just a feeling that i need to jot some of my learnings down.. and hopefully i can share this fantastic knowledge with my friends, its just some of the things i've learnt about men and women and i'm so seeing them in such different light.
basically we can meltdown this whole world into 2 energies, feminine and masculine. describing them in very primitive terms, the masculine hunts for survival, and the feminine dances and loves. in this world, the feminine are loving, flowing energies and this is the basis for happiness, while the masculine seeks direction, and in addition to today's society, they are required to handle woman and thus the household well.
let me explain the link to u guys. a woman who is feminine in her core will usually want to manage the household in terms of the feminine chores, such as cleaning, nurturing kids, cooking etc etc. while man will be in charge of accounting, finances, direction in his own life. and thus if a man is unable to handle a woman well, a woman will be unhappy and thus be unable to perform her feminine duties well, in plain terms, unable to make the man happy in bed and unable to manage the household well. this is a viscious cycle that both partners always wait for one another to take action but usually none ends up taking the right action.
let me explain how a man should handle a woman. first let me start off with what i use to think about both genders.
i used to think that woman are ridiculous, even myself included at times, ok, most of the times. we women seem to have ridiculous mood swings almost everyday. and we cannot explain it! we cannot explain why we feel like that and we cant control our feelings, we cant get out of negative feelings and consciously put ourselves in positive ones, of course, unless someone tries to put u in a positive mood. and if u're lucky enuff to get daily doses of people pampering u to positive moods, u might even find urself resisting their goodwill and advices to put u back to the positive mood. instead, you drain urself deeper n deeper into the negative moods. of course, this extreme end we're talking about is the princess syndrome, which has little to do with my topic as im sidetracking a little, for "princesses" should just go and die because they're pampered and they will die either by jumping off a building now or stressed to death by the society in the near future. anyways, my main point is that your flucuating moods and unexplainable behaviours have REASONS! you're acting accordingly to the opposite sex's signals. to understand these reasons, u must first understand the roles of man and woman deeply.
a man is very simple minded. A means A and B can never mean C. but in the world of a woman, logic and reason and control cease to exist. you must understand that a woman's world is so colourful, it includes the extreme colours as well. but if u choose only to love the beautiful colours but not the dark or dull colours that comes with it, u're not a man spiritually and lovingly deep enough to be worthy of a woman who will love you limitlessly. a woman's first priority in life is to LOVE, to give and to receive. and they are very alert, very sharp and sensitive to things that ain't in tune. a man, on the other hand, have to have their 'mission' in life(which can change at different points in life, ie now he wants to succeed in his biz financially, and in the next 10 years he wants to be a philantropist.) and this mission in life is unstoppable by ANY woman. in fact, woman are placed beneath their top mission. they will choose to be doing their top mission then be in bed snuggling up with their woman, and the woman knows that she prefers it this way too, as it means that the man's core and purpose in life is strong. other than having a mission in life, a man needs to be loving and be able to manage his woman's temperature. for example, when she is feeling upset or angry, it is almost always due to the feeling of lack of love, and at that moment of argue, he shouldnt be fixing the topic of argument, but instead he should be showing love to his woman, until she laughs and is happy radiantly again. by then, the topic of argument shouldnt be an issue at all. (a woman always tests her man, over and over again, to test his strength and his core, and if the man can handle her well without any ugly arguments, he has passed the test and the woman will become happy again). this is what i mean by managing the woman. it is near impossible to please a woman every single time. this will lead to her being pampered and not in tune with her own gentle and understanding feminine essence. but a man should know what he could have done, what he needs to do, so on and so forth.
a woman's mood flow accordingly to the signals she pick up from her man. for example, she realises he is not that into his work, but slouches in front of the tv all the time. from here, a million consequences can happen. usually the more predictable ones will be that she'll get angry, start to become more masculine and pick up the pieces in the family, resenting the man for it. or she'll give warning signals to the man by scolding him, nagging at him etc etc. so when man feels such signals, they only categories it into the "irritating" section. they cant see it as love from a woman to improve himself. this is one of the major major mistake man make to land both himself and his wife into this viscious cycle of no love. this will lead to serious problems such as false depolarization or neutralisation of love between them. they will start to think that they are not in love anymore, but that is untrue. they merely took on the opposite roles that they didnt have to take on, just because the couple ain't acutely aware of their situation. (for eg, a separated couple might find their love rekindling after say, 5 years, even though they hated each other when they were getting a divorce back then)
a woman can be as gentle as the breeze... and as harsh as the witch. they're always ready to chop your head off, if u're not strong in your core or u have done something to incur her wrath. so when a woman get bloody pissed off with u, it's not their choice. it's their natural reaction from picking up certain signals that they themselves might not even know! so, based on their extremely accurate sense of emotions, trust their actions and please believe that there is ALWAYS a reason behind her bahaviour.. if u do not wish to think about it, u are not a man worthy of her help to improve your shortcomings. so, before u think that she is being ugly showing her digusting emotional tantrums, think about yourself. which ugly part of u have you shown her(ie haven gotten rid of) to incur her wrath? woman are unconsciously good at making her man better. so if u love her, look into the areas where u should be improving. u will realise that u'll have to face many ugly truths about yourself. it shouldnt be an easy process.
-when are you
coming back? ;
Tuesday, July 21, 2009
am i too demanding to want a very special someone to spend my 21st birthday with me? even just a simple dinner?
or am i too egoistic that i can't allow my 21st birthday to be unplanned for?
i'm just upset. i dun wanna celebrate my birthday anymore.
i hate myself.
-when are you
coming back? ;
Monday, July 20, 2009
it's my only 21st birthday. Once it's over i can never get it back..
-when are you
coming back? ;
Sunday, July 12, 2009
things are moving so fast that i have no time to keep track of anything. but whatever it is, i just have to say that i think about my friends everyday and i've really been wondering how they are. though i know its not enuff to keep the freiendship running without any action, but i'll try my best. =)
i love you guys. : )
-when are you
coming back? ;
Thursday, June 18, 2009
happier things are happening around me..
got hall 13 so now i do have accommodation =)
birthday party at sentosa more or less settled. i'm making it a beach party =)
i have a direction in what i wanna do
but there's still so much more for me to work on. i have a friend saying all the right spots about me, i'm still young and raw, not yet impressionable and my mindset is still rather shallow, has a little depth because of external influences from others and stuff like that. i just have to go thru so much more shit before i can emerge stronger.
but im looking forward to it =)
so much exercises to do and im so fucking LAZY. someone pei me go workout on a regular basis can???!?
-when are you
coming back? ;
Friday, June 05, 2009
I AM HAPPY!!!!
cos im back from taiwan and i bot lotsa new clothes!!!!
And i bot lots of things for my friends!!!! =)))
and i had so much fun in taiwan!
i must go back taiwan by the end of this year, and i will get my dermalogica stuff then! =D
but im sick and i dun like that =(
-when are you
coming back? ;
