NostalgiaAnakMami

Pengantin sungguh cun sekali berposing. Mari kita lihat aksi di sebalik tabir pula.

Quote daripada Zue "what happen when your friend get married...and hire your friend as the photographer?chances are........you can tag along and help out...sayyyy...... pegang payung bila hujan? dan juga menjadi model sambilan demi memeriahkan gambar... yeeee haaaa.... "

Yaaa.... betul.... ini lah hasil model sambilan in action:
Nampak tak model-model sambilan kita? Sangat kiut, ok.... hikhikhik....

Finally….

I have registered yesterday… therefore, I am officially a student once again. Actually, can’t tell the difference since I am still at the same place and doing research in the same area :P~

However… the process to finally declare myself a student again has been somewhat tiring and challenging.

I did not really plan to pursue PhD while I was doing my masters. I knew I have passion for teaching, and after doing some tutoring jobs, I just knew it has to be the path I’d follow.

A school teacher? I almost applied for education course but chose not to, just to keep my options wider. I looked for other courses that can allow me to jump job scopes anytime if I changed my mind about teaching. And…another thing… kids n teenagers nowadays scare me, seriously. They are more advanced and I dunno… aggresive, maybe? I don’t think I can handle them :P~ And I don’t want to end up being a lousy teacher either… so I’ll leave the job to people who are best at it :-) and I really admire those who put 80-100% commitment to their teaching career.

This passion has somehow influenced me to further my studies (*in a field that I chose abruptly but found love in)…

and to my friends who have heard rumours that I’ll be going overseas to do my PhD… (and keep asking me when I’m leaving Malaysia)…

Wow… I think I’ll clarify.

I was at the final process… I already have the offer letters from the university with me. I even got a student ID and web account from the department there with two good supervisors who were interested with my research proposal. What stood between me and all these - a final approval locally (*funding) and visa.

Keboof…. all disappeared like a dream! There were some unresolved issues. I will not elaborate further… But there and then, everything changed. I lost it, my enthusiasm and hope… for some time. The appeal process really ate my motivation, as everything end up with rejections. I was very close to forget about everything and just move on. Industry maybe! But, I hold on… I dunno why. My heart is telling me to stay.

Change of plans. I had to change my mindset as well. Telling myself over and over again, Not to let rejections eat me up. If this is important for me, I have to be strong and stand for it. I also believe in rezeki and destiny. If it’s meant to be, it’ll be. If it’s not, maybe we can still try our best to try to make it happen. But at times, in certain situations, letting go is also the best thing we can do, letting go of something, but still look for other options for the same cause ;-)

Forget about UK and focus on USM. If I were to apply to other local Uni, maybe there will be some resistance in me… but usm, this place will heal and boost my spirits.

Ok…

I’ve just made my way on-board the voyage. I know there’s gonna be rain and shine, thunderstorms and winds, = obstacles, challenges along the way… It might not be a smooth sailing, but I hope it’ll be an interesting journey, a learning curve and get to the destination safely… hehhehee….

Wish me luck ;-)

tenkiu u ollsss… for the never ending supports and words of encouragement :*

Since I was small kid, I loved to look at photos very much. Growing up, I’d still be looking at photos of yesteryears and remembering the times they were taken… I dunno, maybe this has helped me in keeping the memories fresh in my head.

In my teenage years, I remember I was always nagged at, by my elder sister, if the photos I took did not have nice angles. Especially when she was in Form 5, I had to take a lot of her self portrait (she wanted to put on friends’ autographs). Her complaints had me on guard everytime I took pictures of people. Center! Balanced! Focused!

I also started to develop love for photos from hi-definition cameras. At that time, manual SLR. Alisa used a SLR since she was 13. Looking at her developed photos, wow… admiration. I thought “hmmm.. bila lah aku leh amik gambaq cun macam ni aaa”. Then, I came across bunch of photos Jessie took, I was mesmerised, which led to, me chasing her for editorial board… hihiihih… I really admire their photography.

For my sis’ matriculation’s graduation, my dad borrowed his collegue’s SLR since our camera was out of order. I was salivating over it, and immediately took control. Hihihi.. konfiden je lebih… But, not all the pictures turned out ok. Malu jek.. hahahaa…

Jump a few years… while I was doing degree, in midst of completing programming assignments and chasing project dues, I found myslef glued to the computer, creating super-imposed photos. Yaa.. talk about spending too much time on computers! :P I nearly got in trouble because of that. After that, I became more sensitive on editing people, because some people may get hurt if we simply brush off or brush in certain things. On the other hand, that gave me a head-start for photo editing.

Then, digital cameras came in the market, but not many owned it yet. I remember Dindi was among the first one having this gadget so we had some digital photos of degree year… thanks to her camera and also bukh’s desa harapan’s camera :P~ Remembering it now… ahaha.. even most of my convocation photos were taken using film-roll camera… hihihi..

My very own camera… I was sooo excited. Tak henti-henti klik sana klik sini… Never have I planned to do wedding photos. At first, I was only a tag-along photographer, usually providing company to Alisa, who started doing wedding shots using her manual SLR and semi-SLR.

A few months later, Kak Haira gave me her trust to cover her wedding as the official photographer. With my semi-SLR, I took the challenge. From the feedbacks I’ve got, I started to take more challenges, covering weddings even from people who are not in my networks.
At first, I felt stiff, at times a bit shy. I was more gabra than the groom for nikah ceremony… worried if I might missed the most important shot, the akad itself. After some time, I gained more and more confidence. Although, I tend to have gabra-ness every now and then… i’d be recovering fast.

Editing is more tiring than shooting. It involves time and effort… and that can also mean taking away some of the precious times allocated for other things. Perfecting the skills is a must… therefore, I am still learning… As for photography, my Lighting still needs a lot of practise n learning.

Maintanence is also high. Switching to DSLR-Nikon D60 which I currently shoot with, took months of saving. Since I don’t charge as much as professional photographers, I do not earn that much. So maintanence and upgrading has to take months of saving. Yaa.. like many people say, Photography is an expensive hobby… yeahhh.. IT IS! I can buy a big new fridge for my family at the price of a new lense. Hard labour u see… heheheheehe…

Once upon a time, the word computer and IT sounded very alien to many human. I grew up in that era. When I was in primary school, I did not escape from the most typical question asked – What you want to be when you grow up @ Apakah cita-cita kamu? Most of us answered Teacher, Doctor or Lawyer.

When we started to reach 10-11, the options widened, simply because we were exposed to more choices. One of us wanted to become a fashion designer (now an engineer… but maybe soon going to chase her life-longed ambition). There was this one time, one of my classmates said “I want to become a lecturer” and the whole class went “wooooo”. Everybody looked very kagum with that ambition. Three quarter of the class had no idea what lecturer was, including me, then she had to explain to all curious faces that lecturer is like a teacher but you teach in a university, and everybody was like “woooooo” again. University!!! That word sounded soooo big and dreamy last time. I just stick with Doctor as my answer.

Then somewhere around 12, the government started to promote the importance of science in education. The opening of Science Exhibition centers had really made an impact on kids and young teenagers back then. Suddenly, everybody wants to become an engineer or a scientist (but too young to know that it is too generic to say scientist without mentioning your specialization :P).

I joined the Science Club in Form 1 and 2, and yes, most of the members were science lovers and slightly geek-ish. I still remember joining the educational trip to Usm…  :P My second visit here after first one, accompanying my dad playing football when I was 5. My two close buddies and I roamed around the campus and fell in love with the museum, which has a special science area. Never had it occurred to me that I would end up in this place for a very long time! Hahaha

Hmm… still, I did not know what I wanted to be when I grow up. I would just say doctor (HAHA.. ingat senang-senang ke jadi doctor) masih ignorant lagi time tu. I even dreamt of becoming a heart specialist because the subject Sistem Jantung caught my attention more than anything else in Sains.

All the fantasies ended… when I was in Form 4. Being in a pure science class, during Biology class, we had to conduct some experiments involving B.L.O.O.D. We were doing experiment on blood cells… I thought I was so macho; I volunteered one of my fingers to be the korban. Using traditional utensil, my friends poked my finger… I saw patches of blood… errrr blooood… and suddenly, I felt cloudiness in my head. My head was turning around and I was losing balance, so I quickly caught my stool and sat on it with my head down. I thought it was due to the blood lose (DRAMA… punyalah sikit darah yg kuar)…

The following year, I volunteered to poke people’s finger rather than having mine poked. And kesiannlaaa my friend tu, I keep poking but can’t really poke through coz every time I applied pressure to the skin, I hesitated. She was already jerking her fingers because my uncertainty was actually causing pain to her skin tissues… haha… so someone else took it from me and poked it. I saw blood… deep red bloooood… Again, I had the same experience…. I sat down reaching for fresh air coz I did not want to end up fainting. Malu laaa :P tak macho maaa. Then, I knew, I had to kiss goodbye for anything medical… nurse, doctor, M.A… I would disqualify for anything related to it.

In the meantime, my interest in chemistry subject was degrading. Thinking of how less I actually paid attention to this subject…scary man… I didn’t even revise the subject properly during SPM. I hate it that much I can say. Thank god I survived spm. When I went into matriculations, I still proceeded with pure science without putting much thought into it. I loved all the subjects except for chemistry. Bio, I loved Bio… but again, during an experiment – dissect a white mouse.

I was so proud as Rinaz and I were the first team to complete the dissection and able to separate all the organs nicely… that was before the lecturer asked us to open up the skull. I scratched the skull using the blade. I scratched again, again…. And suddenly everything went black… I felt tight and suffocated. I just walked out from the lab to get some fresh air, and dropped some baby tears. I dunno where it came from, I just felt so weak and useless.

The forms were distributed (belum guna online forms). Everyone in matriculation was busy with the forms. All conversations were about choices, options and future. I saw the list of courses and universities. What course??? Which Uni??? “Not in the Northen area, definitely…never… I am not going to be stuck in Penang/North”. NEVER SAY NEVER eh?? :P

All the pure and applied sciences have either mild or extensive chemistry subjects in it. I wanted to apply to a course that has no chemistry in it. I listed down some of the courses. The list, (we were given only 5 choices back then) I end up with most of it being related to computer /IT subjects.

The reasons I had… First, because it still has the word science/technology in it; and I have always loved science. Second, it has no chemistry subject and anything related to chemistry. Third, I thought computer science means, a lot of technicality and practical works and less reading. HAHAHHAAHAHAHHAHAHHAAH……. I WAS SOOOO WRONGGGG about the third one!

I played a lot in my matriculations so I did not have excellent grades so I knew I would be rejected if I applied for hard-core courses, plus all the hard-core courses I was interested in, was related to chemistry… hahahaa.. so I’d better play safe with choices I knew I would have higher chances of getting, rather than being a lelong candidate.

My first choice was some hardcore engineering course. Second choice, I wanted to fill in UM-computer science, but people told me that This Uni has the best computer science course. As much as I wanted to explore other places than Northern Msia, however, listening to many advices; I put one of it as my 2nd choice. I thought well, maybe I won’t get the placement and they would forward me to my third choice. I was betting on it.

When I made my call to the KPM operator, and the machine spelled the course I’ve got, I was speechless. “bla bla bla… bla bla” What??? Still in North???? Very disappointed… but not for long… because I started to develop special feelings for this university. Now, I am close to being obsessed to it… mwahahhaaa….

So here I am, still doing Computer Science. Everyone else has graduated and working happily in either computer-related field or opted for other job scopes. I graduated too… but somehow I am still here… extending my stay and studies in this field. So much for a choice I made bluntly right?

Life is unpredictable ;-)

I joined the school's alumni event recently. Instead of writing about the event or our tasks, I am going to write about my beloved sister's pink colored 1-half inch high heels sandals. Let's get pinky ya.

I was told that we can wear anything, and I wore something usual, with the pink sandals. I didn't know we were going to do hard labour.... and after some time.. I really start to feel pain and discomfort. but work must go on, we had to continue distributing the food to the participants. I even stood barefeet once a while.. cannot tahan di.

Then, I saw one of our member's son sitting at the corner. He is about 20, looking all macho and relaxed; and there's another boy around 11, another member's son, running around and looking so... well, young! :P . They just came back after a short tour around Pisa. Something caught my attention! the 20 year old guy's slippers, wow.... the answer to my pain and agony. Then, I made a bargain.

"can we change shoes... U can take mine... haha.. you can even wear em if u want (trying to be funny), i cannot tahan la walk with this sandals"

I was expecting a horified expression but all he said was "Ok, sure" and gave me his sandals. Yahoooo... saviour!

When we were busy sorting things out, I saw him walking to other direction (washroom maybe)... wearing my sandals.... (Fyi, My feet are large size, so a medium sized guy can easily fit into my sandals). I was like... alamak... maybe emergency sampai don't mind wearing my sandals. its Pink wei...

Then after some time, we had to load a number of boxes of mineral waters into a room nearby, and he helped out... . Was he going to ask for a trade back? No he didn't, without complaining, did the job... and later continue moving around in my sandals.

Ok... I felt super guilty... so finally, I asked for a trade back. I told him my feet are no longer painful so we'd better switch before he has to go through one too :P~
Hahaha.. I don't know why I am making a big deal out of this... I just felt it was cool. Like he did not even complain, and all he said was "Ok" and "No Problem" or just smiled. I think he is Cool... good boy ;-)

For all the trouble, I said to Dr.Ooi that she owes me an insurance for my back :P~ (must be careful what u joke about) Not to be supersitious, but then, I really had come close to need one, as after we had our lunch, I tripped and fell in front of a restaurant. Sakit giler... it was not like the funny-funny fall but a FALL fall... errr...if u get what I mean. It was definitely not a good day for my back. I fell because my heels tripped on the badly maintained pathway. Again... it was the heels :P~

So.. after all these thing happening to me yesterday... Where are the pink sandals now?
Hihihi (blushing).... Right under my feet :P~ Huhuhu... bukan degil, but don't have other options just now, left all the flat ones in campus. For comfort, I prefer the flat ones actually, but at times, heels make me feel more err... taller?? :P To stop wearing high heels completely? huhuhu.... i dun think i could :P

Flat heels sandals are just not sexy :-(

The busiest month of the year (well, at least for me) is approaching - DECEMBER! It's the time of the year, when I usually have list of things to be completed before stepping into another new year, and list of invitations from friends and relatives who are getting married. To top all these, are my assignments as a photographer for some of these events and my preparation to be enrolled as a student (AGAIN) :P


In the list of invitations... most of it comes from my close friends... and I won't be able to attend 2 weddings because I will be at my close relative's wedding which is quite far, in Perlis.

2 days back, Jane called for a small meet up. We were given the invitations cards and some briefing. I can't wait for the ceremony... It will be a big reunion for our batch. We have not had one since 2002 and with slightly less people last year at the alumni dinner. I was briefed on the task description and what-to-wear lists... Uwaaa... I don't have the appropriate attire yet.

Following week, will be Yef and Azah. Both their receptions on the same day. These are the 2 weddings I won't be able to attend... guilt... yes... but I will try my best to attend their groom's receptions respectively. Yef is my friend from secondary, whom I kept in touch regularly and stay close despite parted geographically. Azah was my junior in cbm but also my coursemate during masters, and we were roommates. Huhuh... I feel soo guilty... I really would love to be there on the lafaz nikah moments.

Next in line, is Emme and Nando's wedding. Okie.. they are getting married to each other so it's like 2 in 1 for me. I know Nando from Spanish class in my degree's final year (dat explains his nickname Nando) and Emme through Nando. Haha.. somehow, we cliqued instantly and has become very close thereafter. I am honored to be assigned as one of their photographers. When they gave me the invitation card, I jokingly asked "is this as your friend or a photographer" ehehhe... I hope I can do my best yaaa...

Now...wait... WHAT AM I GOING TO WEAR to all these ceremonies???? HELPPP!!!!!! Wardrobe emergency alert....

Over the meet-up the other day, we talked about the "next phase" in life. Getting married?? Hehehe.. I can't stop laughing, thinking of how far we have come from the innocent (and naughty) years in cbm. The topics of our conversation are definitely different. Last time we would be saying "Euwww, why are we discussing this" if we were to talk about marriage. Look at us NOW...

Will it be as challenging as told by some? Will we be able to cope with the journey? After the interesting exchange of thougths, we concluded, it takes Will-Power, Understanding and of course L.O.V.E heheheh *deep

Tips from one of my lecturers, successful and a super-woman:
"Be smart and know how to manage your responsibilities, and most importantly set your priorities. At times, you have to be Strong in defending your priorities"

Wow... deep again.... Ok,  keep that in mind. Can be useful later in your future ;-)

And to my laply friends... who are getting married... soon (mendebarkan sungguh) Aku pulak yang berdebar-debat lebih nie.... huhuuh...

hihihi... I am so excited and happy for you peeps.

Wish you guys my BEST-EST WISHES...

ok now.. back to my problem.... WHAT TO WEAR???? Uwaaaaaaaaaaaaaaa

Hehehehe…. lepas dah upload the display image… chat2 halfway… kak ilah terperasan yg kitorg ada persamaan begini… ahakss.. Welll, then… enuff said :D~

Insiden #2
insiden nombot dua ini sbnrnya berlaku dulu.. pagi tadi. masa menunggu alisa dtg.. flipping thru some research papers… and found this:

waaarkh…. tidak…. ain lekat stickers kt kertas nie… bulatan atas.. di mana dia lekat then tarik kuar.. so a bit koyak.. bulatan kedua.. cebisan sticker yg dikoyak… dan bulatan ketiga.. sticker tersebut…

going thru some other papers… and i got these two:

warkhhhh…… nehi nehi… meriah nyer research paper ini… colorful sgt… hmmm its tooo cute for me to get angry… in fact i was dok gelak-gelak looking at her “creativity”

i wud have done the same thing if I’m 4… i just love stickerss… like her.. n her mom (who used to start the trend of hobi mengumpul stickers last time kt skolah rendah time tue)

okies… sekian sahaja post saya kali ini….
tuuu oodless :*

Summarised/shortened from previous blog

aku teringat kat satu post dalam blog kawanku berkenaan isu ni… ehhehe… cebisan dari post asalnya:

knowledge sharing kt sini… bleh mengembangkan kreativiti anda2 yg melalui situasi yang sama bila asik ditnaya org soklan2 ni…

Aku dan kawan-kawan Miss Bo mbalas di ruang komen.. bagi suggestion

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[H]

mesti ade jawapan yg berbeza mengikut sape yg tanye..
kalo mak/family tanye jawab "mak tlg la cari kan..."

kalo bos tanye jawab "im wanna build my career first"

kalo kawan2 tanye jawab "aku tunggu ko kawin dulu" kalau die dah kawin ckp "aku tunggu ko kawin lagi satu.." kui6...

general answer "insyaallah, sampai jodoh nanti kawin la (jwb dgn senyuman yg manis)"

[R]

my favorite answer is " menjadi bisu and smile only"indirectly ppl know that i'm not interested to talk bout the subject ;)
if kwn2 baik ckp dgn hati yg ikhlas lar kenapa..other than that..heheh senyum jelar tanpa berkata apa2

[F]

i always tell people that "ooo aku kawen cuti sekolah" dgn muka selamba.that normally effectively menutup mulut diorang pun.
im not telling a lie.. i'll get married time cuti sekolah. cuma tahun bila tu jer tak tau lagi =P

[Z]

As for myself, bila orang tanya ahaks, dulu aku jawab "InsyaAllah tahun depan" ... sekarang jawapan terbaru:"InsyaAllah I planned to settle down before 2009" muahahah.Aku telah praktikkan beberapa kali yang pastinya telah membuat mereka speechless .. Bak kata hang, jawab kena confident =)

[my comment]

positip thinker
"It will happen when it happens"

"InsyaAllah, ada jodoh tak ke mana"

"It will be a surprise"

"Tungguuuuuuu" sambil mulut termuncung kerana panjang dengungnya

diversion
"laa maak, kita nak jaga mak laa" dgn tersenyum manis

"tak stabil lagi...nak kumpul duit dulu"

"nak beli kete lagi 2 bijik dulu"

"oh my god, do u know... the petrol price has just increased... bla... bla.. " Psst.. tukar topik ;)

not so interested
"i'm sorry... it's my personal matter which i prefer not to discuss"

"err.. not interested" dengan gaya poyo dan vogue/bimbo :P so org dah maleh nak tanya

"none of ur business" dengan gaya poyo sama sprti di atas

"hahahahhahahahhahahaaaa" a big fat sarcastic laugh

senyum separuh, sebelah bibir aje la kiranya

sengih

sengih, kali ni smapai nampak gusi skali

angkat kening cam dgn maksud "ahh-haaa"

angkat kening gaya the rock dgn maksud "ko takde mende lain ke nak tanya"

lambai tangan, dengan gaya kiut dan poyo, dan cpat2 blah dari situ

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So kepada mereka2 yang dah kekeringan idea... bleh la cedok2 :P~ okes... goodluck dengan candangan2 tersebut.. :D

ironically, as much as you may get annoyed when ppl keep asking u the "cepu emas" question... you too can't help urself from asking the same questions to ur friends....
hahahha... Caring Society lah katakan...

So i'm caring... and i'm sharing now... :)) hohohohoo

At times when you are busy chasing your dreams, busy climbing up your career or busy with everything else so worldly, you tend to overlook some of the things close to your heart – Iman. i'm gonna touch about Al-Quran.

How often do you read your Quran? You believe in Quran but you seem to have no time to read it. You are not obliged to read it and before you knew it, you start neglecting Quran as a part of your routine. You have the Kitab with you all the time, in your room, placed at the highest shelf… at times it becomes too high for you to reach, what more for you to open and start reciting the wonderful words that not only guide you through life but also shower you with peace and serenity. Or do you only read your Quran when you are facing problems, when every thing else seem to fall apart? InsyaAllah, if you read at crucial times, you will feel at peace while reciting it… and MasyaAllah, if you recite it regularly (especially every day), regardless of your frame of mind... it feels even better.

At times we forget, at times we overlook… but you must always remember that it is never too late. If you are not well versed in Arabic, get the translations and comprehend while you are reciting verses from the holy Quran. Even if you are not so fluent in reciting it or even if you are not fluent at all; it is also never too late to learn or improve. “Malu bertanya sesat jalan” … apatah lagi ilmu agama kita :) Shying away is not the resolution; you have to put away age or status from being the barrier to learn…

Mulakan dengan Bismillah....
:-)

~ just a reminder.. (for u and me)~

Jazakallahukhairank athira
"It is better to try and fail, than not try at all"

:)

Have u been in situation where u find urslef lost in translation? it happens a lot i guess when ppl talk in languages that u dont master and u really feel lost... especially when u desperately need the information that's passing thru... frequent huh? hmmm... and have u even been in situation where u are "caught" in between translation?

Here is my intepretation of being Caught in translation :P :P

It was last day of convocation festival. I was so busy at the gift shop, helping with the sales so I didn’t have the leisure to go around the convo site. Shops and stalls were supposed to be closed before midnight so I used the few hours left to go around and look for something worth a purchase.

I stopped at the book stall, they were from Saba media. They sell Islamic books and journals and most of them were in English. My original intention was to get a copy of al-Mathurat, but browsing through; I found some page-turning books.

The owner and his staff conversed in Tamil when they speak among themselves. I was going through 3 books when suddenly an elder man whom I guessed would be the boss; he was around 50 years old, condemning his assistant for giving the wrong price to one of the customers beforehand. The younger guy had certainly hit below the margin and he was apologizing for the mistake. It was not a serious argument as a few minutes later they were chatting and laughing over some other matters.

I didn’t mean to eavesdrop but I couldn’t help it, I just understood every single thing. From one look, slalunya people tak bajet yang i can understand or apatah lagi bercakap dalam bahasa lain slain bahasa kebangsaan. but seriously, nowadays mmg takleh bajet sapa bleh cakap bahasa apa kan... sudah rojak maa.

By the way, back to the story, I thought I was being rather mischievous, thinking the information would be pretty handy for me to bargain later, heheh.

The boss was in front of me and upon realizing that I was somehow glued to the books, he approached, speaking in Malay and English “Good books, just choose which one, harga boleh kurang”

I was laughing inside; yes I know can kurang sampai mana. The uncle explained about the books that I was flipping through and finally I made my choice. He stated the price and with the information I had earlier... now, it’s the time to bargain, I decided.

“Tak boleh kurang ka?”

Oh nooo… What I said was fine but my tone was, if I heard myself correct, sounded a bit seductive. Euuuww… didn’t know where that came from… :P

The uncle choked and turned to his assistant, speaking in tamil

“Pochida, kadhal udherangge”Translation: “Alamak, she’s trying to seduce me”…

Ohh tidakkk…. He was about the same age as my father and no way that I would have any intention to be funny with him. Tidakk!! My face turned hot out of embarrassment and disbelief. Usually when ever I caught up in a situation where I understood what people say and it was about me, I just kept quiet. But that night was not one of those, I had to clear my image :P

Therefore, I gathered my courage, cleared my throat and said clearly

“Anthe mari kadhal kadhal la kadiyathe”
Translation: “No such lovey dovey thing going on here”

Hence it was then the uncle’s turn for embarrassment and disbelief. He looked over to his assistant again and that guy was already half way exploding with humongous laugh.

In just a blink, the sheepish man jumped out of the stall and couldn’t hold his own laughter as well. I stood there not making an inch of a move and I was posing a macho stature because I knew I was at the winning side.

After he was somehow composed, he came back in and asked in tamil “speak tamil?” I just nodded a macho nod. He kept apologizing and said he was just joking. I knew it was a joke but I manipulated the situation to make them feel guilty ehehehe… well, with the hope I get extra-extra discount for the book.

I spoke as monotonous as I could sound, and stressed the word uncle so that my intention would not be misinterpreted again. As a result, I came back buying the book with a good discount and feeling very fulfilled, like I won some match or something… Ahaks…

So… what have u learned from this incident?

Don’t judge a book by its cover

= This story happened back in August 2006 =]

Gender Issues > Had 2 series of conversations that lead me to write this :D

Can women be good leaders?
Women can be leaders among women, also among both men and women. But more often than not, when one of our friends comes back miserably from work ; and when informed that his/her boss is a ladyy... our immediate response will be “no wonderrrr” or “wrong timing of the month laa :P” or “the tigress has finally attacked” etc. Among women, we get offended when guys don’t trust on our leadership, but we also go against our own species when we comment on a lady-boss :P ironic, huh?

Men, are they better cooks?
In most restaurants, be it 5 star hotels, mamak or tomyam stalls; they are dominated by male cooks. Hmmm I think most of the time, men cook to cater for commercial values whereas women cook to cater for personal values.

Man + Woman = best friends?
A man and a woman can be friends but can they be best friends? Yes definitely, but to a certain extent. You can be best of friends when both are single. But when one of you or both are committed with a special relationship (especially marriage), you should downgrade to being only good friends or just friends. No more the best. I strongly believe your spouse should be your bestest friend ever and not someone else from the opposite gender. Maybe you guys can still reunite with the presence of both spouses, so this brings you to a new level of friendship = being family friends! (ouh, but please don’t make match-make your kids laa, let them have freedom of choice maa kuikuikui)

Women are too emotional, Men are insensitive
Women have to be emotional because this is the ultimate strategy to manipulate men haha… Men have to be insensitive because if you are too sensitive, people will start to speculate that you are gay. So maybe we should just accept this fact and live with it… hmmm… or maybe this is why men and women complete each other :P but do be careful haa… toooo emotional + toooo insensitive = cyclone lah jawabnya!


Women spend too much money on shopping?Women shop to be gorgeous maaa… At times women shop for the household maaa… Lovey-dovey couples don’t face much problem as they tend to compromise or try to compromise a LOAD during this period. But when it is married couple we are taking about, this issue suddenly begins to be very serious and important. Let us try to put it this way then. Comparing to the “few” ringgits men have to forego with the sweats women shed and initiatives that women make in order to get the best stuff with the best price (see, still considerate about money); the few ringgits means nothing actually :P So I think men should go easy on women about shopping ;) (ahaha… gender-biased)

Excerpted from Padayappa :D
“Women who are too emotional or raged and men who are too greedy will never prosper in their lives.”

What I agreed to understand: So women can be greedy, that’s why we are allowed to shop anytime we want!!! Hahhahaa… No lar… seriously… I think the excerption is a good one to be pondered upon.


Issues on gender will never meet an end… there are so many issues that I decided to pick and prick on some of the most talked about issues. As far as all of us are concerned, no matter how many issues we have or we may have in future, we just can’t live without each other. We are dependant on each other and of course complement each other. Long live XX and XY !