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A lady friend shared with me some pointers about her boyfriend. What do you make of this guy?
– They don’t go out much together especially in the evening.
– If they go out, they don’t go to crowded areas coz the guy hates crowds.
– Throughout their 2 year relationship, only 3 times they went to The Mall together.
– If they go out for dinner, they go to the same place everytime, places like Kianggeh Food Court (KFC). Just because the guy is choosy with food and only like the food there.
– The guy don’t like to go to Gadong or Kiulap for dinner.
Well, the way I see it, this guy must be married. What say you guys?
One thing about men! They’re so good in telling lies. I’m not saying I never lied my whole life though. They’re so good at it that it convinced women with all their heart, like selling a fridge to an eskimo! Married men can be so good in hiding their marital status just to satisfy their greed. I have to admit that we men are greedy, being a man myself. But how we manage it, that’s entirely up to each and everyone of us.
I’d like to share a story of my friend Zara, at the same time this is her debut in this blog. She’s been in a very steady relationship with a guy for the past few months. This guy used to be her schooldays boyfriend and their love rekindled after years of losing contact. So yea, when everything seems to work fine and dandy, things turned out to be an anticlimax. A woman called Zara using the guy’s number, I do not know what exactly was the conversation but bottomline is that the woman claimed to be the guy’s wife and asked what’s Zara’s relationship with her husband.
I’m sure by this time, Zara must have had the shock of her life, her head must have been heavy like a dark sky suddenly fell upon her. Zara told the lady that she and the guy were just friends. Zara could have told her the truth and subsequently ruining the guy’s family, which frankly, I think he well deserve it! But I know Zara is not that mean. And that prick, as if he never had a deep impact on Zara’s heart, he later sent a text which sounded something like,
“Thanks for the help, I think we should end everything between us coz I don’t want to lose my wife. Sorry syg.”
Something like that, I don’t really remember the exact words though, but WTF! It sounded irresponsible, heartbreaking, unmanly, cowardly, you name it. Saving his own arse at the expense of Zara’s shattered heart. She was driving when it all happened and she had to pull over by the road side and cried and cried and cried. When she told me what had happened, I felt like beating up that prick for what he did. But naah, violence will lead to worse things, after all I am sure, sooner or later, he won’t get away just like that.
For the last few months, this is not the first time I heard similar storylines, or at least something close to it. And it happened to my close girl friends, last year it happened to Fizz who found out her guy was about to get married. With her patience, now she’s a happy girl, I’ll let her talk about it in this blog. Few weeks back, Cute Little Hana’s boyfriend suddenly left her without notice until her mum saw the prick with another girl, which obviously answered everything.
I’m just glad that Zara, Fizz and Cute Little Hana are strong women.
Something from my inbox I would like to share..
Nowadays, 80% of women are against marriage, why? Because women realise its not worth buying an entire buffalo just to get a little sausage.
Men are like:
1) Men are like Laxatives, they irritate the crap out of you.
2) Men are like Bananas, the older they get, they less firm they are.
3) Men are like Weather, nothing can be done to change them.
4) Men are like Blenders, you need one but you’re not quite sure why.
5) Men are like Chocolate bars, sweet, smooth and they usually head right for your hips.
6) Men are like Commercials, you can’t believe a word they say.
7) Men are like Department Stores, their clothes are always 1/2 off.
8 ) Men are like Government Bonds, they take sooooo long to mature.
9) Men are like Mascara, they usually run at the first sign of emotion.
10) Men are like Popcorn, they satisfy you but only for a little while.
11) Men are like Snowstorms, you never know when they’re coming, how many inches you’ll get and for how long it will last.
12) Men are like Lava Lamps, fun to look at but not very bright.
13) Men are like Parking Spots, all the good ones are taken, the rest are handicapped.
It’s kinda funny how the past few weeks have been birthdays for those so dear to me. First it was Amal’s, then Eza’s, and today it’s the Cute Little Hana’s birthday. Wish you a happy birthday lil sister, and hope you enjoy your day with a blast. It has been ages since I met her except for some text messaging or MSN. I even missed her Hari Raya open house and I know I owe her chocolates as a birthday present. Heheh! Like Eza, I know she’s been busy with her further studies thus we haven’t been catching up on things lately, but I’m sure she kept track of me by reading this blog. Well lil sister, God bless you with success and happiness. Can’t wait for you to return to our workplace.
On the other hand, I kinda miss travelling. With my new responsibilites at my new work station, I reckon I might not get a lot of business trips just like my previous post. I’ve been flying here and there but honestly I can’t get enough because I just love travelling. My former colleague just got back from New Zealand while Ayu from Aussie. Cool huh? I still remember how me and Ayu had plans to go for a holiday in Australia when we were still ‘together’, that would be sweet ain’t it! LOL! But nah, I don’t think that’s going to happen. In fact I better not make it happen.
I know I’m bad. I know I’m mean, I know I shouldn’t be thinking of Ayu anymore. It is just so unfair for my darling Emma, especially without her knowing my account with Ayu during our ‘cold war’. Sometimes I feel I am being dishonest and lying to myself. Fizz said it is Ayu that I actually want, but the fact is I just can’t be with her. It is not even an option. The only only I have is to move on. Of course I do love Emma, I really do and I am sure of it, not a rebound or whatsoever. I am willing to spend the rest of my life with her by my side, but it is just this one thing; why can’t I get over Ayu 100%? I don’t even know what is there in her that makes me so obsessed.
I don’t want to hurt anyone, especially Emma. Yes, it’s true men are bastards, I might be one, in fact I am one. But I don’t want to be one. And if I ever should get married, I don’t want to be a filthy, scandalous old man. I’ve seen these kind of men at my new work place, locking himself up in his office with someone else’s wife during lunchtime. God knows what the eff they’re doing in there. And it is such a disgusting scenario and God forbid, I don’t want to be that kind of man! Some people just enjoy the pleasure of corrupting love with lust.
Women are meant to be loved, and love is meant to be pure!
Found this in my e-mailbox so I’ll just share it. 33 things about guys.
1) Guys don’t actually look for good looking girls. They prefer neat and presentable girls.
2) Guys hate flirts.
3) When a guy says he doesn’t understand you, it simply means you’re not thinking the way he is.
4) Guys may be flirting around all day but before they go to sleep, they always think about the girl they truly care about.
5) When a guy really likes you, he will disregard all your bad characteristics.
6) Guys go crazy over a girl’s smile
7) Guys will do anything just to get the girl’s attention.
8 ) When you tocuh a guy’s heart, there’s no turning back.
9) When a girl says “no”, a guy hears it as “try again tomorrow”
10)You have to tell a guy what you really want before he gets the message clearly.
11) Guys love their mums.
12) A guy would sacrifice his money for lunch just to get you a couple of roses.
13) A guy often thinks about the girl who likes him. But this doesn’t mean that the guy likes her.
14) You can never understand him unless you listen to him.
15) If a guy tells you he loves you once in a lifetime, he does.
16) Beware. Guys can make gossips scatter through half the face of the earth faster than girls can.
17) Like Eve, girls are guys’ weaknesses.
18) Guys are very open about themselves.
19) It’s good to test a guy first before you believe him. But don’t let him wait that long.
20) Guys hate it when their clothes get dirty. Even a small dot.
21) Guys really admire girls that they like even if they’re not that much pretty.
22) If a guy tells you about his problems, he just needs someone to listen to him. You don’t need to give advice.
23) A usual act that proves that the guy likes you is when he teases you.
24) Guys keep secrets that girls tell them.
25) Guys think too much
26) Guys fantasies are unlimited.
27) Girls’ height doesn’t really matter to a guy, but her weight does.
28) Guys tend to get serious with their relationship and become too possessive. So watch out girls.
29) Guys are more talkative than girls are especially when the topic is about girls.
30) You can truly say that a guy has good intentions if you see him praying sometimes.
31) If a guy says you’re beautiful, that guy likes you.
32) Guys hate girls who overreacts.
33) Guys love you more than you love them IF they are serious in your relationships. Doesn’t this all make sense?
Ayu is back in Brunei, I think she came back yesterday, or was it the day before, can’t really remember. Apparently she’ll be on 2 weeks leave, maybe until Raya. And her fiance will also be on leave at the same time. I still remember when we last chat, Ayu was whining coz she’s gonna have to layan her fiance for the 2 weeks. Hmm well I don’t know how’s their relationship goes, from the sound of it Ayu seems to be reluctantly obliged to it. I don’t know and I don’t want to know, none of my business anyway. As far as I am concerned, for the next two weeks, don’t dream I would hear anything from her. Am I missing her? Frankly at the time of this writing, I do, but only a little, not to the extreme. I have got other people and things worth worrying about, other people worth missing, other people to take care of, so yea. Remember the password, “but me tunang orang udah”.
Fizz called me last night in tears. Poor her, she was calling the guy she admired, they were like ‘teman tapi mesra’ but no official strings attached, and when she called him last night, another woman picked up the phone. So Fizz just left a message for him to call her back, which I’m sure up to now, he didn’t. Worst of all, when Fizz asked who’s that lady, the lady said, “you wouldn’t want to know who I am.” And that hurt Fizz a lot. But today Fizz felt a hell lot better, I know she was just shocked last night but today she’s doing just fine, happy as always, alive and kicking. It’s not the end of the world yet Fizz.
Men! Sometimes I just don’t know what men are actually up to. That includes myself.
I came across this website, a story of an 8 year old girl in Malaysia, Nurin Jazlin who was brutally tortured, raped and murdered. The criminal is still at large. My God! What manner of man could do such a thing? No mercy, no consideration. She’s only an 8 year old girl who was so innocent. If this guy, whoever did it, think he can run away from his crime, then the ultimate justice from the Almighty awaits. No matter where he hide, guilt will always be upon him. And he deserve the most severest of punishment.
I’ve read before about a father who raped his daughter, right here in Brunei. I’m sure he’s currently serving his sentence which I think is less than what he deserves. 20+ strokes? I personally believe that his genitals ought to castrated and fed to dogs. How could a man do such thing to his own offspring, born from his own drop of semen? These people have let lust control themselves thus they did it with no feeling of love or mercy.
Oh well! Life! and men!
To the family of Nurin Jazlin, I express my deepest condolences and patience be with you. Allah will bless her soul and His Justice will be served.
p/s Selamat Hari Guru to my teacher friends
Went to Hua Ho Bunut this afternoon to buy some stuff. It’s only the third day of puasa and they were playing Raya songs already, kinda spoil the Ramadhan mood don’t you think. They should have played it at least 2 weeks before Raya. Rasa jua kan get everyone into the Raya shopping mood, business strategy. I’m sure in 2 weeks time, shopping centres will be packed and mosques will be quiet, everyone will start to forget that the last 10 days of Ramadhan are full of blessings.
Just another lazy day today, spent most of my day at home doing my ‘homework’ except a short visit to a cousin’s place, atupun I fell asleep in his living room. I felt much better than yesterday though, it’s been a long time I didn’t spend a weekend on bed.
I guess that’s it for today heheh! I feel like writing something though, something about us, men! But I just don’t know how to put it in words. All I can ask is, are we ‘men’ all the same? I’ll leave it to you guys to figure out.
I just got back from wedding(s). We must have got 2 weddings and 3 doa arwah invitations today, daytime only. There’s 2 more doa arwahs tonight. 2 more weeks before Ramadhan and this is the time where everyone is in the rush to do weddings and doa arwahs. Well, the rush is not the issue, after all it’s the holy month, so yea.
I went to both weddings myself and everyone especially the elders were asking me this question, the question someone in their late 20s and early 30s would get. None other than the “Bila kawin?” question. All I could answer them was,
“Kan kawin sama siapa jua?”
“Kalau kena sponsor, boleh eh!”
“Tunggu saja, ada lagurnya tu!”
The rest, I just grinned. It’s not that I don’t want to get married and settle down, have babies and raise kids. Forget the issue of ‘kan kawin sama siapa’ here, but personally I think, marriage is not the solution for an everlasting happiness. I have seen some friends with their short-lived marital status. People change. Feelings change. A couple might be the most romantic couple on earth during their courtship period. Things can change even after they were solemnized. I’ve seen these things happen with my own eyes, wives are treated bad, gets less attention, while the husbands exercised their supremacy as a man!
I’m not trying to scare you all with this though, not that I’m scared to get married, but this is the fact. A purity of a women’s love for their men are often abused, men would think that women love them too much to leave him and men would took advantage on this. Hence they think they can do anything because they are men. And yet, women would sacrifice their own happiness for the sake of their love.
My Sunday was a tiring one, it’s His Majesty The Sultan’s birthday so I got up extraordinarily early. Not that I’m involved in it, I just wanna keep myself busy that’s all. I promised to accompany a photographer friend to go downtown and snap some pictures, so while he’s at it with his bulky 5kg camera, I just strolled the city streets watching the joyous celebration. Got home around 4pm or so, after a quick nap, I did some work on my laptop and I came across my pic with Ayu from our Friday’s event. Darn! I was about to ease my feelings already. Tomorrow is Tuesday, I really don’t know if I should go and see her as promised. Really really don’t know! I’d be lying if I say I don’t miss her, but as much as possible I don’t want to suffer anymore. Of all the single ladies on Earth, why do I have to fall for someone’s fiance? Believe me, it’s no thrill!
The other night I was MSNing with Cute Little Hana. Again, I don’t want to compare between late Amy and Ayu, again, they are two different person. I just wanted Cute Little Hana to see the resemblance. It scared her, she said they really look identical, especially their smile and cheekbones. Cute Little Hana asked me if I love Ayu for being Ayu or was it just because she looks like late Amy. For once, when I first saw Ayu, I thought I saw late Amy. But as time past by, I started to love Ayu for who she is. As I said earlier, they’re both different person with different characters.
Oh one more thing. I was in Gadong yesterday when I saw something shameful to mankind. I saw in this car parked around Centrepoint area, a man was slapping his daughter who was sitting in the back seat, before delivering a fist to his wife next to him!! My God! M.E.N! What manner of earth? Wish I could get my hands on that man but then, it’s their family affair and I have no right to interfere. I can clearly see the woman can only cover her face with her hands, crying. Some men think they’re strong and superior, little that they know they’re just using a tiny part of their brain! Some think temper and physical brute is a solution! I’ll have to repeat this over and over again; women are meant to be loved, not treated as an inferior being to men!
Last Tuesday I met Eza, a friend I seldom see. I can see some difference in her, eyebags and getting thinner. Looks like she’s been crying. I was kinda in a rush so I didn’t get the chance to talk much with her, just some quick signing of papers and all and off I go.
This morning I got the chance to chat with her on MSN. I usually don’t go popping questions asking about people’s personal life, but somehow I remembered about how she looked like during our last meeting. After all it’s nothing wrong asking how is a friend doing right? So yea I asked and yea, she’s been crying, she’s been feeling down and she lost weight. Awwww. Her grief has got something to do with her boyfriend. I didn’t ask what actually happened though, but basically it’s all about him and it must be bad.
Men! Why do they always enjoy the pleasure of making women cry? Is it a pride and glory when a man succeeded in breaking a woman’s heart? Do they feel satisfied when crystal clear droplets running down a woman’s soft cheek? I do not know what exactly Eza’s boyfriend did to her but for sure, it’s enough to put Eza in her current situation. Sad, distressed, losing weight and all. Not that I never made a girl cry before, after all I’m still a man right? But when I realised that it was me who made a woman cry, of course I’d be quick to patch things up. Men have super high ego but it’s nothing wrong to bend on our knees to make women happy right? I used to make my ex-girlfriend cry unintentionally, just some minor argument which got heated. But when I realised what I did, I’d just wipe the tears off her face and gave her a hug. For some people, sorry just seems to be the hardest word. Women are meant to be loved! In my case it’s ‘women are meant to be loved although my heart is meant to be broken’ hehe..
So Eza, whatever it is, be strong. You have friends around you to help you up when you fall down. Just the way I need my friends including you in my current situation. And I’m feeling kinda okay today, I’m glad my friends gonna keep me busy today, glad that I chat with Eza and few other friends this morning. Reading the comments from my readers makes me open up my horizon and gets me stronger. At least I can get things off my chest before I suffocate.
I’ll be spending most of my time outdoors today, at least it’ll make me think less of Ayu. But when I go home later tonight, when I lay my head on the pillow, those few minutes before I close my eyes, surely I will think of her. I wish I can just switch off my mind just like shutting down a PC.
In my line of job, it calls for me to meet people and make new friends both male and female. I establish a good rapport and our relationships are not limited to workplace and meeting tables. Instead we enjoyed weekend outings and spend quality time. Of course the boys are a bit closeted when it comes to topics about love and all, except one or two who are so kind enough to put their faith and trust on me. As for the girls, most of my lady friends felt comfortable to talk to me when it comes to their relationships. I can’t ask why, of course there will be some girl-to-girl talk between them. I guess it’s just the way I feel when I prefer to talk to my lady friends about my story. Bukan apa, maybe it’s just I want to know things through a woman’s perspective.
Most of my lady friends whined about how their men treated them. Selfishness, inconsiderate, penjealous to the max, super ego, these are the common characteristics of a man which came out from their mouth. Some even dared to lay their hands on their woman to the extent of kicking and punching. My God! What manner of men would do such a thing to women. Some people think with their fists yea. What a shame to mankind! Some men change drastically over time after their marriage. During courtship, he’s the most romantic angel ever descended from heaven. Few months after their wedding, he’d walk 400 metres ahead of his wife. Chemistry gone. Sweetness gone.
We are complex creatures. Both men and women have their own complications. Cute Little Hana said ‘men should come with instructions.’ If there were to be such instructions, I guess it will take 20000 years to come up with one instruction manual. I guess that quote is very true. I’m a man myself, honestly I can be a jerk sometimes and it’s just a matter of time when I come to my senses and patch things up. Anyway, a question for my Cute Little friend if you’re reading this, do I need to come with instructions as well? I’m user friendly no? LOL!
Of course, not all men are like that. Hats off to my two lady peers’ husbands who still treated them with full of respect, love, passion and attention. These men deserves respect! Well I’m not saying this coz I wanna be respected and all, lagipun I’m not married yet and I can’t tell. I hope I will never treat my future wife bad one day. I’m just talking about things that a man shall do here. Just a simple keyphrase: Women are meant to be loved!
Daily stuff, I haven’t heard from Ayu, didn’t see her at work. So yea. I’m not hoping for anything anymore, but I’d be lying if I say I don’t miss her!
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