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Mind-messing stuff reason for things to change

Kan een afbeelding zijn van Afrikaanse lelie en , met de tekst LEARN TO BEND WITHOUT SNAPPING. "FLEXIBILITY HAS ITS OWN STRENGTH" RYAN HOLIDAY

 

Things change-
Conditions, facts, the weather etc. we must adapt or we make ourselves crazy.
We can’t manipulate the way life is to make it fit our agenda so, we need to learn to bend without snapping.

“Flexibility has its own strength” – Ryan Holiday

What if…
Instead of saying “I failed” we say, “I had an awakening.”

What would that look like?

What if – instead of chasing after someone else’s validation we made our own approval a priority?
And when we stop worrying about things that haven’t even happened – or what others are thinking of us, we are able to live in (and on) the path to liberation.
All that other mind-messing stuff simply gets in our way, like an avoidance of the real truth.

I know it isn’t easy, but to be free we have to stop expecting our mind to be the same as everyone else’s.
Change your mind, change your language, change your life, because you can.

– Debbie Lynn

Debbie Lynn is an artist, writer and owner on Facebook of 360 degrees of inspiration (full circle) and twisted 360. She is a dancer, a yogi, a mother, a grandmother…a lover of the arts, a patron of life, exploring every opportunity given.

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Fed Up With Feeling Inferior? Here’s How To Fix It With One Simple Step

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In my last post I wrote – with a particular client in mind – about how to overcome a feeling of inferiority before and during a job interview,

Here’s an extract from the email he sent me, after his interview had  taken place …

‘I didn’t, for the first time that I can remember, feel inferior when I went into the meeting.’

Wow.

I was so pleased I’d been able to help him.

Now I’m writing this for anyone else out there who is fed up with feeling inferior and wants to do something about it.

Is this you?

You just don’t fit. 

I’m sure one of these situations will ring a bell …

  • You walk into a meeting and you know everyone in the room is ‘better/cleverer/more able than you,
  • You buy a new outfit but are too scared to wear it because you know everyone will look better than you,
  • You…

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Two Unconventional Ways to Self-Soothe

Sansawrites's avatarThe Curious Mag

Published on Happinez Magazine on the 18th of July. Article here

Worry, anxiety, stress, frustration, and sadness are a part of life that no one is excluded from experiencing. As we become adults, we have to learn to stand on our own two feet – especially when it comes to handling our emotions (this is of course not including the help that we can receive from our friends, families, therapists, and/or support groups). We might develop certain coping mechanisms or self-soothing techniques that help us get by and get through the tough times. 

DeAndre Bush

What is self-soothing?

Self-soothing is defined as an individual’s efforts or capacity to calm oneself while in a state of emotional distress. When you find yourself experiencing negative emotions, not only is it important to sit with your feelings but also to not let yourself plummet or spiral into an emotional state that has you…

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Extra Time

Orlando's avatarOrlando Espinosa

Instead of spending all your extra time worrying about what someone thinks or says about you, you should use your extra time pursuing your dreams and accomplish more with each passing day.

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Reflection by the making of worries


“You wouldn’t worry so much about what others think of you
if you realized how seldom they do.”
Eleanor Roosevelt


Dutch version / Nederlandse versie > Reflectie bij het maken van zorgen

Eleanor Roosevelt with Fala

Eleanor Roosevelt with Fala (Photo credit: Wikipedia)

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A stitch in time saves nine!

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Stop worrying about what you have to loose

“Stop worrying about what you have to loose
and
start focusing on what you have to gain”

 

Dutch text: Stop met je zorgen te maken over verliezen

English: Sheep Worrying Just don't do it!

Sheep Worrying Just don’t do it! (Photo credit: Wikipedia)

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Life isn’t unfair

A thirty something, addicted to music and books, like many others in this world, may have many questions about this life in her head, but unlike many she can still say that life isn’t unfair. And that is not what many dare to say. The home country of her husband is being destroyed more and more day by day and they could quickly go ahead and even shout out how unfair life is but, giving it a second thought, they see also parts in it which don’t let them break down completely.

It is not bad this lady gets stuff out of her mind from time to time. A way to get some thoughts getting from our shoulders is to let them loose in the out. Also by writing down what bothers us we can get rid of certain worrying thoughts or even better, we can share our thoughts so that they not only loosen ourselves but also others.

Roses (Roxe) Nature: Cold in the first degree,...

Roses (Roxe) – From the Tacuinum of Vienna (Photo credit: Wikipedia)

The writer of the blog reminds us that we often forget in our life full of stress that there are so many reasons to be thankful and instead complain far too much. In many industrialised countries we might consider that a big problem. People are having so much and are seeing others having so much that they bother more about what the others have and they do not. Jealousy makes many people in the world of abundance very unhappy.

Having a rooftop above the head, being able to put a heather on, many keep harping on the weather. Others like to complain about the job or about the prizes in the supermarkets getting higher. They often have enough food and are teasing others about what to eat. Many may have a lot of things around them which they do not like, but most of them forget how many people in the East or in the South can only dream of our bare minima.

In I have so many reasons to be thankful the writer brings into attention that what many of the Western public long have forgotten. How many senses do we really still want to use properly?

Some may blame the pollution having many of us not having any more the pleasures of smell. Sense of smell should bring us lots of memories and desires. With our eyes we than can see all those flowers, all those colours which wave and tell their story in the wind. How many in the West do still want to hear those stories and notice all those animals which move around in that colourful world?

Going into the Autumn season the world is changing colour and red comes more to have its say in this world where the wind wants to make enough noise to have it tell her own stories whilst the branches of the trees dare to react and go to fight with the powers of nature.

We shall not find it warm enough to take some naps in the sunshine, but our wandering and now and then standing still, we shall still be able to feel truly connected with the nature and earth around us. In this time of turmoil, creepy sounds at night, we can feel at ease indoors, close by the fire, or having it nicely warm while we do know Winter shall be coming soon and bringing the bitter cold. Every day becomes shorter, but we want to fight the darkness and have found the candles “for having a soothing source of light” whenever we feel it is needed. The candle light also can bring memories and whispers in our ears that what we would love to hear, from the past. and in the cosiness of the warm living room we may not forget that we are blessed to have all this around us what can make life easier.

Some SFI Thoughts by Geoffrey West

Some SFI Thoughts by Geoffrey West (Photo credit: Wikipedia)

Many may not like the rain and forget that without it we would not have so much green. So we should be happy it nourishes our surroundings and let us “listen to its beautiful sound”.

Do not forget to think about all the beautiful things around us and about the many everyday things, so many we so often just take for granted. This coming season let it not get us down in the ‘depri world’ but get it down on our knees to be thankful for all what wee have received before and for all what is in front of us.

Life shows us more than enough possibilities to make the best out of every situation and we need to adjust our expectations. I each and every second there are little moments to treasure, we just have to see life through the eyes of love to uncover them.{Is life unfair?}

Like so many magazines we too would say to listen to your inner voice and to enjoy life.

We are driven by our thoughts and emotions and every single magazine tells you to listen to your inner voice but still your life isn’t happy. {Change your habits to lead a happy life}

In Autumn we may find the wind turning from one site to the other, wanting to push us from here to there, and letting us think no way is the good one.

Life isn’t a one way road and there are always possibilities, you may not see them directly but if you start to dig deeper you will find them.
Instead of waiting for big changes take your life in your hands and start to see all those small things that can change your life without too much efforts – and as always, many small changes sums up to be sometimes more effective than turning your life upside down. {Change your habits to lead a happy life}

In Summer we got the energy from the sun and lots of us went to sunny places to charge our batteries. So, let our full batteries now give enough power to come through Winter, but let it also give new impulses to take time to contemplate and to mediate about which way we want to continue and where we want to go to.

MissFaith Munich knows also that we all struggle at certain times and forget the reasons why we started to do something in first place. She is aware that others may start to doubt but that we are better to believe in ourself.

whatever comes along you can succeed. People who start to doubt because of others may lose track and fall, but if you stand up for your dreams and show all disbeliever that you will make it you will create a certainty within yourself.  {Never stop to be a dreamer…}

Now comes the time there will be lesser outdoor-activities and more time to stay indoors at our own little place. Perhaps it is now not so bad to take some more time to come to ourselves. Why not making time to get a more relaxed mind. That means not putting our mind asleep, but giving place to a creative mind which

can bring you forward so stand on your toes, open your arms wide, close your eyes and breathe – life isn’t that complicated! {Never stop to be a dreamer…}If not you, who else will follow your dreams? {Never stop to be a dreamer…}

To come to a relaxed mind come to trust yourself and trust the loved ones around you. as the writer of the mentioned articles also knows:

To rebuild life from within, a wonderful thought but at the same time quite scary.
It seems so much easier to build our life from the outside.
Dress up, sit in a fancy restaurant, surround yourself with hip friends and enjoy.
Easy as that, isn’t it? {Rebuilding Life from Within}

The coming Winter we can take some more time for ourselves, getting closer to the ‘one within’.

The earlier you realize that our “within” is the essential part the better as you haven’t caused too much damage within a short time. {Rebuilding Life from Within}

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Please read the full articles:

  1. Is life unfair?
  2. Change your habits to lead a happy life
  3. Rebuilding Life from Within
  4. Never stop to be a dreamer…

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Additional reading:

  1. Be Honest
  2. Be an Encourager
  3. How do Other People Feel About Mental Health?
  4. What IF you’re only driven by stress?
  5. Depression Is and When
  6. Depression, Anxiety, Pressure and megachurches
  7. Being ‘broke’ a state of mind
  8. Fear, struggles, sadness, bad feelings and depression
  9. Oh god, this is never going to end!
  10. Materialism, would be life, and aspirations
  11. Ageing and Solidarity between generations
  12. Try driving forward instead of backwards
  13. A little ray of sunshine.
  14. Getting fate in your change to positiveness
  15. Searching for fulfilment and meaning through own efforts, facing unsatisfaction and depression
  16. Give thanks to the One Who gave much
  17. By counting our blessings we not only feel good, but we multiply our good
  18. God should be your hope
  19. Joy: Foundation for a Positive Life
  20. Remember there’s a light in the next day
  21. Receiving a kingdom that cannot be shaken
  22. You’re Lighter Than Air~
  23. O’ Captain! My Captain!
  24. Coming Out Of The Bipolar Closet
  25. Self-development, self-control, meditation, beliefs and spirituality
  26. To be relapsing
  27. Pieces
  28. Thanksgiving wisdom: Why gratitude is good for your health
  29. Aligned
  30. Importance of parents 1
  31. Belonging to or being judged by
  32. Wisdom Quote #21…..seeking within with Carl Jung!
  33. Shelter in the morning
  34. Control and change
  35. Words in the world
  36. A person is limited only by the thoughts that he chooses
  37. Accommodation of the Void
  38. When you think you have nothing to say or to show
  39. Think hard before you act today
  40. Two forms of Freedom
  41. Don’t let anyone move you off the foundation of your faith
  42. Light within
  43. Wondering
  44. Know by trying
  45. Keep positive
  46. A cheerful heart filled of hope good medicine
  47. Hope as long as you live
  48. Gods word like a surgeons scalpel
  49. Without God no purpose, no goal, no hope
  50. A call easy to understand
  51. Getting of at the fence
  52. Clothe yourselves with compassion, kindness, humility, gentleness and patience
  53. A gift of 86,400 seconds
  54. Know Who goes with us and don’t try to control life

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  • Act Your Age (fernandogros.com)
    The common line is your teens are a time to experiment and enjoy the freedom you will not have in later life. But, this might be changing as social media is apt to keep all our teenage mistakes alive, digitally, for the rest of our lives (especially with video and photos). Moreover, many of the life-defining decisions my grandparent’s generation made in their teens (what career, who to marry, where to live) are now deferred into people’s twenties and even thirties.In fact, being a teenager today might be more about experiencing (or resisting) a narrowing of horizons. The internet is making a lot of teens more tribal, with narrower, rather than broader tastes in music, film and the arts. And, while many key decisions in life are being deferred, prejudices and attitudes are sometimes being hardened earlier, especially in countries where the effects of globalisation are being strongly resisted.So, the teenage years shouldn’t just be a time to experiment with identity and freedom, but also with ideas. It’s a time to learn how to make friends, but also, how to work and collaborate with people who we maybe don’t get along with that well, or perhaps don’t even understand. It’s a time to keep the candle of cultural curiosity alight, before the 24/7 news cycle, internet content farms like BuzzFeed and the workplace water cooler try to snuff it out.
  • The Beauty Of Limits (awildhealing.wordpress.com)
    In the everyday world, the outward changes I’ve made (and been forced to make by the power of fate, a power that seemed to know more than I did about the beauty of having faith) – finally leaving a job that supported the parasitic financial industry, and abandoning the vain and empty hope of a ‘bigger, brighter future’ in London where I would one day ‘make it’, or at least be able to keep up with the others ‘making it’ – to become what, in our current success-obsessed culture, would be classed a ‘failure’.The old skin has shed away, and as I get used to living with the eyes and hands of a beginner, and continue to integrate all that I have learnt piecemeal these last few years, I realise that becoming whole and remaining sane in an increasingly insane world is more of a struggle than it needs to be because our culture – and us, as active participants in it – refuses to acknowledge the central part that limits play in balancing our relationship to the world around us.
  • Uniting the People of the world (filmsforaction.org)
    The more intellectual and thorough our analysis, the more we become entangled in an endless examination of commercialisation and its grievous effects. We find there is no end to its web of complexity. Yet there is nothing theoretical or academic about the family that doesn’t have enough food to eat, that cannot afford to see a doctor, that has no right in some countries even to debate or protest. The more we write and intellectualise, the more we criticise and contest, the more insoluble become the many crises of the world.
  • Rebuilding The Nation: Lessons From Other Lands By Governor Babatunde Fashola (abusidiqu.com)
    in addition to material reconstruction, there is an urgent and massive need for moral and spiritual reconstruction as well: the kind of reconstruction which will help to demolish morbid desire for naked power and domination; abuse and misuse of power and office; greed, selfishness, and intolerance; nepotism, favouritism, jobbery, bribery, and other forms of corruption; and erect, in their places, probity, tolerance, altruism, and devotion; equality of treatment, justice, equity, and fair play to all.”
  • Rebuilding Nigeria: Lessons from Other Lands – by Gov Fashola (olufamous.com)
    the reality is that this rebasing did not, and has not, addressed chronic poverty, infrastructure decay, creeping authoritarianism, mass youth unemployment, adult underemployment, burgeoning insecurity and overall bad governance, and other challenges that confront the country.

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