Uncommon Sense

December 28, 2025

This May Irritate the Hell Out of You

I was reading a post by Ian Welch just now that began with:

What Constitutes A Successful Life?
By Ian Welch
December 23, 2025 at 6:37 pm

I never fully bought into the consensus ideas of what constitutes a successful life. Money, power, 2.3 kids, a house in the burbs.

I was an only child and I spent a lot of time around adults as a kid, especially before my teens. Most of them were spending their lives doing things they wouldn’t have done if they didn’t need money, and most of them didn’t seem happy—in some cases happy about their work, in other cases happy about their lives.

I am well into a belief that what we think of as being “normal” is instead a delusion of what I call Mother Culture (a niece of Mother Nature). (If I can imagine our culture to be a woman I can also make her delusional, so please no telegrams, letters, etc. decrying my misogyny.) We don’t know exactly what shapes culture but we have some good ideas. What launched this most recent post is the idea pushed called “Biblical marriage,” you know ‘marriage is between one man and one woman’. This is touted by opponents of gay marriage as the idea form of relations between men and women. But biblical marriage, really? What a fuck up. Let’s see, we have Solomon and his 300 concubines, to go along with his 700 wives. We have King David fucking another man’s wife and then sending the guy to a war front in the hopes that he gets killed. Then there is the proscription if a man dies without male progeny, his widow is to hie over to her dead husband’s house and spread her legs for his brother, to make sure that her dead husband’s “line” does not disappear. (And, then there is the requirement of a rapist to marry the woman he rapes, paying a fine to the girl’s father, etc.)

Nowadays young people are sold the idea of finding their “sole mate” by relatives, Hollywood movies, books, magazines, and more. Little girls are encouraged to think of themselves as princesses, and who the fuck would want to condemn their girl child with such an existence? Princesses, of course, have their one and only Prince Charmings.

So, one is to find their ideal mate and form a breeding pair (my term). Only when the female becomes pregnant are they described as “starting a family,” since the two of them do not count. The male is supposed to “provide” in the form of security, housing, food, basically most of the material stuffs for the “family”. The female is supposed to “nurture” the family by maintaining the household and rearing the children.

Are you ready to gag yet?

There is obviously too much work for just two adults to do. Currently, with the diminishment of labor in the U.S., women find that on top of all of their family obligations, she needs a job too because the “man” no longer can provide enough income to completely support the “family.” Of course, the man compensates by taking over a share of the household chores … <okay, when you stop laughing, it might have happened, maybe one out of a hundred cases>.

Children in today’s culture are greedy little demanding snots hardly worth the effort. I remember when we had family meetings and our parents told us that we were going on vacation … for the first time, and where we were going and what we would be doing every time after that. They got not a peep from us. In today’s reality, there would be demands that they go to Disney World, or this or that vacation hot spot. Cruise ships used to be serene floating hotels to get away from one’s ordinary life, now they seem to be floating amusement parks … for the kids.

Okay, what if we were to roll this movie back and consider alternatives.

A common trope in movies is for one character to have a romantic interest in two others but he/she can’t decide which of the two he/she is “really serious” about. Examples are the movie “Eva” (When Eva, a young housemaid, gets involved in a steamy threesome with a houseboy and her lady boss, she realizes she has to choose only one of them.) and “You Me Her” (Centers around a three-way romantic relationship involving a loving suburban married couple and another woman.) and way, way too many others to count.

There is an old proverb which says that whenever forced to choose between two options, always take the third. So, why shouldn’t he/she choose both of them? Having a marriage of more than two: three, four … more! …creates a group living situation in which there are more adults to handle to necessary work. The handy guy can do all of the handyman things, while the other guy can do the other manly things. The woman who really likes kids can play the nanny role and the woman who doesn’t care that much for kids can be the chef. Or one of the men can do the cooking and cleaning and one of the women can be the investment banker to bring in the necessary funds. You see there are more people to do the same categories of chores. How you divvy them up is up to the group.

And, the aspect of the “marriage” that is never attended to: sex, is more widely distributed. I have come to the conclusion that monogamous is synonymous with monotonous. These “poly” situations would be more conducive to not becoming monotonous. (Why do we teach high school kids how to balance a checkbook, how to do algebra, how to dribble a basketball, how to read and write, but we leave the dominant characteristic of mature relationships, sex, completely out of it? I suggest this is due to religions deciding that sex was a large lever to control their “flock” members with. Pathetic.)

Think about how much more affordable a four bedroom house would be if four adults lived there? The chores could be split four ways, instead of just two ways and the odds that some needed skill was at hand would be doubled. But the current “Breeding Pair Model” of a marriage (not fucking Biblical, you will note) forces tasks onto the pair they do not have the skills to attend to. And what if one of the breeding pair wants children and the other does not? (A sensible system would provide a contract for the marriage, including things like the production of 1-3 children (if possible), amongst other things. Important to this contract is the obligations the two have to one another and any progeny should they desire to opt out of the contract, a contract enforceable by government (currently you are on your own), you know, an enforceable pre-nuptial agreement.

Note—I can’t wait to read the comments … of course, most of which would be telling me I am daft and I could dismiss those comments as coming from those thoroughly indoctrinated by Mother Culture, but I won’t … can’t learn anything that way. S

Postscript I mistyped the word fuck above, inserting an additional letter, and MS Word’s spellchecker caught it, but “fuck” was not on the list of options I may have intended. I corrected the spelling by hand and then re-started the spell checker and it accepted the word without comment, which means it was in Word’s dictionary, but not to be offered as an alternative. Prudish, much? Or is it just a case of avoiding nasty comments from prudes who misspelling the word “fracking” resulted in a proffered correction “Did you mean fucking?” They will probably claim to be “protecting children” or some other such nonsense.

I am using Word 2003, so maybe more current versions have corrected this omission but I do not have the energy to check that out.

ICE, The Latest Iteration of DOGE

If you recall, when Trump was first elected he unleashed his attack dog, Elon Musk, under something called the Department of Government Efficiency. Musk’s “employees” (how his illegal department could have employees when they weren’t part of the previous year’s budget is worth attention) who were very young “bro-types” who crashed any number of government offices, firing people willy-nilly, locking them out of their offices, and confiscating their computers or hard drives.

Gee, I wonder where they are now? I think I know. They are now employees of Immigration and Customs Enforcement, aka ICE, who have used the exact same tactics with regard to what are being called immigration issues. They claim that they are targeting illegal immigrants, especially “the worst of the worst,” for deportation to cooperating government in other countries, nasty, hell-hole countries, that Trump previously referred to as “shit hole countries.” (I thought we didn’t negotiate with terrorists or make deals with shit hole countries?)

ICE, through mid-October, have arrested 210,000 people, including 3300 in my state, Illinois. The people here were as young as four-years old and as old as 75. (How does one get to become one of the “worst of the worst” at only four? Seems like it would take much longer.)

None of the targeted individuals were shown an arrest warrant and many were denied legal representation, some of the families of whom couldn’t even find out where they were. Many were apparently shuffled off to Texas or Missouri which would make ICE in violation of the Mann Act having taken people across state lines for immoral purposes.

These Smash and Grab agents, masked to prevent identification, (Where are all the MAGAts screaming that masks were the tool of the Devil?) seem to brook no accountability with their Dear Leaders shrugging of court orders as if they were litter.

So, how did they know whether the people they dearly wished to deport were undocumented? If you were whisked off the street, other than a driver’s license, would you have documentation of your status as a citizen? (One of those arrested pulled his passport out of his pocket and it was confiscated.) A sizable percentage of those arrested were released after a few days. So, how did they know to arrest those people in the first place? Apparently 60% of those arrested by mid-October in Illinois did not involve a criminal charge or conviction, so no court records could be used to identify them. Government statistics show, unequivocally, that undocumented aliens are less likely to commit crimes that citizens are, which makes this an “othering” effort, in spades (to classify people as “other than us” to discriminate against them wholesale).The administration, of course, is claiming that all of these “worst of the worst” are drug traffickers, gang members, and rapists (Oh, my!). What they actually have in common is … brown skin. (How dare they!)

If there is any motivation for these outrageous and illegal ICE activities, it appears to be to intimidate all other “brown-skinned” folks not already citizens to “self-deport” and discourage other brown-skinned folks from trying to get here to create a better life.

Here is a Google AI Summary/Overview regarding “What percent of ICE arrests are criminals?”

AI Overview
A significant majority of Immigration and Customs Enforcement (ICE) detainees have no criminal conviction, with recent data from late 2025 showing roughly 73-74% lack any criminal record, and even more lack serious or violent offenses, with many having only traffic violations or pending minor charges, according to analyses from think tanks like the Cato Institute and Syracuse University (TRAC). This challenges claims that most detainees are serious criminals, as many have no prior criminal history, making them non-violent, non-criminal individuals caught in sweeps or facing immigration violations.

December 22, 2025

Explain Your Acronyms, People

Filed under: Uncategorized — Steve Ruis @ 11:54 am
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You all know and use acronyms. In baseball, it is well know that RBI is an acronym of “runs batted in” and ERA is the “earned run average” for pitchers. In common use are FBI for the Federal Bureau of Investigation, and IRS is the Internal Revenue Service of the federal government. But please, when using a less well known acronym, explain what they stand for. For example these came up in recent posts unexplained.

UBI From the context and more than a little thinking I twigged that this stood for “universal basic income” which is when a government ensures that all citizens make a minimum amount and if one fails to do that the government backfills the amount.

NVC This stands for Non-violent Communication. Who knew?

WRC+ This acronym stands for Weighted Runs Created Plus which is a comprehensive baseball statistic that measures a player’s total offensive production, adjusting for ballpark effects and league-wide scoring, with 100 being league average, making it easy to compare hitters across different eras and parks.

I am a long time baseball fan and I didn’t know what the heck this stat was, so I had to look it up. But such things shouldn’t have to be looked up. Standard practice used to be that unless an acronym was very widely known, e.g. IRS, FBI, NASA, etc. that you used the whole name followed by the acronym to used subsequently in parentheses:
Weighted Runs Created Plus (WRC+)
Non-violent Communication (NVC)
Universal Basic Income (UBI).

In this oh, so sophisticated age you can even do this in reverse, leading with the acronym and then following with the clarification (for the less well informed, sniff, sniff):
(WRC+) Weighted Runs Created Plus
(NVC) Non-violent Communication
(UBI) Universal Basic Income.

Enough said, now I gotta go chase some of those damned kids off my lawn!

PS Don’t get me started on why some idiot decided only the first letter in an acronym need be capitalized.

WTF, Christmas Narratives?

I have seen post after post discussing the takeaways, truths, yada, yada, yada one could get from the Christmas narratives so common to this time of year.

None of them seem to acknowledge that these stories are fictions and the only “ah-hahs” one could take away from them are the ones the unknown authors wrote into them.

The putative source of these stories are the New Testament(NT) gospels, the four so-called canonical gospels (there are more, dozens more). But two of the four canonical gospels have no such story in them. Gee, I wonder why? I guess they weren’t important enough to incorporate them into the history of a living god.

Of the two gospels which contain such narratives, there are many points of difference, strange though they may be. How many wise men, aka astrologers, visited the birth scene, for example? You say three? The Bible doesn’t say how many. Gee, I wonder where that number three came from? A song lyric, maybe “… we three kings of orient are …” (ca. 1857)? Were the shepherds out tending their flocks in the field? You say yes. In December? Think again.

The whole premise for Mary and Joseph being on the road when she was ca. nine months pregnant is specious and besides, if this child was fathered by an all-powerful deity, what chance could any harm come to him or his family?

Are we so drunk on stories that we have to imbue them with meaning and purposes? When fiction fanboys do this (Cosplay, anyone?) they are often mocked and ridiculed for wasting time in nonproductive activities. And the fiction writers who are the source of the theological insights people are pouring forth, I wonder who they were. Really, nobody knows who the authors of those four gospels were but scholars are unified on one aspect of them: they are theological documents, not historical. That doesn’t stop theidiots from searching for the “historical Jesus” in those nonhistorical documents. And since those documents are clearly fictional (with almost no archeological support), why are “theological truths” being claimed from theological fictions written by who knows who?

Is great puzzlement!

December 16, 2025

Mr. President About Rob Reiner

Until this moment, Mr. President, I think I never really gauged your cruelty or your recklessness. Let us not assassinate this lad further, Mr. President. You have done enough. Have you no sense of decency?

Loose lips sink ships but tight ones can do wonders. The original words of Special Counsel for the US Army Joseph N. Welch in 1954 who was confronting Senator Joseph McCarthy destroyed McCarthy’s political career and destroyed McCarthy. Maybe his words, adjust to fit the target, will have the same effect on 2025’s worst politician.

Now, That’s Unnatural

In a dispatch on the Religious Dispatches website (Marking A New Low In Catholic Theology, Church Still Considers Women Inferior To Men) the following is to be read:

Pope Leo XIV ordered the release of the Summary of the Study Commission on the Female Diaconate last week, marking a new low point in Catholic theology. The second commission that convened on the ordination question, whose work has been opaque, decided that women cannot be deacons, either as the lowest of three orders (deacon, priest and bishop) or even apart from this model. And just for good measure, the commission dredged up the previous ban on women priests—as if anyone had forgotten it.”

Their “conclusions” might be true if evolution was involved in the making of human beings (although the probability would be very low) because typically changes made this way seem to show “improvements over time, all be them small. For man-made things, subsequent creations typically show improvements over previous ones. Consider laptop computers. The first commercially viable one was the size of a small suitcase (Hey, I worked on a Osborne 1 … it was brutal and I don’t consider the IMB 5100 a contender as it weighed 55 pounds!) and now we carry smartphones around in our pockets that are more powerful.

So, if Eve were man-made, she would much more likely to be the superior model.

Therefore, if evolution were in charge or if humans were in charge, women would be considered at least equal to and possibly superior to men.

I can see why the Catholic Church clings to its deity, a male deity, yes; one that has absolutely no reason to be male? Consider if Jesus would have been born female. God or no, none of the men would have listened to her, and poof, there goes Christianity, so the churches are just continuing a long history of misogyny, supported by, supported by, uh, clerical research.

December 8, 2025

You Know It Is There … Right?

There seems to be an almost universal belief that there is something else “out there,” being a hidden realm, a parallel universe, a supernatural realm, a Heaven, a Hell. We all know it is there, so why can’t we find it?

I have cautioned many to be careful what they ask for in this search, typically Christians asking for scientific proof of their god’s existence. Why Christians who are also scientists haven’t provided this, yet, is a puzzlement, but I tell each of these requesters to be careful what they ask for! If “science” were to prove the existence of their god, it would immediately fall out of the supernatural realm and into the natural realm. (We are called natural scientists for a reason.) This means that their god would instantaneously become the most interesting research topic for myriad pimply-faced graduate students. The longest list of those, no doubt, will be biology students studying why a singular god, with no other gods to mate with, would possess male reproductive organs, in order to be considered a “he.” Talk about preferred pronouns!

So, the realm we all know is there, we just can’t seem to interact with it … so how is it we know it is there?

If you ask the parallel universe people they refer to entire universes just off to the side of ours, in the fifth or eleventh dimension. Of course these dimensions are merely speculative and there is no explanation for the choice of the word parallel to describe the positions of these places. Parallel means off to the side by a constant amount as in one railroad track is X meters away from its twin. But both tracks are in our universe and are observable. What is in those other universes that is a set distance away from ours but neither is observable while observing the other. I guess it is intended to be metaphoric or is an example of scientific poesy.

Afterlives abound around the globe. One of my favorites, if memory serves, was created by the Celts who believed that when you died you went to another existence to live there as you did here, and when you died there, you came back to this existence, rinse and repeat. Kind of like the wheel of karma it was.

I understand that many believe in some kind of dream world that is separate from our existence. This belief can be explained by the linkages between dreams, memories, and imagination. Imagination is a powerful survival tool, so once an animal evolves to have the brain power, they develop the power of imagination. I see this in my pet dog. While sleeping he may move his legs as if chasing another animal and even growl (he dreams?). When presented with even a small gap he must jump over, he hesitates and approaches the gap several times, crouches, backs off, etc. If he isn’t imagining the dangers associated with missing the jump what is he doing? (Once he is familiar with a gap, he leaps it without pause.)

Dreams can be considered to be made of the same stuff as memories. Both seem to be part anchored in reality and part anchored in fantasy. We now know that memories morph over time and that they aren’t necessarily accurate correlates to experiences. The ability to store memories (what the hell good are they if they can’t be recalled?) is obvious, and so fantasies are simply synthetic memories, often with snatches of reality blended in.

Back when we lived close to nature, when Grandma died, she was often buried and various and sundry rituals performed, but during the subsequent nights various people get “visits” from Grandma in their sleep and voilà, we have a dream world where Grandma is still alive, because we loved her and want the best for her and she even talked to me in my sleep indicating she really likes the condo in New Jersey she is inhabiting, or whatever.

As you can see, a great deal of wishful thinking is involved. (I always hear Peggy Lee singing “Is That All There Is?” in the background of my thoughts when writing on this topic.) We want there to be a nice place we go to when we or our loved ones die. If we are poor, there is much gold plating and jewels scattered on the ground (which of course have no value in an imagined realm, which kind tells you what is going on). To eat there is milk and honey (it is hard to find Wagyu beef in, say, Heaven, but dairy cows are abundant). We are still arguing as to whether our pet dogs will be there for us). But unlike the Celts, our Christian afterlife has vast holes in its description. (Do the ordinary dead get to fornicate with angels or what? Enquiring minds want to know!)

So, with there being so very little evidence of Plato’s realm, Sheol, Heaven, Valhalla, and whatnot, why are we so sure such places exist? I suggest it is wishful thinking and no more.

Can Science Explain Everything?

The above question, which was the trigger for this post, came from memory and the title of a book, “Can Science Explain Everything?” by John Lennox. Lennox is an academic apologist/excusigist of the Christian variety and he is noted frequently whenever the boundaries of science and Christianity cross.

The short answer is “no” at least that is my opinion, as a scientist. To unpack this, however, there is no such thing as “science” as a monolithic tool in our tool box. There are so many sciences now, acting as if they acted in concert is, well, unhelpful.

I will start by offering that I believe the assumption here is that “science” means the natural sciences, being any science that investigates nature, that is. There are many studies that claim to be scientific: social sciences, psychology, economics, Christian Science (OMG!), and so on, and I am not at all sure whether the jury is in on whether those should be included. Certainly I will not include them in this discussion.

First allow me to suggest that scientific methods are tools by which we study nature. The use of said tools has been fantastically successful, so successful that there is a general belief that if we wish to understand the workings of nature, science is the first tool we reach for. We do not cast bones, or research ancient books, or conduct séances or look for ancient astronauts to ask. Philosophers are inclined to just think about things (I consider myself to be an amateur philosopher), but science has shown that just thinking about nature doesn’t hack it, which is why natural philosophy changed its name to science and moved out of Philosophy.

So, scientific approaches are considered to be the best place to start, the best tools to begin any serious study of nature. There is no “proof” that science is the “best” tool in our toolbox, there is just our experience that it works better than any of the alternatives. Just as we think nails and hammers go together, screws and screwdrivers, etc. Yes, you can drive a screw into wood using a hammer but the results aren’t particularly satisfactory.

So, can science explain everything? Why would anyone even ask such a question? I suspect it is being asked by religionists hanging onto their “other ways of knowing” and “other planes of existence” ideas when actually if they wanted to establish their validity they might want to show some evidence for the existence of such things. To address science with the slur: smarty pants scientists don’t know everything, is pathetic and petty, too.

Considering the vastness of the universe and the vastness of the amount of data about nature (the total amount of human scientific knowledge has doubled twice since I graduated college), it is ludicrous to suggest that human beings could even possibly know everything. Even if we invented artificial intelligences which could collect data millions of times faster than can we, humans would still face the equally monumental task of addressing the data collected. Or if we train the AIs to also interpret the data, would we even have the capacity to check it all, isolating valid interpretations from AI “hallucinations?”

So, no. My opinion is that Science Cannot Explain Everything, but that doesn’t add one iota of support for your belief in your imaginary gods and imaginary realms of existence. Good luck with your search. (I am assuming your search is sincere and not just a way to sell books.)

Church Attendance is Falling Because …

This is a hot topic in the blogosphere. And speculations fly right and left. Some say it is due to the corrupt nature of modern churches, including pedophile Catholic priests and hypocritical Prosperity Gospel ministers, but I think there is one cause I haven’t seen promoted yet: human nature.

The whole appeal of religions is emotional. It emphasizes belonging to a community and so forth, but the inherent message is “you are special.” They say their god has a personal relationship with your name on it and only “special people” get those relationships. Of course, they do not state it that way, but it distills down to that.

This marketing plan, seemingly followed by all of the U.S. religions, runs smack dab up against the Totem Pole Syndrome, which I invented and goes like this: the only way you can know that you aren’t on the bottom of the totem pole is to be sitting upon someone else.

Just like the neighborhood billboards claiming “You are beautiful” or Trump’s promise to make everyone rich, those outcomes are impossible. If everyone would be rich, no one would be rich because we would be just like our neighbors. And a dozen eggs would cost $3,745. If we were all “beautiful” then where would be find the ugly to be more beautiful than … ?

So, being special (You should be hearing the Church Lady’s enunciation of that word.) virtually requires “others” who are not special to compare with. This makes all of these religions naturally divisive. How on Earth could there be 40,000+ different denominations of a religion worshiping the same god, Jesus? Does each one look at the others and decry “You are worshipping him all wrong!”?

And not a day goes by in which I don’t see one Christian telling another Christian “You are going to Hell!” These are typically evangelicals, but those churches are in the minority, those which do not have falling attendance and membership. It is fascinating that many of those same churches tell “others” that they only have to accept Jesus in their hearts and even if those folks have done so, if they vote Democrat, they are going to Hell. (Hint: when they say “you only have to accept Jesus in your heart” they are lying because their definition of doing that results in someone who looks and acts just like them, and those are the criteria they actually mean.)

Evangelicals love Trump because he is pointing to “the others” and crying “deport them” or “fire on their boats,” or “have ICE lock them up.” Trump understands that “others” just aren’t wanted as we do not want people “of their kind” in our country, which is exactly harmonious with church teachings. I mean, they are going to Hell, so why cater to them here and now?

Right Hand, Meet Left Hand

Physics and its poor cousin, cosmology, have been in turmoil for quite some time. The last major advance seems to be from the 1970s when the Standard Model of subatomic particles and forces was completed. But even back then many also lodged the complaint that that theory is incomplete because the force of gravity was still not explained, nor made compatible with the relativity theories.

Hello? Aren’t these the same people who recently told us that there is no force of gravity, that what we perceive as gravity is just a consequence of masses warping of space-time, as explained by Einstein no less.

So, complaining about including a force in a fundamental theory and claiming at the same time that such a force does not exist, hmm, do they talk to each other at all?

There is a crisis here indeed, but it seems that these folks need to get their act together, introducing one hand to the other so they can work together.

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