Did you know there are over 40 life events that can trigger grief?
This concept is rooted in the groundbreaking work of psychiatrists Thomas Holmes and Richard Rahe, who developed the Holmes-Rahe Stress Scale. This scale lists 43 life events known to cause stress and, potentially, significant health issues.
While the original scale ranks these events by stress points, I believe that every individual experiences loss fully, regardless of its point value. Therefore, I present these events not in a hierarchy, but as equally valid triggers of grief.
Grief Defined
According to the Grief Recovery Method, “Grief is the conflicting feelings caused by the end of or change in a familiar pattern of behaviour.” This definition helps us understand that grief can stem from any significant change, not just from loss through death or separation.
Interestingly, not all events traditionally associated with grief are about loss. For example, getting married is included high on the list. While a wedding is often one of the happiest days in a person’s life, the significant changes it brings can also be sources of stress. Similarly, a change in financial status, like receiving a windfall, can evoke complex feelings of excitement and anxiety.
Beyond these tangible life changes, there are also intangible sources of grief, such as the loss of trust, approval, safety, and control over one’s body. Recognising these less visible forms of grief is crucial for understanding how broadly and deeply grief can affect our lives.
In the event you need more than just coaching, with me as a Certified Advanced Grief Recovery Specialist, you are empowered with tools and actions to address your emotional pain and/or unresolved communication.
This is an internationally recognised and only evidence-based grief recovery method that can support more than 40 types of grief and loss. You journey through step-by-step actions that are powerful to heal from your life’s deepest heartbreaks and grief.
GRM debunk the myths of:
- “you got to stay strong.”
- “keep yourself busy.”
- “time will heal.”
- “grief just takes time.”
- “don’t feel bad.”
You find it hard to feel any better or struggle to deal with your emotional pain loss because these phrases do not serve you in your healing journey.
You are not alone.
The Grief Recovery Method consist of seven sessions with tools to support you in the different types of losses. This method is not intended to be or substitute for professional medical or mental health services. For more details, visit www.griefrecoverymethod.com.
Rates: $180 per session, minimum 7 sessions
Duration: 60 – 90 minutes per session
Includes Grief Recovery Book and Workbook
