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“In short, every child develops in ways that best allow them to compensate for weakness; “a thousand talents and capabilities arise from our feelings of inadequacy,” Adler noted.”
― Tom Butler-Bowdon, 50 Psychology Classics: Who We Are, How We Think, What We Do: Insight and Inspiration from 50 Key Books

“Reactivity is one of the greatest indicators that you have a wound. When you have a strong reaction to something, that reaction is sounding an alarm.”
― Vienna Pharaon, The Origins of You: How Breaking Family Patterns Can Liberate the Way We Live and Love

“Whether you avoid connection and intimacy to protect yourself from being abandoned again, or whether you attach quickly and anxiously in your relationships, the end result is still an absence of authentic connection.”
― Vienna Pharaon, The Origins of You: How Breaking Family Patterns Can Liberate the Way We Live and Love

“A well-known quote attributed to Viktor Frankl, a Holocaust survivor, author, and psychiatrist, goes like this: “Between stimulus and response there is a space. In that space is our power to choose our response. In our response lies our growth and our freedom.”
― Vienna Pharaon, The Origins of You: How Breaking Family Patterns Can Liberate the Way We Live and Love

“As the Swiss psychiatrist and psychoanalyst Carl Jung would say, “Until you make the unconscious conscious, it will direct your life and you will call it fate.”
― Vienna Pharaon, The Origins of You: How Breaking Family Patterns Can Liberate the Way We Live and Love

“The two people whom I’d trusted to be my protectors were so busy fighting each other they for a time lost sight of me. I realized I had to create my own safety.”
― Vienna Pharaon, The Origins of You: How Breaking Family Patterns Can Liberate the Way We Live and Love

“Our wounds and our gifts are next-door neighbors.” What a beautiful reminder that some of our greatest gifts do emerge from the pain we’ve endured.”
― Vienna Pharaon, The Origins of You: How Breaking Family Patterns Can Liberate the Way We Live and Love

“Letting go of anger and hate requires us to give up the hope for a different past, along with the hope of a fantasized future. What we gain is a life more in the present, where we are not mired in prolonged anger and resentment that doesn’t serve us.”
― Harriet Lerner, Why Won't You Apologize?: Healing Big Betrayals and Everyday Hurts

“A person can be in love and also unprepared to care for that love”
― Yung Pueblo, Lighter: Let Go of the Past, Connect With the Present, and Expand the Future

“Self-protection is learning how to take a pause between what you feel and how you react. When there is no awareness between what you perceive and the way that you respond, anything can control you. Practice the pause. Widen the space between what you sense and what you do about it. Decide what’s worth your energy, because what you engage with is what you empower.”
― Brianna Wiest, The Pivot Year

“Relationships are not safeguards against loneliness. You can’t whittle yourself down to being as nice and accepting and likable as possible in order to ensure that as many people as possible won’t leave you. Relationships come and go; that is what they are designed to do.”
― Brianna Wiest, When You're Ready, This Is How You Heal

“Your old self is no longer suited to manage the life you have today, and so they must transform into who you are becoming now.”
― Brianna Wiest, When You're Ready, This Is How You Heal

“It is never the right time until it is the right person.”
― Brianna Wiest, When You're Ready, This Is How You Heal

“It is very hard to show up as the person you want to be when you are surrounded by an environment that makes you feel like a person you aren’t.”
― Brianna Wiest, The Mountain Is You: Transforming Self-Sabotage Into Self-Mastery

“Either way, mental strength is not just hoping that nothing ever goes wrong. It is believing that we have the capacity to handle it if it does.”
― Brianna Wiest, The Mountain Is You: Transforming Self-Sabotage Into Self-Mastery

“The greatest act of self-love is to no longer accept a life you are unhappy with.”
― Brianna Wiest, The Mountain Is You: Transforming Self-Sabotage Into Self-Mastery

“Start quantifying your days by how many healthy, positive things you accomplished, and you will see how quickly you begin to make progress.”
― Brianna Wiest, The Mountain Is You: Transforming Self-Sabotage Into Self-Mastery

“Self-sabotage is what happens when we refuse to consciously meet our innermost needs, often because we do not believe we are capable of handling them.”
― Brianna Wiest, The Mountain Is You: Transforming Self-Sabotage Into Self-Mastery

“Though you cannot always control what you feel, you can control how you respond, and in that response, you can find your freedom.”
― Brianna Wiest, When You're Ready, This Is How You Heal

“Forgive yourself for the way you held yourself back because you didn’t believe in your own potential, because you didn’t believe in your capacity to take up space.”
― Bianca Sparacino, A Gentle Reminder

“You have to believe that your ideas, and your hope, and your being, deserve to take up space.”
― Bianca Sparacino, A Gentle Reminder

“Do not seek familiarity, do not keep searching for your past in your future. Trust what comes.”
― Bianca Sparacino, A Gentle Reminder

“Open yourself up, do not harden yourself to the world, and be bold in who, and how, you love. There is courage in that.”
― Bianca Sparacino, Seeds Planted in Concrete

“It’s easy to look back and question decisions you have made in the past, but it’s unfair to punish yourself for them. You can’t blame yourself for not knowing back then what you know now, and the truth is you made each decision for a reason based on how you were feeling at the time. As we grow up, we learn and we evolve. Maybe the person you are now would have done things differently back then, or maybe you are the person you are now because of the decisions you made back then.”
― Charlotte Freeman, Everything You’ll Ever Need: You Can Find Within Yourself

“The worst happened, and then it passed. You lost the person you thought you couldn’t live without and then you kept living. You lost your job then found another one. You began to realize that “safety” isn’t in certainty—but in faith that you can simply keep going.”
― Brianna Wiest, 101 Essays That Will Change The Way You Think

“The things you love about others are the things you love about yourself. The things you hate about others are the things you cannot see in yourself.”
― Brianna Wiest, 101 Essays That Will Change The Way You Think

“When you start considering things not as obligations but as opportunities, you start taking advantage of them rather than trying to avoid them.”
― Brianna Wiest, 101 Essays That Will Change The Way You Think

“Self-confidence is the belief in your abilities as a person. Self-worth is the belief in your value as a person.”
― Jamie Kern Lima, Worthy: How to Believe You Are Enough and Transform Your Life

“Visit the past, but don't stay there.”
― Nedra Glover Tawwab, Drama Free: A Guide to Managing Unhealthy Family Relationships

“Relationships need boundaries. Yours are your responsibility, and when you set one, it's your job to ensure it's honored.”
― Nedra Glover Tawwab, Drama Free: A Guide to Managing Unhealthy Family Relationships