Attachment Quotes

“It is only when we are fully rooted that we are really able to move.”
― Madeline L'Engle, Madeleine L'Engle's Time Quintet (A Wrinkle in Time, A Wind in the Door, A Swiftly Titling Planet, An Acceptable Time)

“Only Jedi have to strive for nonattachment. Farmers can cry all they want.”
― Sean Stewart, Yoda: Dark Rendezvous

“Vulnerability is our relationship to our weaknesses, not our weaknesses themselves.

It's the feeling we have when confronted with our imperfections. The image of being vulnerable is that of taking off our armor, making ourselves available to be intimate, to be touchable. To own your vulnerabilities is a move of trust, a move of solidarity.”
― Scott Erickson, Say Yes: Discover the Surprising Life Beyond the Death of a Dream

“Mastering the art of detachment and attachment is the art of mastering life and spirituality.”
― Amit Ray, Enlightenment Step by Step

“Distance is the root of indifference.”
― Abhijit Naskar, Rowdy Scientist: Handbook of Humanitarian Science

“Stars weave dreams on midnight’s quilt.
First rays of dawn reveal their built.”
― Amogh Swamy, On My Way To Infinity: A Seeker's Poetic Pilgrimage

“I value authenticity, and I choose love, not attachment”
― Leo Lourdes, A World of Yoga: 700 Asanas for Mindfulness and Well-Being

“Cruel optimism is the condition of maintaining an attachment to a problematic object in advance of its loss.”
― Lauren Berlant, The Affect Theory Reader

“We should be careful to avoid getting too attached to a particular route or even a particular destination. There isn't one definition of success or one track to happiness.”
― Adam Grant, Think Again: The Power of Knowing What You Don't Know

“5 Patterns of Strife -
Attachment. Resisting. Catastrophizing. Victimizing. Withdrawing.”
― Jake Eagle LPC, The Power of Awe: Overcome Burnout & Anxiety, Ease Chronic Pain, Find Clarity & Purpose―In Less Than 1 Minute Per Day

“Success is dispensability”
― Alex Jadad

“Children who feel that they are unloved can believe that there must be something very wrong about them which makes them unacceptable. The stinging sense of being not right causes them confusion and hurt, but they do not give up the desire for love and acceptance. They despair of it, certainly. They pine for it and perhaps fear it. But their pursuit of love and acceptance will dovetail with an attempt to change themselves into someone the child himself can accept.”
― Susie Orbach, Bodies

“We now know that there is a critical period for language development. If you do not learn to speak as a youngster, you may never learn to speak. The babbling-cooing between baby and mother is a proto-language developed on the way to structuring specific facial muscles: the shapes that the tongue, lips, cheek and jaw will make and the ear will process in the construction of language. The baby is repeating the sounds she or he hears. It takes a lot of practice to get your tongue, mouth, jaw and cheek muscles to coordinate and accurately reflect back what is heard.”
― Susie Orbach, Bodies

“The one who is free has no desires, no attachments, and no aversions. They are always in a state of supreme peace and happiness.”
― Twitter -@IntroIntrospect

“Those whose human (especially parental) relationships have been unsatisfactory are significantly more likely to undergo a religious conversion, suggesting the need for supernatural compensation for inadequate human attachments.”
― Matt J. Rossano, Supernatural Selection: How Religion Evolved

“I for one have ceased to cling to life and to things; I have the feeling that everything is accidental, that one must break one's inner bonds with people and stand aside for all else.”
― Etty Hillesum, An Interrupted Life: The Diaries, 1941-1943; and Letters from Westerbork

“The world is nothing but comprised of two elements, Moh and Maya, i.e. Attachment and Illusion.”
― Vikrmn: CA Vikram Verma, Smiling Brahma

“A coorie home is one that both looks and feels good.
A squishy couch and a favourite mug filled with a steaming cup of tea can brighten the edges of even the most miserable day.
There must be a psychological reason behind why we get attached to certain items in our homes, whether it's dad's armchair with its alarmingly permanent bum groove or a wooden spoon with just the right shaped handle.
Answers on a postcard, please.”
― Gabriella Bennett, The Art of Coorie: How to Live Happy the Scottish Way

“What we are mistaking for a voluntary attraction of animals to humans can be explained by the “imprint phenomenon.” This biological process, first described by Konrad Lorenz, is responsible for the fact that animals, including humans, learn species-specific information, behaviours, and skills at specific points in their development. Imprinting is how animals learn early to attach to their mothers and identify with members of their own species. It is the mechanism that allows us to domesticate animals and nurture intimate relationships with them; as long as we integrate or selves into young animals’ lives before the attachment period ends, we can divert their identification with their own families and species onto ourselves.”
― Charles Danten, Un vétérinaire en colère - Essai sur la condition animale

“When a pet is adopted within its imprint period, the attachment it felt to its mother is quickly transferred to the new owner, who steps in to meet the pet’s physical and emotional demands. Herein lies the reason pets become so instantly bonded to us. The process may seem harmless on the surface, even natural, but keep in mind that the normal progression of things would have the young animal soon beginning to detach from its parent. Whereas the animal’s mother would discourage continued dependence, the surrogate mother, the new owner, encourages it. In this way, the case of usurped identity is never followed by detachment. Quite the contrary: the whole dynamic of interactions between people and their pets relies on the maintenance of the bond. Because of this, pets remain infantile, never reaching any level of autonomy or emotional maturity.”
― Charles Danten, Un vétérinaire en colère - Essai sur la condition animale

“Animals are certainly attached to us, but they do not love us in the true sense of the word: their dependence is ensured when we take advantage of the imprint mechanism, the biological phenomenon that guarantees they will identify with us for life.”
― Charles Danten, Un vétérinaire en colère - Essai sur la condition animale

“Civilization is not a destination,
Civilization is the journey.
Heaven is a people, not a place,
An exercise in attachment, not apathy.”
― Abhijit Naskar, Insan Himalayanoğlu: It's Time to Defect

“Attachment is not Love. Attachment hurts. Love liberates.”
― Manoj Arora, Happiness Unlimited: How to be happy always

“My mind reaches its highest state of serenity when it is withdrawn from all forms of attachment”
― Leo Lourdes, A World of Yoga: 700 Asanas for Mindfulness and Well-Being

“Distance is but a myth,
a sign of love's absence -
Be drunk in love, and lo,
all distance disappears.”
― Abhijit Naskar, Yarasistan: My Wounds, My Crown

“What is it that makes me feel this way? I don’t know. All I know is that I have been looking for something or someone. And I have found that.”
― Asif Hossain, Veronica

“The ego is not dragged kicking and screaming to the feet of the higher self; it leaps for joy into its waiting arms. The ego is relieved to know there is an alternative to the pain it has known and its fear, attachment, and entitlement.”
― David Richo, How to Be an Adult in Relationships: The Five Keys to Mindful Loving

“I don't need you to be here, Jude would tell me in time, but I want you to be. And that's how it should be. It's better that way. Love, he would tell me, is all about choice. Free will. Need is about dependency.

Jude thought we should be like a gift to each other, but I longed to be essential. That was love, I decided, as our intimacy changed and deepened over the course of the year. Not being able to do without. Waiting -- that was just desire, fluid and changeable as the tide. Need was real love, the truest kind I'd known, born as it is out of what we lack, and that was how I felt about Jude back then -- that he completed me, we completed each other, as in the old myth about the origin of love. And if I was essential, the other half of whatever he was, then he could never abandon me.

Across from me at the table that afternoon, he shrugged.

So stay, he said, as if it were an easy thing.

I don't have any of my things.

I have things. A whole house full of things.

I shouldn't.

He was offering me what I'd wanted, but I was plagued by the feeling that the invitation wasn't genuine, that it was only because I'd prompted him that he suggested I'd stay. This cheapened it in my mind, and I felt graceless and worse than if he hadn't asked at all.

So don't. Forget it.”
― Madelaine Lucas, Thirst for Salt

“And was Jude broken? How raw was the wound left by the last woman? What kind of woman would I have to be to keep him?

I could love her easily, abundantly, where with Jude I had to be so careful to parcel out my affections in case I scared him away.”
― Madelaine Lucas, Thirst for Salt

“I held out my hand and he looked down at it, as if he didn't understand what I was offering. At last he said, I think I'm a little old for that, love. But I stood there, stubborn, my empty palm open and outstretched. Don't give me that look, he said, and then he signed, relented. I felt happy then, proud, as if I had won something. Walking side by side with his hand in mine.

I would learn that things I perceived as abandonment were Jude's acts of trust, like the way he always walked ahead without looking behind him, trusting me to keep pace, to follow. But I was the kind who always looked back, glancing over my shoulder whenever I turned a corner, as if I were a woman descended from the line of Lot's wife in the old parable. When I licked my lips, I tasted salt.”
― Madelaine Lucas, Thirst for Salt