chris.tan™

Rather tired nowadays, with all kinds of matter happening around us.

At last, I be able to post the 1st AotW for year 2010.
It's been a long wait that I could actually come out with one.
Has been busy for the past few weeks or month.

Here we go:

Many matters in reality are different from our own imagination.
What we thought is ain't what supposed to happen.
What we did not thought about will always happen to us.
So, we would be thinking in mind now, so we should think about matters that we do not want it to happen.
Of course, we cannot do that, it will cause us to be 'lifeless'.

Sometimes we thought we found what we were looking for,
But the truth is, what we were looking for are long lost than found.
Sometimes we thought we lost what we were looking for,
But it is the other way round.

Things happen for multiple reasons,
even when we do not realise what the reasons are,
it is still explainable to anyone.

Moreover, even if we thought we found our best friends back again.
Getting in touch, getting hang out.
It does not mean that we found back our best bonds.
This is what I interprets as Found But Lost.

The true relationship can be found only at the 1st bonding.
But if and only the relationship/bond starts to break up.
It will never be the same anymore.
The bond of a true relationship, regardless of friends nor partners,
will be a weak bond.

So, the main point here is that, we should appreciate whoever close to us.
Because once the relationship becomes tense, it will never be good.


Enjoy this old video after you finish this.

Nightly Op. 1


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Chris

Hey readers,

I am back with Advice of the week column.
It's been long that I update this column.
I will try my best to update it as frequent as i could.

Here is today's:

Obsession over something small,
Obsession over something huge.
What do obsession creates in our life?

It is obvious and usual to be obsessed in love,
Obsession of being in love, obsession of being loved.
Either being in love or being loved, obsession is born.
What might be the cause of this feeling?

Maybe because of TIME?
TIME might be just one of the few factors that caused the feeling of Obssess.
For those who is not in any relationship with anyone,
When was the last time you was in love or being loved by someone?
From my observation, the longer the time period where you stay alone,
the higher the chances of obsession towards love is born.
Would you agree with me?

Another factor might be natural principle of a person.
Where sometimes, we tend to cling to someone that we love too much.
Being obsessed about what they do, what they want, or what they need.
But as a third party, we feel that it is annoying.
As one being obssesed, it will affect the people around them to be frustrated.

Last but not least, this is the aftermath of being obssesed over something.
When you cannot hold on to it, you breakdown.
When you no longer need by it, you breakdown.
When you are not accepted by the love, you breakdown.
When you are accepted by the love, you cherrish but you have 2nd thoughts.
When you have 2nd thoughts, you becomes even obsessed to it.
When you becomes even obsessed to it, you will eventually lose it.

In conclusion, be obssessed to love but not to go over the limit.

By the way, this is another masterpiece from Chris.Tan (me)
The 1st part of the song was inspired by Pieng Ter (a thai song) by Witwisit Hiranyawongkul.
But the chorus of this song is totally different.
Feel free to comment on youtube!
Plus, if you like it, spread to your friends.


Thank you!!
P/S: Completing a song which is kinda crazy. 2 tempos. :)

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Chris

This week, something new.
Enjoy yourself reading this.
In my mind, this topic is quite a something to talk about.
Many people are confused and lost.
Hope this may help a little. :)

Togetherness is something that lost in the today's society.
Rarely, we can feel togetherness between friends.
Nor, we have with someone that we treasure.

Taking by example, a group of friends should always caring to each other.
Taking into consideration of what others might feel,
Taking into consideration of what is the purpose of being as friends,
Taking into consideration of the goal to achieve together.

But, often some of us, try to make things up
To create, togetherness in our friendships.
We do activities together and we enjoy it.
That is what togetherness means in Friendships.

Friendship is a long journey to each and everyone of us.
We must appreciate and do our best to carry on with friendships.

What I'm trying to pass on here is, togetherness is needed in a friendship.
Nobody is alone out there, just you felt yourself are neglected.
Which yourself is the cause of it.

Did you get something?

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Chris

Well, today is Mid-Autumn, just that we still need to consider this.

This week on Advice of the Week:

Currently, I will post AotW column using my old AotW.we meet tonnes of difficulties including those which involved themselves in relationship.
Difficulties that sometimes too difficult to be solved and just being left at a side.
Being in such problems and the addition of problematic relationships,
these would just sometimes make us go crazy.

Depending on the partner you're with, depending on the situation you're in.
Initialise what you think want, and start the preparation to overcome it.
With plans only we can overcome these difficulties in our life.
Leaving it aside would not solve the problems.

Moving into the state where you can finally feel some peace,
Thinking of the person you care the most,
Planning on what you can do for her/him.
Progressing into a better place or situation.

Even sometimes what you planned cannot be carried out,
Just don't give up so easily and keep on trying till you satisfy."

Hey guys, back on track on Advice of the Week again.

Well, have you read the previous post on Advice of the Week?
Last week's post was on Loneliness and I provided 3 questions for it.
So, this post will be about it.
But before you continue reading this post, read here if you have not read last week's post.

Received few comments from readers, they are all personal opinions though.
Feelings are actually something that we cannot really understand or make conclusion with.
It really depends on different individuals. so, each of us, is unique in this matter.

The answers for these questions,
So, what do loneliness bring about to us?
Is there anyone that truly alone out there?
Is there anyone that that we loved, felt lonely?

Loneliness actually bring about to us, many memories either sweet or sad.
They just act as stimulator for our memories.
Without them, we will have a dull life.
In addition, loneliness also bring many people to be with you.
You meet new friends, you find new friends, when you felt lonely.
These are what Loneliness bring to us.

Are there people that truly alone?
The answer is NO!. There is nobody that truly alone out there.
Although, sometimes, we do not realise the people around us.
But still, they are our friends that we eventually neglect their presence.
Being truly alone out there, is just something impossible.
Unless, you are someone that hate the whole world with little small things.
Nevertheless, nobody is truly alone in this world.

Are there friends and family that we loved, felt lonely?
Yes, often friends and family felt lonely when we are not around them.
Even though, they do not show it so clearly but deep in their heart, they are feeling lonely at times.
In contrast, people that felt lonely because of distance matter are actually people that do not really know what Loneliness means. Or should I say, someone who is emotional.

In conclusion, loneliness do leaves impact to our life.
Sometimes, we just do not realise something that is so small.
We always jump to conclusion about little matters when someone is ain't there for us.
So, we should always analyse ourselves when things happen.

That's all for the part Loneliness, please comment if you do have any. :)
Some people may not agree with my explanation, please kindly leave your comment on this post.

P/S: I'm going Yamaha Piano Fair tomorrow!

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Chris

Oops! It's back!

I cannot believe that I have time to do this today. The same real old time to post this!
I hope that I could have this much of time in future. I'm up super early for Good Samaritan Home Visit for the Moral Project!
And I think my mind is still sleeping, need to wake them up a little.

Here we go for this week:

What is loneliness to us?
Often, loneliness really bring a huge impact to us, individual.
Do you agree with me?
There are many kinds of loneliness where we do not really classify them anymore.
Loneliness because of the dismiss of family member,
Loneliness because of the dismiss of a friend,
Loneliness because of less people around you,
Loneliness because of you are alone now.

I doubt that any of us really feeling that they are loved by someone.
Thus, often say themselves are lonely in one way of another.
What kind of loneliness bring tremendous impact to you? [Share with us by commenting]
For me, personally, I think any kind of loneliness will bring negative impact to me.
Yes, I do felt lonely sometimes when things are not getting well.
But, in the end, we do not really feel it when we used to it.

Not to say that I am used to it, but yes, loneliness is one part of our life.
We cannot avoid this part of our life, but why is it so bad?
Well, that is depending on each individual to evaluate themselves.

So, what do loneliness bring about to us?
Is there anyone that truly alone out there?
Is there anyone that that we loved, felt lonely?

Stay for the next post on the answers. For now, you can comment on this post.

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Chris

Hello, this post is about memories that I treasure till now.
It do bring back some thoughts that I wouldn't have anymore.
Still remember, the last year was one fabulous year for me.
Seriously I mean, IT were. Do you have the same feelings as I do now?

I believed in memories. They are the generator of our souls.
Generator that gives us life, energy and upfront thrust.
Without memories, I do not think that we can be what we are.


Memories are lessons that cannot be retreat again.
Something that cannot occur again.
Something that we sometimes, want to lose it or want to keep it.
Something that you and I will never forget.
Something that we treasure.

Do you agree with me?

Memories are the effects of efforts you have put into your life.
Memories are like money in your wallet, you just cannot miss it.
Memories are like water and we are the fishes.
Memories are the sun and we are the plants.

I'm so happy that I finally brought back Advice of the Week Column.
Well, it is still the same, every saturday, will post something about this.
But, the format are going to be different.
I meant, using 2 types of formats which I'm not sure which to use.
Randoms la.

It's been quite a while i posted about this column, Am I RIGHT?
Are you guys missing it? I guess some.

Here we go for this week's:

Trying is a powerful tool in our life,
without trying, we will never get results.
Regardless of what kind of results, either is bad or good.

Often, people are scared of trying something new to them.
But, who do not try something new in their life?
Actually, everyday and every minute, you're trying something.
For example, when you're younger, you learn how to walk, that's something you tried.

Many unpredicted matter, we actually trying.
There's nothing to be lose in trying.
Where else, IT may just gain you something.
Something that you never thought you would achieve or gain.

So, next time, when people ask you to try, just give your best try.
Nothing to regret after that.

Hey guys, back on blog again.

Last friday, went to Sunway pyramid with Kee Ang, Edrei, CS, Sin Ay, WonderFul, Qisha, Ta Ern and Marcell. Before that, went to Pangsapuri Subang Jaya to fetch Kee Ang and Qisha, just near by.

Supposedly to meet up with CS, SA, WF, TE and Marcell at Old Town Kopitiam but, due to some timing problems, we meet them up at Sunway.
So, we didn't have our breakfast at all. Was so hungry.

We watched Harry Potter and the Half Blood Prince,
overall for me, it wasn't as much as I expected but yet, it was quite a good movie.
the main plot in the movie were just love and looking into Voldermort's life.
Nothing much, just that if you have 2 and half hours free, go and watch it.

After movie, the girls decided to go to PAVILION, as they wanted to shop.
So, the guys stayed at Sunway. Since everyone was hungry, we headed to Carl's Jr.
Before reaching the restaurant, Kee Ang kept on saying that the meal is served in big potion.
But when I ordered, it wasn't that big, it was just........ normal.. haha!
Something I need to admit is that, the FRENCH FRIES was DELICIOUS!
Till now, no other can compete with it. Seriously, dam nice! LOL

Kee Ang was leaving for hometown that day, so, the plan was Sunway then Airport.
After brunch, we still have time, so, KA and Marcell wanted to play the video games near the cinema.
The game that they intro to me was like, killing my hand. When i say killing my hand, is killing it!
Played half way, KA's mother called, asking him to get something for his younger sister (age 4 or 5).
So, Marcell and the rest continue playing the games while KA and I went to look for dolls but we didn't end up buying one because we have no idea how to get a good one for her.
We ended up buying a water drawing matt. (Those that we draw and it can be erase off).
After that, we headed to the Subang Airport but only KA, Edrei and I
Marcell had an appointment and CS' car got no petrol and he wanted to go back KEPONG.
So, reached the airport around 330pm? can't remember well.

Expected the check-in counter to open at 4pm but it only open at 420pm.
But it's ok, Edrei was being gay to KA. hahaha!
He asked him not to go back Kuantan, oh I didn't tell where he was going back. haha
I seriously beh tahan! (since in the lift of Sunway Pyramid till Airport... swt)

After sending KA to the departure hall, we started our journey back to Klang.
Well, I wanted to use the Kesas Highway because to avoid the massive jam in Klang town.
But, we got into NKVE, with no other choices, we used NKVE and got into jam in Klang town.

Note of advice: Don't come to Klang Town if not necessarily. Stupid and Idiotic Jam! haha!

That's pretty much on that outing.

P/S: AotW coming back! Soon. Stay tuned!

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Chris

This week's AtoW is different.

Well, i have something to tell, more than you telling me.

It's been like few weeks since the last post on this topic, well I'm back on.
But next week will have no AtoW as exam is round the corner.
So, i always get all this questions which regards to the same problem.

I wonder sometimes, why always this problem.
So, i search for the answer, and i found
The problem is that, we are not serious in anything we do now.

Without being serious in what we do,
we will tend to look things at different point of view from time to time.
Our thoughts never stay on one, but kept on changing.
Thus, we also get questions in our mind and want it to be solve but yet, do not want to accept the solution.

So, be serious in anything you do.
Then we will have a better life.

P/S: Concert will be up next. Sorry

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Chris

Yes, it's complicated. You know what I'm talking about?
No? Today is saturday! So, what is it?
Of course is Advice of the Week la!!!
Well, this week's question is kinda complicated.

Here how it goes:

Q: I have a friend which I know during high school. He and I was close which made some of his friends or maybe most think that we are couple. Well, we are not. But at the same time, I found out that he have this friend which I am interested in. The problem is here. I like his friend, he likes my friend and he also likes me. But he is paying more attention to my friend than me. I also have feelings for him as time goes. As a result, I asked him to forget about me and I even told him that I like his friend, which he replied to help. Do you think i'm doing the right thing? What should i do? (By: M)

A: Dear M, he willing to help you out that means he is able to let you go for your own choice. Better choice from his personal view, at least. It's all depending on you want to try to approach the guy or other wise. It's all up to yourself, as last resort. You have made your 1st step to tell him about your feelings. So, do what your heart tells. From my personal, approach the guy. :)

Isn't that complicated? LoL.
P/S: Internet connection suck!
P/S 2: Mid-Sem exam coming soon. Not prepared, shit!

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Chris

Yes, the title say it all.
Advice of the Week column is now back!
I guess some of you might be waiting for this, I'm so sorry about being busy with other stuff rather than posting something on this column.
Well, now, I'm back on track but might miss posts in between as Semester 2 of college is hectic! LoL.

Here we go:

Q: I've been thinking about breaking up with my girlfriend since a while now. It is not that I don't love her anymore, but, it is just that this relationship is getting load on more and more these days. Bare in mind that she did not complain about anything I do or about her life and this makes me felt worse than having problems. This year, form 4, so many things coming up and parents also started to complain about phone bills. I miss her a lot but yet I trying to cut away from her. She makes me feel bad now. Should I break up with her? (By: S)

A: Dear S, at the age of yours, it is quite troublesome to have girlfriends as you have no driving license and still rely on your parents for allowances. But of course, it is ok to have one to share your feelings and stuff like that. The question of should you break up with your girlfriend is in your hand. Depending on how deep you love her and how much you miss her when you unable to meet her or etc. If you trying to break up, then you should be prepared for few months of 'torture'. If you continue the relationship, then you make sure you are ready to engage with any obstacles in future. So, it's up to your heart to tell you what to do now.

Is the advice ok? LoL. Some might find it offensive but that's what I think of.

Oh yeah, it's Tweety Bird 60th Birthday this week. I received an email though.
Here's her photo.

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Chris

Hey,

I'm too laze this week for this.
Next week.
ROFLMAO

Thank you.
I will update later on a dinner yesterday nite.

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Chris

Dear readers,
How do you feel today? Great?
Hope you do.

This week's
Q: I'm clueless of how to determine whether we are in relationship or not? How do I confirm that? (By: N)

A: Dear N, it is actually quite easy. Just ask the person when you meet he/she. It would be as easy as that.

ROFL
So short. Not in mood to write actually.

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chris

We are back again. Let's cut the intro

Q: I broke up with my boyfriend last year. Before the break up, we was ok but after the break up, I still cannot forget him. What should I do? (By: M)

A: Dear M, to forget about someone needs time. A mere 1 year is not enough to do that unless you found another guy that you like. This will help you to forget about your ex very soon. Even you broke up with him but you still can be his friend. Be more cheerful and you will soon find another person that love you more than he do.

P/S: Please leave your email with AotW code on Elite Chat if you want some advice.
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Chris

Dear readers,
we are back with advice of the week again.
Let's talk about some of my feelings these past few days.
Only one word to describe, HAPPY!
ROFLMAO, if you're following my plurking everyday, you will notice why do i feel so.

This week's

Q: I felt so empty in myself. It is because I don't get loved or I don't have someone to love? This emptiness is been so long in me and I want to get rid of it. Would it be better that i get loved or i love someone? (By: P)

A: Dear P, feeling empty in yourself? Get something to do then. From my personal point of view, is the best to be loved and to love someone. That will decrease your emptiness in you. Being love and loving someone is two different thing that you will like to experience, so, try to love others and others will love you back. That's all I can tell you for now.

Announcement: Next week will have no post on Advice of the Week Column. Sorry for the matter.

P/S: If you have any problems, no matter what, you may leave a message on Elite Chat with Code of AOTW and your email. I'll get back to you once i see the message.

Thank you
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chris