darylization

In 20 years of my life, I've never seen so much pain in someone before.

I really thanked my brother for being there for me and cared for me with all his heart. What i'm doing right now, hardly match up for the things he's done for me, but I would still proceed with it.

There are many type of parents in this globe that we live in.

Not too long ago, I read an article from The Star, mentioning that parents do not have a course or a guide to qualify them as parents. Gary mentioned that there should be institution to guide parents on how to be a good parent. Probably we should be one too.

In life, before we actually want to guide someone, mentor, teach or be a role model to wrap it all, we must question ourselves, how much do our life values, belief and principles weigh against the world? Or in fact, do we have any of those?

Do we have a personal deep philosophy of life that we hold strongly to and would want others to look at life the same way you do?

If we can hardly take good care of ourselves, to know that we're matured enough, emotionally stable enough, how can we even guide or influence others?

It's true that life is a never ending, learning journey. But there is a point in life where you come to a stable sense of reasoning, of having your personal values and belief and would want to live life to it's fullest.

There is a difference in being a parent and a guardian. A parent would pour love on to their child, guide them to understand life and understand them in every possible way. To be there for them when they're hurt and to protect them from danger. To get to know their potential life partner, to see whether he/she suits your child (considering the fact that if you really know your child well) and then show support in all ways possible.

Sometimes, it amazes me that certain individuals can be so numb and hard headed that they just don't know why are they even living life for.

I just need prayers for them right now.

God bless.

Host of the party:"What time you've got to make a move to home?"

Guest:"It has to be before 11p.m. Any later than that and i'm screwed."

Host:"Ah, okays. By the way, will Andrew be able to make it today?"

Guest:"As usual, his parents don't let him come out. Don't have to invite him anymore la.. don't say party, normal simple outing also like end of the world to their parents."

Host:"True.. but I heard that he curi curi climbs out of the house and lie big time to his parents if he were to get caught. Susahlah, his parents."

If this discussion was held back when I was 15 or 16, by all means, I can still comprehend.

Thing is, discussions like these are still occurring around me today.

Would a parent calling you up to find out where their son/daughter went while you're 20 years old seems rather exaggerated to you, or it happens to you all the time?

People say, the key issue about parenting is - Trust.

Once the child breaks it, even while very young, the parents find it hard to buy their words. On a personal aspect, I broke that trust. I lied to go to cyber cafe when I was only 13, but everyone else was going and it was so much fun going there. Ever since I became a Christian, through God's guidance, I managed to heal that crack of trust between me and my parents.

It took me time, but it did earn their trust. To let them know what sort of friends I'm mixing with and the activities that I do. It's far from drinking, smoking or taking drugs. Everything else was least of their concern.

After 17, the word "curfew" don't exist anymore in my vocabulary. But it's until I meet certain friends who bring up that word, I was appalled.

"You've got to be kidding me, curfew?"