Kai's World

Once upon a time. No, I mean. I once dated a guy who was a writer. I wrote about it here, here, and here and probably in many other places.

I admit it. I wasn't the nicest guy. When we broke up I probably handled it wrong and I a still being reminded.

We spoke today for the first time in along time. The conversation went like this:

Writer Guy: Oh, you'll be pleased to know the men here are worth writing about.
Me: That's great. That should give you plenty of writing material.
Writer Guy: I am writing about my trial and errors with lovers and I am calling it "Traded". You should start thinking about who will play you in the film.


I probably deserve those jabs. I can be an ass at times.

Tell me about your worst break up? Where you the bad guy/girl?

My boyfriend has a date this weekend. Yes, you read that right. He has a date this weekend. I didn't believe it either and I am pissed about it.

He is going to a work event in Houston and he is taking a transgender woman as his date. I know I don't have boobs but come one...

So I have decided to have a date this weekend also. Reichen and his HOT HOT HOT underwear model boyfriend Ryan Barry are going to be in town for an event. Maybe I can get Ryan to fall in love with me and take me on a date.





I think its only fair that I get to date Ryan while B is going out on his date

It was a cold, wet weekend.

On Friday I had the opportunity to meet up with Will from DC who was in town for work. We went to a restaurant he found close to his hotel and I had heard about a long time ago but never been to.

We chatted about our lives and got to know each other better. Will is a great guy and has a lot going for him so it was great to meet up with him and finally put a face to the blog.

After meeting up with Will I headed over to my brothers house for his birthday party. I wasn't there very long because I had a hot man waiting for me back at home. The plan was for me to meet up with my Jogging Buddy at a bar he was going to be at with his friends but on my way back we decided he would leave the bar and meet back up with me at my place and watch a movie.

We didn't get to bed until 5:30 so we slept in until he had to get up and go to a meeting. We meet back up a few hours later and joined two of my friends for lunch. None of our friends know we are dating so it's weird being around people and not be able to openly flirt with each other. Although more people are starting to notice we are spending a lot of time together. My friend called me later on that day and asked what was going on between us.

Later I went with him to a party. I got to meet his best friends which seem a little crazy but fun. After we went to a magazine VIP party where I got to meet more of his friends. By this time we had been caught holding hands, kissing, and making eyes at each other so everyone knew we were "getting to know each other".

We went home somewhat early but didn't get to bed late that night. There was some drama with his roommates and people loosing dogs, people falling over drunk, and driving down the wrong side of the road. He has interesting friends.

Sunday we did it all over again. Slept in until we had to get up for me to go to class then met back up in the afternoon.

We spend a lot of time together. I knew he was cute and nice the first time I saw him but I didn't know what a sweat caring person he is.

He was telling me last night he was flirting with me the first time he met me back in August and that he has had a crush on me ever since. When he started dating someone he would avoid being around me because he didn't want to make it look obvious that he liked me. I use to do the same thing.

Long post, I know. Sorry. I hope your weekend was as great as mine.

This is a long post. Don't read it. :)

I don't normally get to personal on my blog. I tend to keep my feelings to myself and most people I know are use to that (one of the promises with myself was to be more open with my feelings this year).

I have mentioned the writter I was dating. He is a great guy but unfortunately things didn't work out between us. We gave it a good try...and even broke up 3 to 5 times in a short two month period.

Although it has been over for about a month we had to have another break up conversation at the begining of the week wich was very hard for both of us. I am not really sure why I am writting about this...maybe just to have a record to look back on later...maybe it's just to help me feel better about the whole thing...not sure.

I received an email from him today with a wonderful story about his life. He is a great writter and I know he will one day write a book that will be on Oprah's Reading Club and in all the top selling list. He is a great writter and I am privy to the story ideas he has in his head. We use to lay in bed or sit around and he would tell me about the books he was working on and the characters he had planned out.

When I first met him he had stopped writting because of life and the problems that comes with it. I tend to push people a little harder than they push themselves...sometimes it's a blessing and sometimes its a curse. I also tend to date guys who have great potential but haven't realized it themselves and I usually push them...not in a nagging way but I plant ideas in their heads that makes them want to push themselves harder. I kind of did that with the writter.

I am not in any way trying to take credit for all of the work on his novels. I guess what I am tring to say is that this year I will work on myself and let the guys I date be who they want to be. I will also only be dating one guy at a time.

It was a very non-exiting weekend.

My sister and I tried to do some Christmas shopping on Saturday but the malls were packed so we decided to just go back home and attempt going back during the week. I hope it is less crowded. I only have 22 more gifts to buy, I bought 6 of them online last night and I have already bought 24. Yea, that's what happens when you have a big family.

My brother is taking finals this week so I am sending him a little care package with candy, cereal bars, pencils, condoms and other necessities. While I was at the store picking out the condoms I didn't know if I should also pick up a packet of lube. Do straight people use lube?

As I stared at the options I had for condoms I realized I have no idea what straight people do in bed. I have never experienced it but I think it would be an advantage if I at least knew how things worked out.

In other news, I am no longer dating the real estate guy. So now I am down to ZERO men that I am dating.

I had a date tonight.

Apparantly my date had another date sometime this week and he had the love marks to prove it. Yeap. He had hickies. It was weird.

I asked "Are those hickies? How old are you again?"

For those of you who were laughing at my dating story yesterday (SM), I have news for you. As of 1:35 a.m. I am no longer dating/seeing writer guy. I may post more about that later.

In the meantime remember, dating more than one guy at a time is complicated.

In other news, I met a guy this morning while I was walking my dog. He has a beautiful smile, lives in my neighborhood, and has the cutest dog.

What dog you ask? I have a dog now :) I will post pictures later tonight. :)

Today I learned why people don't date more than one person at a time. I will share this secret with you, but only because I care about each and every one of you and I don't want you to make the same mistake I have. Are you ready?

Dating more than one person at a time...is complicated.

So here is the deal. You guys know I am dating more than one person. The guys I am dating know I am dating more than one person. So where does it get complicated? When they meet each other. Yeap, two of my guys met each other today. They don't know I am dating both of them and I hope they never find out.

I was suppose to have lunch with the realtor but he called and canceled because one of his clients wanted to see a couple of properties. Later the writer called me and told me he was joining one of his friends who is looking for a place to live. They were meeting their realtor at the same time as my realtor was meeting with his client. I casually asked the writer for the realtors name but he didn't know it. I hoped and prayed it wasn't my realtor guy but there were to many coincidences.

It turns out it was the same realtor and I hoped and prayed my name didn't come up in conversation. Later, I met up with the realtor for dessert and coffee and he didn't say anything so I am assuming they didn't talk about me. Not that they would but it could have happened.

Next time I meet a new guy remind me of the complications of dating more than one person.

I had a fantastic weekend.

I took a little road trip to see my little brother at his college. It was homecoming weekend and he was nominated to be homecoming king. Unfortunately he didn't win but we had a great time at the tail gate party, the football game, and then we went to the gay bars.

One of the guys I am dating went with me and it was a great opportunity for us to get to know each other more. It was a 6 hour round trip so we had a lot of time to talk and get to know each other. He is a great guy and we talked a lot about "us" and our dating situation.

I am glad he went with me. He helped me out by telling me when to cheer and when to sit down at the football game. I think I got the hang of it though and I will probably be watching more football.

After the game we parted ways with my brother and his friends and we were going to drive back home but decided to go to the gay bars in the small college town. Since we didn't really prepare for that we didn't know how to get there. So I called my brother and surprisingly he knew where they were. Even after he gave us directions we couldn't find the gay bar so we went and picked up my brother and he took us. He didn't stay but he at least showed us where the place was.

We decided to make the two hour drive back home so we left the bars at 1 and got home at three. We didn't get out of bed until 1:30 today, went and grabbed lunch, and then came back home and took naps off and on until 7 p.m.

Oh, and guess what? On the drive back we saw a shooting star. It was AMAZING and beautiful!

It's been a long time since my last post so I figured I would do a quick update.

The three men in my life went to four, then to two. I am going on a road trip with one of them this weekend so I hope that goes well.
I am having coffee with the other one next week.

I have already had the "I am dating others" conversation with both of them so I don't feel the need to stop seeing either one of them. They both like me a little more than I like them though.

My car broke down yesterday. Well, it didn't completely break down, it just started making a weird noise so I decided to take it to the shop. It turns out it was the timing belt, the water pump, and something else. After it was all said and done it cost me a lot but my car is now working and noise free.

Work is going well.

My friend is decorating my place. I think I have mentioned that I have been in my condo for almost a year and I haven't done anything to it. I decided to ask my friend to help me.
He was over for an hour and a half on Wednesday and my place already looks a lot different. He is so creative, he just started moving furniture and placing frames, statues, paintings, etc against walls where he thinks it will look good. All I need now is a hammer and some nails and I will be set.
I do have to buy a couple of new furniture pieces. I am getting a chair, a coffee table, and a catch-all table. I also need a couple of paintings or big pictures. I am looking through my collection of pictures I have taken over the years to see if there is anything there I would want to use.

I went to an art show last weekend and I bought a really nice painting. It was a silent auction and the lady who was bidding against me rubbed me the wrong way so there was no way I was going to let her have it. My friend found a perfect place for it, we just have to hang it now.