Mad About Madancer: love

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Friday, 5 February 2010

25 years of friendship and love

On the night of 6^th of February 1985 a young man and a young woman got married in front of the scared Hindu fire. 25 years later that couple is still together, bound by their true friendship and love. I feel immense pride in saying that they are my parents. My wonderful father and mother. Captain Sarda Umesh Srivastava and his lovely wife, Mrs Bina Srivastava.

It is heart warming to see how an arranged alliance of 2 people from 2 very different places in India has stood the test of time. They faced their share of life's obstacles and each time their relationship emerged stronger. They survived prolonged separations for years, they survived diverse natures, attitudes and backgrounds and they survived settling down in a foreign land.

Despite these challenges they faced they always were there for each other. They were each other's best friends and they were each other's confidants. 25 years later they are still together and as much in love. They have their own ways of showing it. I always loved how they held hands, gave each other hugs, how they say "I love you" to each other and how they adore each other in their gaze. I love how my father wakes my mother up in the morning with a fresh cup of tea. I love how my mother cooks my father's favourite dishes. I love how both of them go on dates to the movies or to dinners.

Their relationship has been very real and not a fairy tale. That is precisely what I love about them because they made that real tale come true despite the odds. I have learnt that there are problems in every relationship but it is up to us to face them and to grow on them. I would be blessed if I could have a relationship as strong and pure as theirs ever in my life.

I want to wish them all the love and all the wishes for a fantastic silver anniversary. I have not seen a couple as beautiful as them and I pray to god they see many beautiful years together.

Thank you Mummy-Papa for being who you are and for inspiring my life with your love. I wish I was with you today to be part of your special day.

Wednesday, 10 June 2009

Fickle minded....and hearted??

We have often heard about how one is freckle minded. The phase implying that the said person is not decisive and usually has a difficult time sticking to a single decision.

Today I watched a Hindi movie, Dil Kabbadi. It is a movie which would be classified as Art Cinema or parallel cinema or real cinema. The essence of the movie title and the story boils down to the concept of having a "fickle heart", the new villain to love stories...

Gone are the days (mostly) when parents and society stood against the love of the young. Today falling in love is no longer frowned upon. Parents are accepting and so is society. The problem now is in the process of falling in love. Apparently if you think you are in love chances are you would be falling out of it sooner or later. Lucky if you fall out before the marriage, unlucky if it is after the marriage. Or is it? Is the process of falling in and out of love as simple as changing clothes or shoes or mobile phones?

How then can we ensure that the falling in love we are experiencing is the real thing, the final change or the perfect mobile phone? When do we stop thinking there is someone better, more handsome, more understanding, more worthy and the list goes on.. How do we know the flutter in the stomach and the racing of the heart is for life and not going to stop dead when we wake up tomorrow?

Thursday, 30 October 2008

Something humid, something cool..

When we met he made me hot with his cool cool talk

We went for dinners and went on walks,

Leaving our name written in chalk

His kiss, his touch, his look and his hug

His love, his care, his passion and his lust

His laughter, his anger, his mischief and his stare

His eyes, his lips, his chest and his hair

Feeling danger, excitement and almost like a tart,

I fell into his arms giving him my heart

Something humid, something cool,

His charisma turned me into a fool

Thursday, 21 September 2006

difference between "someone you love and someone you like"

DIFFERENCE BETWEEN "SOMEBODY YOU LOVE" & SOMEBODY YOU LIKE"

In front of the person you love, your heart beats faster.

But in front of the person you like, you get happy.

In front of the person you love, winter seems like spring.

But in front of the person you like, winter is just beautiful winter.

if you look into the eyes of the one you love, you blush.

But if you look into the eyes of the one you like, you smile.

In front of the person you love, you can't say everything on your mind.

But in front of the person you like, you can.

In front of the person you love, you tend to get shy.

But in front of the person you like, you can show your own self.

you can't look straight into the eyes of the one you love.

But you can always smile into the eyes of the one you like.

When the one you love is crying, you cry with them.

But when the one you like is crying, you end up comforting.

The feeling of love starts from the eye.

But the feeling of like starts from the ear.

So if you stop liking a person you used to like, all you need to do is cover your ears.

But If you try to close your eyes, love turns into a drop of tear and remains in your heart forever

-this was sent to me by a friend

Tuesday, 1 August 2006

the biggest flaw in humans....

After doing a lot of soul searching and lots of thinking, i have come to a conclusion. i sincerely believe that the biggest flaw in humans is their need to be loved.

It is this very need of humans that keep us unhappy, dissatisfied, discontent, hurt and miserable. We spend our whole life working towards achieving this love in one way or the other. Just think about it. Now i am talking about all the kinds of love here. Not just that between a man and a woman.

We study to get the love of parents and self. We work to get the love of our spouses and/or parents and self. we do the household chores to get the love of spouse and/or parents. We get a haircut to get the love of our boyfriend/girlfriend. Fundamentally nearly all our actions in life are centred towards getting love from someone and even ourselves.

All this doesn't mean that our need to love is simply a flaw. It is also what makes us humans. Unfortunately we don't realise just how much pain and misery we cause ourselves running after this love.

Anyways this is just my point of view.
Cheers