Saturday, January 29, 2011

Weekend Wisdom

"We must learn to live together as brothers or perish together as fools."
Martin Luther King, Jr.

Thursday, January 27, 2011

Tuesday, January 25, 2011

The Dreaded School Assignment Version 1.0

To the First Grade Team at my children's elementary school,

I just wanted to thank you for the way you handled the timeline assignment. Although X isn’t adopted, his sisters are and the timeline project is one of the projects that adoptive (and foster) families dread. In many cases there are not photos of the children from infancy or even sometimes for years beyond infancy. There are not always people who know when the child first sat up, or took their first steps, or what their first word was. Rather than a timeline consisting of milestones (when you walked, talked, etc) the children can simply select anything that would represent that year of their life. Your assignment is general enough that is allows all children, even those who are missing large parts of their personal history to complete their timeline. In addition, rather than requiring photos, you allowed children to draw or otherwise represent these events. Often in these assignments, all of the other kids have photos and the child who doesn’t is told to “just draw something”. You included those options initially so drawing isn’t a “consolation” activity, but an actual option. Since my other children will also be faced with this assignment I wanted to thank you for creating it in a way that is responsive to the family situations of all children.






Monday, January 24, 2011

What is All Over the Carpet (or Are Your Feet Bleeding?)

Yes, that was the big question in our house last weekend. We were finishing up dinner and I noticed a small red spot on the floor (but from where I sat it looked like ketchup- and since ketchup is a major food group at our house, I didn't think much about it) I figured I'd wipe it up when I wiped up the table. B and I sat in the kitchen trying to decide where to go on vacation this summer and the kids all played some kind of tag upstairs (on an aside note- we really have to move someplace where the winter cold means 50 degrees or above)

I go upstairs and realize there little red "ketchup" spots on every step, up and down the hallway, in every bedroom and the playroom. So I stop the game of tag and say "who's feet are bleeding?" and they all say "not me" (that darn "not me" causes all kinds of trouble).
They also all look at me like I have lost my mind until I start checking feet and sure enough, A has a cut on the bottom of his foot that is continuing to bleed. We have no idea what he did, he has no idea what he did or when it happened.
He has a large band-aid.
I have clean carpets.
So apparently it was sort of a win win.

Saturday, January 22, 2011

Weekend Wisdom

Imagine there's no heaven
It's easy if you try
No hell below us
Above us only sky
Imagine all the people
Living for today...

Imagine there's no countries
It isn't hard to do
Nothing to kill or die for
And no religion too
Imagine all the people
Living life in peace...

You may say I'm a dreamer
But I'm not the only one
I hope someday you'll join us
And the world will be as one

Imagine no possessions
I wonder if you can
No need for greed or hunger
A brotherhood of man
Imagine all the people
Sharing all the world...

You may say I'm a dreamer
But I'm not the only one
I hope someday you'll join us
And the world will live as one
-John Lennon

Thursday, January 20, 2011

What's Brown and Green and...

??????
(ok so it's not really a joke cause I couldn't think of a punch line)

It is belt test time again in Kung Fu.
Both boys tested again and A has earned his Junior Brown 3rd degree and X has earned his green. A has two more Brown level and then he will have earned his junior Black (and he will likely be old enough to switch to the adult classes at that point)











Monday, January 17, 2011

Mark Twain and the PC Police

Well since I am gaining and losing followers quickly these days, here goes another you'll love it or hate it post. (and I will warn you now that this post contains the "n" word as do the video clips)

So apparently a new addition of Huckleberry Finn is being published and this version will replace the word nigger with the word slave- all 219 times it appears in the book. At first glance, it seems like maybe it is a positive change. It is probably one of the most emotionally charged words in the English language. It is a word that holds open the ugliness of a time when African Americans were less that human and it leaves no room to hide from that truth. How many white kids are uncomfortable reading the book because of that word, how many black kids feel singled out (or worse degraded), how many schools just don't teach it so they don't have to deal with the issue? Why wouldn't we get rid of it?

Except that to remove it removes part of our history- a history I know many would prefer to forget. To (and pardon the pun) whitewash that aspect of the book changes both the book and the learning opportunities for students. If anything, the fact that Huck and Jim are friends despite the fact Jim is "a nigger" ( something that Twain makes no bones about) is a valuable message. Huck knows the score, he knows the value that society places on Jim and he befriends him anyway- isn't that the lesson students should learn. To look past the labels, to look past the perceptions of society and to make judgments about the worth of people based on those people- not public opinion.

Yes- the original version makes people uncomfortable- it should. It is a reminder of our past ugliness but it also offers hope for the future. How many of the lessons we have learned best were learned BECAUSE they were uncomfortable. And remember, the book isn't typically being read by elementary school children- it is taught in high school with children in their teens and approaching adulthood. If they can't handle this because it makes them uncomfortable- how on Earth will they handle the hundreds of uncomfortable things that happen in adulthood. This is one of those difficult lessons that will shape young people into global citizens- but not if they never have to do the hard work.

Here is another example of how you change the meaning by removing certain words. I searched the web for an edited clip (the version that is shown on TV has the word nigger removed) but couldn't find one so you will have to use your imagination. (Sorry). This is the original clip from Blazing Saddles (so you have to imagine how much less of an impact it has when the last word is deleted- or replaced with a less offensive term)


And this review of the movie and the relevance of not deleting the offensive words. Find the original here in it's entirety. (and yes, I realize this is a comedy and Huck Finn is not- but the parallels are the same)

The brilliance of Mel Brooks, back in his heyday at least, was that Blazing Saddles embodied both and all of these things. If his gleefully raunchy farce were about only its "bad taste" or the number of times the word "nigger" gets deployed, then it would be just another forgettable splat on the ever-growing mountain of in-your-face shock comedies.

Instead, as a satirical flag waving in the racial and social winds of the late 1960s and early 1970s, Blazing Saddles' casual vulgarity, racial epithets, and pants-dropping silliness are spread like the very best butter over the more serious business of iconoclastically upturning expectations and tropes, especially some shibboleths found not just in old-fashioned cowboy movies. Its humor is the palliative that lets Brooks mock prejudices and, with gloves off, prejudiced people. Not that Brooks sought to make a "message film," oh hell no. After all, we still get the famous campfire beans-and-farts scene, which is about nothing more than being the first beans-and-farts scene in cinema history. Still, it's fair to say that Blazing Saddles broke ground as well as wind.

What keeps the potentially offensive from being genuinely offensive is something that may not be obvious at first viewing. Cleavon Little's Bart is never played as a victim. This intelligent, good-looking, elegant, well-spoken black man knows exactly how to play off the idiocy of the asinine white crackers that surround him. "These are people of the land," consoles the Waco Kid, summarizing Bart's antagonists with perfect deadpan, "The common clay of the new West. You know," — here's where nobody times a pause better than Wilder — "morons."

A fundamental ingredient that Brooks' latterday genre parodies lack is a sense of purpose beyond their hit-or-miss humor. Blazing Saddles faced down contemporary racist attitudes, ending with its foot triumphantly planted on racism's chest.....

Blazing Saddles laughs at racists, not with them, recalling Brooks' objective in The Producers to "dance on Hitler's grave." While its broadsides pointed at institutional redneckery are projected against the most conservative of movie genres, there's nothing mean-spirited here. Blazing Saddles is playfully disarming at every turn, downright joyful even. You can search through the movie with calipers, a magnifying glass, and a Geiger counter and still not find an angry, whiny, or uptight moment. Here is cinema's most affable, most happy-to-meet-you movie to include an apple-cheeked old granny barking "Up yours, nigger!" from under her bonnet. Anyone actually offended by Blazing Saddles is someone in dire need of a hearty offending....

Now, thirty years on, we have trouble imagining any A-list studio, including Warner Brothers, having the gumption and guts to let Brooks, or anyone else, ring some of those bells today. But heaven knows they should. And don't start with calling Blazing Saddles "politically incorrect," a lazy-ass term redefined and misused so often that it's bled dry of any useful meaning. In these times when sanctimony and sound-bite puritanism are treated as virtues, we need a Blazing Saddles, a wry, bold, good-hearted taboo-buster that deflates bigots (and their fear that others would monger), while simultaneously suggesting we unclench our sphincters and get over ourselves.

I decided (after much internal debate) to go ahead and use the word, rather than a euphemism like "the n-word" for many of the same reasons. If I can't use the word while discussing this story, how could I expect teachers and students to be able to use it when discussing Huck Fin. I apologize if it has been used in a way that is perceived as offensive- no offense was intended but I felt it we are really going to discuss it, it was time to drop the safe words and discuss it.

And let me also add, even though I used the term PC in the title- I don't think this is really a PC issue. (PC itself is a loaded term- you either believe that society should acknowledge that not everyone is a cookie cutter white middle class Christian or you don't. PC is a label slammed at those in the first group by those in the second- but I digress) Anyway, I think this is not so much an issue of trying to be PC but an issue of cowardice- it is easier this new way. Many of the hardest conversations don't have to happen if Jim is only a slave.

Or for another take on the issue

Saturday, January 15, 2011

Weekend Wisdom


"If this is going to be a Christian nation that doesn't help the poor, either we've got to pretend that Jesus was just as selfish as we are, or we've got to acknowledge that he commanded us to love the poor and serve the needy without condition- and then admit we just don't want to do it."

-Stephen Colbert

(watch the whole clip here)


Thursday, January 13, 2011

Is that Sharpie or Did You Get a Tattoo?

For a slightly less controversial subject than the last two (although there seems to be some violent rhetoric here to as you will see)

Apparently D found a sharpie where I accidentally left it (in a box in the cupboard in my desk) and she decided that tattoos were the order of the day. I came home from running errands to find this





D has recently learned to write a bunch of letters so she randomly writes letters all the time. Unfortunately for K, sometimes her random letters spell actual words.


I don't think we will include this photo in K's yearly post placement report


Monday, January 10, 2011

How to Lose a Follower

In one easy step-
post comments from a liberal talking head.

Yesterday I posted Keith Olbermann's commentary on the Arizona shooting. It is not the first time I have posted something controversial and goodness knows it is not the first time I have posted something liberal but apparently his comments were so offensive that several of my followers have left. Which makes me sad not only because, well, first off I love my followers but also because I think it also represents how truly polarized we are- that when we see something we don't agree with we turn our back on it.

I posted his comments on the basis of what he said in those 9 minutes of his show (not anything he may have said at any other time). He is NOT blaming the named politicians for what happened but he is challenging them to think of how what is said (and he also names himself as a culprit) contributes to this climate of violence. No one know yet why this person turned deadly and he may not have ever watched FOX news or MSNBC or any politics but he is not the only unbalanced person in the country. Maybe, just maybe, we should stop the rhetoric, the vitriol and the hate before this happens again, in case the next unbalanced person does watch. That was his point.

And since we even have to question if political rhetoric may have played a role in this tragic event- then it seems that maybe he has a point.

(So those followers who have stayed either because you agree or because you don't agree- thanks for hanging out with us, for those of you about to delete yourselves- thanks for stopping by and we will miss you and for those of you who are new- please join it- usually we have some fun)


Sunday, January 9, 2011

Weekend Wisdom (and I am Sorry This Even Needs to Be Said)

(to be clear- this is all Keith Olbermann's words)

Finally tonight, as promised, a Special Comment on the attempted assassination of Congresswoman Gabrielle Giffords of Arizona. We need to put the guns down. Just as importantly we need to put the gun metaphors away and permanently

Left, right, middle - politicians and citizens - sane and insane. This morning in Arizona, this age in which this country would accept "targeting" of political opponents and putting bullseyes over their faces and of the dangerous blurring between political rallies and gun shows, ended.

This morning in Arizona, this time of the ever-escalating, borderline-ecstatic invocation of violence in fact or in fantasy in our political discourse, closed. It is essential tonight not to demand revenge, but to demand justice; to insist not upon payback against those politicians and commentators who have so irresponsibly brought us to this time of domestic terrorism, but to work to change the minds of them and their supporters - or if those minds tonight are too closed, or if those minds tonight are too unmoved, or if those minds tonight are too triumphant, to make sure by peaceful means that those politicians and commentators and supporters have no further place in our system of government.

If Sarah Palin, whose website put and today scrubbed bullseye targets on 20 Representatives including Gabby Giffords, does not repudiate her own part in amplifying violence and violent imagery in politics, she must be dismissed from politics - she must be repudiated by the members of her own party, and if they fail to do so, each one of them must be judged to have silently defended this tactic that today proved so awfully foretelling, and they must in turn be dismissed by the responsible members of their own party.

If Jesse Kelly, whose campaign against Congresswoman Giffords included an event in which he encouraged his supporters to join him firing machine guns, does not repudiate this, and does not admit that even if it was solely indirectly, or solely coincidentally, it contributed to the black cloud of violence that has envellopped our politics, he must be repudiated by Arizona's Republican Party.

If Congressman Allen West, who during his successful campaign told his supporters that they should make his opponent afraid to come out of his home, does not repudiate those remarks and all other suggestions of violence and forced fear, he should be repudiated by his constituents and the Republican Congressional Caucus

If Sharron Angle, who spoke of "Second Amendment solutions," does not repudiate that remark and urge her supporters to think anew of the terrible reality of what her words implied, she must be repudiated by her supporters in Nevada.

If the Tea Party leaders who took out of context a Jefferson quote about blood and tyranny and the tree of liberty do not understand - do not understand tonight, now what that really means, and these leaders do not tell their followers to abhor violence and all threat of violence, then those Tea Party leaders must be repudiated by the Republican Party.

If Glenn Beck, who obsesses nearly as strangely as Mr. Loughner did about gold and debt and who wistfully joked about killing Michael Moore, and Bill O'Reilly, who blithely repeated "Tiller the Killer" until the phrase was burned into the minds of his viewers, do not begin their next broadcasts with solemn apologies for ever turning to the death-fantasies and the dreams of bloodlust, for ever having provided just the oxygen to those deep in madness to whom violence is an acceptable solution, then those commentators and the others must be repudiated by their viewers, and by all politicians, and by sponsors, and by the networks that employ them.

And if those of us considered to be "on the left" do not re-dedicate ourselves to our vigilance to eliminate all our own suggestions of violence - how ever inadvertent they might have been then we too deserve the repudiation of the more sober and peaceful of our politicians and our viewers and our networks.

Here, once, in a clumsy metaphor, I made such an unintended statement about the candidacy of then-Senator Clinton. It sounded as if it was a call to physical violence. It was wrong, then. It is even more wrong tonight. I apologize for it again, and I urge politicians and commentators and citizens of every political conviction to use my comment as a means to recognize the insidiousness of violent imagery, that if it can go so easily slip into the comments of one as opposed to violence as me, how easily, how pervasively, how disastrously can it slip into the already-violent or deranged mind?

For tonight we stand at one of the clichéd crossroads of American history. Even if the alleged terrorist Jared Lee Loughner was merely shooting into a political crowd because he wanted to shoot into a political crowd, even if he somehow was unaware who was in the crowd, we have nevertheless for years been building up to a moment like this.

Assume the details are coincidence. The violence is not. The rhetoric has devolved and descended, past the ugly and past the threatening and past the fantastic and into the imminently murderous.

We will not return to the 1850s, when a pro-slavery Congressman nearly beat to death an anti-slavery Senator; when an anti-slavery madman cut to death with broadswords pro-slavery advocates.

We will not return to the 1960s, when with rationalizations of an insane desire for fame, or of hatred, or of political opposition, a President was assassinated and an ultra-Conservative would-be president was paralyzed, and a leader of peace was murdered on a balcony.
We will not.

Because tonight, what Mrs. Palin, and what Mr. Kelly, and what Congressman West, and what Ms. Angle, and what Mr. Beck, and what Mr. O'Reilly, and what you and I must understand, was that the man who fired today did not fire at a Democratic Congresswoman and her supporters.

He was not just a mad-man incited by a thousand daily temptations by slightly less-mad-men to do things they would not rationally condone.

He fired today into our liberty and our rights to live and to agree or disagree in safety and in freedom from fear that our support or opposition will cost us our lives or our health or our sense of safety. The bullseye might just as well have been on Mrs. Palin, or Mr. Kelly, or you, or me. The wrong, the horror, would have been - could still be just as real and just as unacceptable.

At a time of such urgency and impact, we as Americans - conservative or liberal - should pour our hearts and souls into politics. We should not - none of us, not Gabby Giffords and not any Conservative - ever have to pour our blood. And every politician and commentator who hints otherwise, or worse still stays silent now, should have no place in our political system, and should be denied that place, not by violence, but by being shunned and ignored.

It is a simple pledge, it is to the point, and it is essential that every American politician and commentator and activist and partisan take it and take it now, I say it first, and freely:

Violence, or the threat of violence, has no place in our Democracy, and I apologize for and repudiate any act or any thing in my past that may have even inadvertently encouraged violence. Because for whatever else each of us may be, we all are Americans.

-Keith Olbermann










Friday, January 7, 2011

For You Democrats Out There

A woman in a hot air balloon is lost, so she shouts to a man below,
"Excuse me, I promised a friend I would meet him, but I don't know where I am."
"You're at 31 degrees, 14.57 minutes north latitude and 100 degrees, 49.09 minutes west longitude," he replies.
"You must be a Democrat."
"I am. How did you know?"
"Because everything you told me is technically correct, but the information is useless, and I'm still lost. Frankly, you've been no help."
"You must be a Republican."
"Yes. How did you know?"
"You've risen to where you are due to a lot of hot air, you made a promise you couldn't keep, and you expect me to solve your problem. You're in exactly the same position you were in before we met, but somehow, now it's my fault."

Tuesday, January 4, 2011

The Christmas Chaos

Christmas Eve- the infamous group photo attempt

Nevermind
On Christmas Eve we always open the presents from the family



Christmas Morning-
Arizona really might need to choose a better place to sleep





Told you so
The boys are off on a scavenger hunt to find their last present



Hope your holiday was filled with fun and excitement too!

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