Showing posts with label Facebook. Show all posts
Showing posts with label Facebook. Show all posts

Monday, September 26, 2016

Writer Tip: Don't Be an %&# on Social Media

Participating in social media can be a very good idea for aspiring writers.  Besides the networking and educational opportunities, an active social media presence is a plus for agents and editors.

There's a big but, though. It's important to keep in mind that there are some lines that shouldn't be crossed on social media. For one thing, a steady stream of nothing but self promotion often comes off as desperate. It's better to have real conversations and share content from others far more than you promote your own work.

This week, VOYA magazine (a journal of YA literature) provided a stunningly terrible example of something else to avoid on social media. There's a more extensive summary of the whole garbage fire here on SorryWatch, but the general gist of it is that VOYA published a review with an offensive line in it. When the issue was (politely) pointed out, the person handling VOYA's social media responded with an escalating series of defensive, angry posts. Instead of handling the situation quickly and responsibly, they drew more and more attention to themselves and their mistake.

It's generally not hard to avoid offensive speech or language on social media, but there's always the chance that you might inadvertently upset a person or group. If this happens, the correct thing to do is always to apologize—immediately and sincerely. Listen to what people tell you. Learn from your mistakes.

While it's completely acceptable (and encouraged!) to be yourself and express your opinions on Twitter, Facebook, Tumblr, and the like, make sure it's your best self you're putting forward.

Monday, November 24, 2014

Don't Sweat the Social Media

I had a great time at the Western PA SCBWI conference a few weeks ago. I signed up for four different informative sessions with editors and agents. My favorite of the four ended up being the one I was least sure about signing up for beforehand: Social Media for Writers.
I'm fairly active on Twitter (@trionabmurphy if you want to say hi!), I contribute to this blog, and I use Facebook to stay connected to friends and family. I'm social-media savvy, right? But little things sometimes crop up that make me doubt myself. Should I be vlogging in addition to blogging? I don't have a Facebook author page—but I'm not published yet so I don't need one, right? Is it a bad thing that I'm ignoring all those "X added you to their circle on Google+" notifications that I keep getting? What about LinkedIn, Pinterest, Instagram?

The social media session (hosted by the very smart and funny Tricia Lawrence of the Erin Murphy Literary Agency) calmed me down. Ms. Lawrence's advice was to pick social media platforms that are comfortable for you to use and focus on those. Don't worry about being everywhere, because that will only cause you to spread yourself too thin and leave you with no time for the one thing you should be doing—namely writing. You won't drive yourself crazy trying to do everything. You might even have fun.

While a social media presence definitely makes you more visible to potential readers, the truth is that there's very little evidence that a big social media following translates directly into sales. So if social media's not your thing at all, don't worry. If you write good books, readers will find them. You might want to dip your toe into a platform or two for other reasons, though. (See this Twitter for Writers post for a few of them.)

My takeaway from the session? I'm going to keep blogging and tweeting, and I'm not going to worry so much about the other social media platforms. I'll take the time I would have spent on those and use it for getting those words on the page.
Do you have a favorite social media platform? How do you use it?

Monday, June 17, 2013

Fearbook and The Pit of Insta-Despair

Facebook puzzle head


June was supposed to be that month.  A new beginning.  My contract work was slowing down to a reasonable pace which meant I'd have time to hunker down and do some real, solid writing.  I was going to pump out uber pages a day, in time to have a solid first draft for a heavy duty weeklong workshop I'll be attending in September. 

It's now mid June.  Status update: page count: dismal, hours surfing social media: all time high. Self deprecating sense of unworthiness *ding, ding, ding!* we have a winner!

I have to keep reminding myself that it's not like I'm not doing stuff - work, projects, cleaning my room (seriously, that can be quite the accomplishment)...but one click on Facebook and everything pales in comparison to the adventures of everyone around me.  

Some might think this odd coming from a girl who spends much time traveling, enjoying the fruits of a bicoastal life.  But really, is that any different from your other five hundred online Facebook friend-sonas? How about the mother with the two perfect children who never cry or do bad things like your kid does?  Or the free-spirited single gal who's always dressed to the nines and out dancing the night away? God forbid the super successful entrepreneur who's international speaking engagements make him the most important person IN THE WHOLE WIDE WORLD! And let's not forget those masters of culinary experiences.  How do they eat out every night? More importantly how to they still look so great with that amount of caloric intake!?!.

Grass is always greener It's not like these people aren't awesome, I know and love each and everyone.  But its easy to take a stroll down self pity alley when staying positive and motivated can feel like a ten hour spin class.  I have to keep reminding myself of the old adage (as cliche as it may be) "the grass is always greener on the other side". 

It does help to know that others feel as overwhelmed by the plethora of social happiness and "ra, ra" motivation as I am. Earlier this year, Time wrote about how Facebook makes you feel bad about yourself.

Lauren Lyons took it a step further in her latest article  in the Huffington Post where she admits all her fears and financial woes.

The start of her article is telling:

So many Facebook status updates are about that new job, what a wonderful wedding you had, how great that concert was last night. "Weekend trip with the girls was amazing! Thanks Vegas!" 50 likes. 19 comments. Maybe it's just a function of my friend list, but whenever something not-so positive comes up, it's crickets. "I'm having a really tough time finding a job right now." 0 likes. 2-3 comments, mainly "hang in there!" or " :( " 
By prioritizing engagement with "success posts," we perpetuate this online culture of vast insecurity, and thus, a lack of space for expression of failure.   

I admit, I'm guilty of "liking" other's success but who doesn't want to show their friends they're happy for their great achievement (even if it is winning twelve rounds of beer pong?). 

Author Shauna Niequist also blogs about the issue in Relevant Magazine.  She makes a great point:

...we rarely check Facebook when we’re having our own peak experiences. We check it when we’re bored and when we’re lonely, and it intensifies that boredom and loneliness.

So what to do?  Shauna suggests that instead of using the computer to watch someone else's perfectly crafted life, enter it.  I prefer the afterwork happy hour drink but sometimes a phone call, email, even text message can do the trick. 

That helps with bringing back the "real" people aspect of life, but what about increasing productivity?  

This little gem of an application - Anti-Social - allows you to take yourself off select social media websites for a predetermined period of time.  This has been quite helpful (as long as my iphone and ipad are nowhere in sight). 

All this to say: writing is HARD! Hopefully someday I'll have an FB post that says I'm finally finished my first draft!  Until then, you'll know that I'm spending copious amounts of time pulling my hair out, typing, typing and more typing (and probably an equal amount of time deleting) and in between those long gruelling stretches, I'll maybe take a snapshot or two of a sunny day on the beach or a large piece of red meat.

Babysteps, right?
A big hunk of meat
Mmmmm.....Meat.
Women wearing masks on the beach
Mmmmm....Sunny day on the beach.