Just finished catching up with Ian not too long ago.. Probably the last time for a while.. As I look back the 4 years I've spent at uni, one thing that will remain with me forever would be the relationship that was built. Yeah, I've learn the basics of engineering, been in plenty of adventures all around New Zealand, meet plenty of different people and gained between 15-20kg along the way (=D i'm glad i did and i'm pretty sure a big chunk of it is muscle mass).. but above all that, I'll remember how there was someone who hold me up when I'm down, someone to listen when I needed to pour my heart out, someone to keep my rear end in line, someone that cries with me and also laughs with me. Lots of stuff happened during my last 4 years that I wouldn't have been able to live through if it were not for you guys, and for that you have my gratitude. Thank you. You know who you are, old and new, far and near.. =)
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Actually, heck.. I might as well be soapy and name you guys.. (in no particular order..)
- Gloria for being a good friend for the last 2-3 years. Always there for me to disturb and also to talk to..
- Ben, YL, Calvin, Bernard.. It's been a joy leading the lifegroup and it's definitely one of my highlights of the year.. I've learn alot!
- Ian.. someone I can truly call a brother..Thanks for all the good advice and encouragement..
- Jerica.. somehow, through the 4 years, you were there when I needed someone to talk to..
- Paul.. for always challenging me and pulling me out of my comfort zone
- Nev, Andy and Andy..for allowing me to join in all the adventures and showing me what it's like to be a Kiwi boy..my mum is not going to be happy if she finds out the influence you guys had on me..
- Sam and Fraser.. uni would not have been the same without you guys.. i'll remember all the all nighters, not for the pain it caused, but because somehow, you guys made it fun..
- Celestine..haha, yes you made the list too.. very encouraged by how you've grown over the last year..and thanks also for listening to me when i needed to bounce my thoughts off someone.. :P
Thank you and I love you all heaps :)
Showing posts with label Relationships. Show all posts
Showing posts with label Relationships. Show all posts
Saturday, November 22, 2008
Sunday, September 28, 2008
Love
Love is patient, love is kind.
It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud.
It is not rude, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs.
Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth.
It always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always perseveres.Love never fails...
=)
Saturday, August 23, 2008
Where's my bed?
Had a bbq on Friday to celebrate end of term 3. Always cool to have people around with the bbq going and the sun shining.
So I had to go for a practise at 4pm. Didn't want to chase the guys off so I told them to make themselves at home. When I came back, everyone has gone home. So I went to my room and I realised my bed was missing. Here is my thought sequence.
So I had to go for a practise at 4pm. Didn't want to chase the guys off so I told them to make themselves at home. When I came back, everyone has gone home. So I went to my room and I realised my bed was missing. Here is my thought sequence.
- Where is my bed??
- Oh no, the house got broken into.
- Wait..Why do they want my bed?
- Why is my duvet layed down so perfectly on where my bed was supposed to be..
- THOSE CLOWNS!!!!!
Sunday, June 22, 2008
My Dad & I
Was chatting to my dad on msn this morning..
:) yes, I love my dad and I'm not ashame of it!! also a reminder to myself on what makes my parents happy.. :)
Me: dad, i wanna ask you a question..what can i do to make you proud?
(after 15 minutes of silence)
Dad: who you are and what you've done is already enough to please me..all your achievements are great, but i ask for nothing more than a loving and obedient child
:) yes, I love my dad and I'm not ashame of it!! also a reminder to myself on what makes my parents happy.. :)
Wednesday, May 14, 2008
Thoughts
Was emailing this guy and sharing with him whats happening in my life. Here's some interesting stuff that he mentioned.
- Run towards something, not away from something.
- Girls.. they all get old! Find someone that will love you and be faithful. Don't find one at all until you're ready to be faithful to her!!
Tuesday, April 29, 2008
The Pursuit of Happiness II
Due to the number of response I get in my last post, I felt it's only right to write on what I've learn in my journey so far.
This post serves as a reminder to myself, to keep me in line with my belief and moral. You have total right to disagree. Post a comment and I would love to hear from you :) Thanks to those who responded to my last post. There are lots more points to consider in regarding to relationship, but these are just the few that I need to remind myself at this stage. So please don't take this as a blueprint on how to pursue a lady :)
- Get to know the girl first and ask the BIG question when you know its not just infatuation and you are prepared to take the relationship up another level
- It comes down to a point where you just have to take the risk. Just a note for the girls out there, when a guy decides to pop the question, it takes tremendous courage. He is putting himself on the line..pride and dignity, something we value alot! (But obviously you are worth alot more than that, so we'll gladly take the risk ;) ) So even if the guy is rejected, kudos to him for taking that brave step.
- The guy has to always be one step ahead of the girl in the relationship. Take the lead and make her feel special :)
- Respect her as though you would respect a sister. Also, don't mess with her, she could be someone else wife in the future!
- Have a group of man that would pray for you as pursue that special one. (I'm glad there are plenty of guys I can talk to and be vulnerable with in this matter. Thanks for the support buddies!!)
- If she is uncomfortable with the whole thing and just wants to remain friends, respect that! Again.. RESPECT the girl!!
- Make sure the lady shares the same values. Very important that both have their priorities right.
- Pray, pray and pray more! Right now, I'm praying that that lady would grow closer to God and somehow thinks that I'm ridiculously good looking ;)
This post serves as a reminder to myself, to keep me in line with my belief and moral. You have total right to disagree. Post a comment and I would love to hear from you :) Thanks to those who responded to my last post. There are lots more points to consider in regarding to relationship, but these are just the few that I need to remind myself at this stage. So please don't take this as a blueprint on how to pursue a lady :)
Friday, April 25, 2008
The Pursuit of Happiness
Disclaimer: This post is just a current flow of thoughts. On another note, I feel the need to say that happiness doesn't come only from being in a boy-girl relationship.
So I was reading this post on How To Pursue A Young Lady. The question I have in mind is, when do you start pursuing? Is it when...
So girls out there, help me out here. At what stage do you want to know what the guy is feeling? When he is slightly interested, when he "loves" you or somewhere in the middle.
So I was reading this post on How To Pursue A Young Lady. The question I have in mind is, when do you start pursuing? Is it when...
- When you think the girl is hot?
- When you know you want to be in a relationship with the girl?
- When you just want to get to know her a little better?
- When you feel that you enjoy spending time with her?
- When you think that marriage is a possibility? (I guess if you know for sure you do not want to marry the girl, why get into a relationship in the first place? AND I'm definitely not saying that you should only go into a relationship knowing you want to marry her!)
So girls out there, help me out here. At what stage do you want to know what the guy is feeling? When he is slightly interested, when he "loves" you or somewhere in the middle.
Sunday, April 20, 2008
Little things that makes me happy
After church the other day, Josh came up to me and ask if I would like to be there for his baptism. It's difficult to express how I felt at that moment. Honored, joyful, happy and proud. Yeah, a mixture of those and alot more.So it made me think, it doesn't take much to make me happy. Here's a few things that would make me smile..
- seeing friends I walk with grow to be a better person (what a great investment!!)
- a simple acknowledgment (recently a friend thanked me for all I've done..guess what, it made my day!!)
- hugs from friends that cares for me
- a smile from a friend sitting at the other side of the hall
- a word of encouragement
So tomorrow we're driving out to the Waimakariri River(picture) and I get to witness a brother make a public proclamation of the love and saving grace of God and the life he has choose to live!
Friday, April 18, 2008
Graduation
Congratulation to three gorgeous ladies on their graduation. Very honored and proud to be part of it =) Take note of those beautiful flowers ;)
p/s: glad I don't have a gf.. Flowers are expensive!
p/s: glad I don't have a gf.. Flowers are expensive!
Thursday, January 10, 2008
Relationships ;)
This is so good that it must be shared. It's a long post obtained from perrynoble.com but its well worth your time reading it. ;) Oh, and it is written by a christian pastor, so if you are not a christian, please don't let that turn you off. I think this is just what every girl wants deep down in them. It's a good read anyways. Guys scroll down halfway down the post and take notes.
So, what do u think? I think guys should restore their manhood and be bold and girls should keep to their standards. Guys if you are trying to make up excuses, suck it in and be a man!
Four Things A Single Girl Should Know
Last year I did a post entitled “Five Things A Single Dude Needs To Know” that I felt like really challenged guys and gals…at least the e-mails proved that to be true. AND…one of the questions I received for several week after was, “What about the girls, when are you going to challenge them?” Well–after about eleven months here goes…
#1 - Girls Chase Boys, Women Wait To Be Pursued.
Ladies, please believe me when I say that if you are pursuable then a godly man will take notice at just the right time…wait. If you have to pursue a guy and initiate all of the conversations and planning then the dude is not ready to lead…which would automatically disqualify him biblically from being your husband.
Ladies–admit it–the desire of your heart is to know that someone thinks you are lovely enough to pursue…and when a guy makes an effort to win your heart–there’s just something about that that makes you feel special.
God created you–designed you…and it wasn’t so you can throw yourself at a guy, hoping that he notices. Fall in love with Jesus and a godly guy will notice, I promise.
(If you are whining right now saying, “But I am in love with Jesus and no one is noticing” then you need to stop and listen to yourself…trust me, a dude doesn’t want to pursue a woman who whines!)
#2 - Set High Expectations
This sort of goes along with the first thing…but ladies–let me say this clearly–Ephesians 3:20 says that God is able to do immeasurably more than all we can ask or imagine, which means that you should not look at a guy and say, “I can fix him up and he might work.” As I often say, you are NOT the Holy Spirit–”fixing people” is the job of Jesus…not you!
When you get married you need to be willing to say, “I will love this person AS IS for the rest of my life, if NOTHING changes I will love them!” BECAUSE, when you get married, change is NOT a guarantee…so don’t listen to promises of change if evidence is not shown beforehand.
I am SICK and TIRED of godly Christian young ladies settling because of insecurities in their lives OR because their friends are getting married and they think that they are going to be 28 and single–which would be the end of the world!!! I have seen girls get here and panic–and then date and marry some dude, only to be in divorce court in less than five years–which brings about another set of issues altogether!
Ladies–remember–Ephesians 3:20! Is he more than you could ever ask for or imagine?
#3 - Don’t Over Analyze!
Girls are HORRIBLE as this…a guy will ask them out and they will think the following…
- “He just asked me out–what does he mean by going “out?”
- “If I go out this once then does that mean we are dating?”
- “What if I don’t like going out with him–and he asks me out again?”
- “Is he thinking marriage? Oh my–if we had kids they just wouldn’t be cute!”
- “He hasn’t called me in a day, he hates me, did I have broccoli in my teeth?”
I could literally go on and on…but ladies, if a guy ask you out and you want to go–then go, and don’t spend the 72 hours before and after trying to analyze things that probably will never happen. Seriously, God probably hasn’t even invented some of the problems that ladies get stressed out about–CHILL!
#4 - Be Honest!
If I have one pet peeve with girls…it’s this–they will go out with a guy, say they had a great time…he will ask can they go out again and she says, “Call me.”
So he calls…and calls…and calls! The girl never answers when she sees its him on caller ID, she thinks if she ignores him then he may just go away. BUT, because he’s a guy and probably a little clueless–he keeps calling.
Finally they accidentally run into each other somewhere…I say “accidentally” because she had NO INTENTIONS of ever speaking to him again. He says, “I’ve been trying to call you,” and she replies, “Really…yeah, uh, I’ve been…uh…you know…busy.”
He says, “That’s cool–I understand…so, what are you doing tomorrow night?”
“Tomorrow night? Uh…well…uh…I have plans.” (This is always the safest answer, right?)
“Plans–well what about the night after that…”
This conversation goes on and on with the girl making some obscure reference to having to check her schedule and for him to call her–and the game goes on.
Ladies–please–be honest. If you like the guy and want to go back out–and he asks you–then say yes. Don’t play games…say yes and go. BUT…if you have no intentions of ever going back out with him again…then please, tell him because he is probably driving his friends crazy!!!
Those are just a few hints…we are doing an entire series for singles next year–should be FUN!
Five Things A Single Dude NEEDS To Know…
OK guys…here we go…I’ve been wanting to do this one for a long time. Please keep in mind that I made TONS of mistakes as a single dude…so these lessons are NOT all as a result of my success stories. BUT…I did manage to do some things right…and I have a red hot wife to prove it. (Thank You Jesus!!!)
#1 - If You Are Interested In A Girl…YOU Need To Talk To HER.
The Bible says in Proverbs 18:22 that he who FINDS a wife finds what is good (AMEN!) Men…it is up to you to FIND a wife…that means YOU are to be the one to initiate things…if you want to be the leader IN the relationship then you should take steps to be the leader at the beginning of the relationship!
This means, if you are interested in a girl…you talk to her!!! You don’t call HER friends and ask them to drop hints for you…unless you are a pathetic wimp. You don’t get YOUR friends to drop hints to her friends. BE A MAN! If you want to ask her out…ASK HER OUT! Trust me…her friends don’t want to talk to you about it anymore…and if you keep bothering them they are going to tell HER to stay away from you!
I did this right…when I finally decided that I was interested in Lucretia I told a couple of buddies so they could pray for me…and then I had a conversation with her and was completely honest and transparent about the way that I felt. She said she would “pray about it” and that she was “not saying no,” which was NOT very encouraging. BUT…I found out later that she always told her friends that if a guy was interested in her then she expected him to talk to her…NOT anyone else.
#2 - When You Talk With Her–BE HONEST & DON’T PLAY GAMES!!!
One of a man’s top fears is rejection. SO…in order to stay away from this pain and hurt he will not come out and say he is interested in a girl…he won’t say, “I would like to take you out for dinner.” Nope–he plays games…drops hints…all the while hoping that the young lady will pick up on his pathetic attempts to “woo her” and then begin to pursue him.
Dude–stop it, right now!!! If you are interested in a young lady–tell her. Just come out and say it. If you are not sure…but you think you would like to get to know her better…then tell her, “Hey, I would like to get to know you a little better…can we have some supper?”
DO NOT SAY, “Hey…uh…well…maybe, you know, if you like food…uh, do you like food,” hoping that she will say, “Yes, take me to get some.”
Ladies want a man that can be honest…and if you can’t be honest with her from the beginning then how in the world will you ever convince her to trust you in the future?
One more thing…another reason that dude play games is so that they can fuel their pathetically weak male ego…they string girls along…they are not interested–but do want someone to make out with on the weekends. To be honest–I want to punch guys like this in the nose. (And if you are ANY sort of man…and you have a daughter…and a dude does that to her…you want to punch him as well–no matter “how godly” you are!!!) :-)
#3 - On The Date–Be Creative
Ladies–please…if a guy ever takes you to supper and then a movie ON THE FIRST DATE…DROP HIM like a bad habit. Trust me…this relationship has started off on the wrong foot…and here is why…
When you go to a movie on the first date you learn NOTHING about one another…there is NO interaction, no conversation…and so when you get home one person will lie to the other one and say they had a nice time…when they really didn’t because time and money were spent on getting to know all about the lives of the fictional character on the screen.
Guys–think enough about her to PLAN the date…and when you PLAN…PLAN it well! (This is where you CAN get advice from her friends.) When you pick her up–don’t ask her where she would like to go eat…HAVE IT PLANNED. (There should be a conversation somewhere about particular restaurants that are liked and are not liked.)
I know one dude that took a young lady to eat and then they went to Wal Mart where he said, “Let’s get a buggy–go through and pick out five things that we identify with…and then meet back here and write them down…and then go somewhere and talk about them.” DING DING DING–we have a WINNER!!!
(Note: Movies are NOT a bad date idea…they are just a bad first or second date idea!!!)
#4 - On The Date–Be A Gentleman
Dude–you have GOT to treat her like a lady. Walk her to her car door and open it for her. I have had guys argue with me & say, “My dad doesn’t open the door for my mom.” I always reply, “Well…maybe your dad is an insensitive jerk!” Just a thought.
(Ladies…if he does not open the door…just stand outside of his car–he will get the hint. If he doesn’t find you valuable enough to open the door for you…trust me, it’s going to go downhill.)
Guys–a lady wants to feel special…like someone really wants to take care of her…and trust me, the little things matter…so open her car door.
Oh yeah, one more thing…when you come to her house to pick her up…cut your car off, walk up to the door, and ask for her like a man. If you pull up in her driveway and call her from your cell phone–you are a loser. If you pull up in her driveway and honk your car horn…you are REALLY a loser.
(A dude came to pick up my sister once a blew the horn…she got up to leave & my dad told her to sit down. The guy outside then began to hold down on the horn…my dad, who had drank a beer or twelve, got up, walked outside, opened his car door and hit him in the nose, knocking him across the car. He said he was going to go home and tell his father…to which my father proceeded to invite him to do so, telling him that he would be glad to give his father the same treatment. The dude left & came back an hour later cleaned up and apologized for the way he had treated my sister.) I LOVE TELLING THAT STORY!!! :-)
#5 - If She Says “NO,” That Means NO!
Guys–if you ask a girl out on a date & she tell you no–back off…stay away…you can be her friend but do NOT begin to try to put pressure on her…this freaks her out.
I have had so many single dudes tell me, “But Perry, you talk about how you pursued Lucretia for nearly two years before she even went out with you.”
YEP–that is true…but I was her friend and not a freaky stalker. During my two year friendship with Lucretia we maybe had five conversations about the possibility of us dating one day…and she NEVER told me NO or to never bring the conversation up again. We were friends…we hung out…with NO strings attached. She never told me to back off.
If a young lady tells you no and you continue to pursue–dude–you are NOT being romantic…you are being stupid. Let it GO!!!
That’s about it for now–just curious–what are some things a single lady needs to know? (I will post about this–but remember–this Sunday is the message for the women at NewSpring…the men came out in full force…ladies…don’t miss this!!!)
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