Tales of my life

Someone out there is willing to do whatever it takes to bring me joy and happiness beyond my wildest dream.. in ways I could never imagine!!

Now, that thought just totally blew my mind away!

So I just read this. These few lines screamed for my attention.

“Hey Ray, that’s what I want for you! I want to take you places you’ve never been. I want you to experience things you’ve never experienced. I want to make you aware of things that you have no idea that even existed. Follow me!”

Was emailing this guy and sharing with him whats happening in my life. Here's some interesting stuff that he mentioned.

• Run towards something, not away from something.
• Girls.. they all get old! Find someone that will love you and be faithful. Don't find one at all until you're ready to be faithful to her!!

Just some gold nuggets of wisdom to share :)

Due to the number of response I get in my last post, I felt it's only right to write on what I've learn in my journey so far.

• Get to know the girl first and ask the BIG question when you know its not just infatuation and you are prepared to take the relationship up another level
• It comes down to a point where you just have to take the risk. Just a note for the girls out there, when a guy decides to pop the question, it takes tremendous courage. He is putting himself on the line..pride and dignity, something we value alot! (But obviously you are worth alot more than that, so we'll gladly take the risk ;) ) So even if the guy is rejected, kudos to him for taking that brave step.
  
• The guy has to always be one step ahead of the girl in the relationship. Take the lead and make her feel special :)
• Respect her as though you would respect a sister. Also, don't mess with her, she could be someone else wife in the future!
• Have a group of man that would pray for you as pursue that special one. (I'm glad there are plenty of guys I can talk to and be vulnerable with in this matter. Thanks for the support buddies!!)
• If she is uncomfortable with the whole thing and just wants to remain friends, respect that! Again.. RESPECT the girl!!
• Make sure the lady shares the same values. Very important that both have their priorities right.
  
• Pray, pray and pray more! Right now, I'm praying that that lady would grow closer to God and somehow thinks that I'm ridiculously good looking ;)
  

This post serves as a reminder to myself, to keep me in line with my belief and moral. You have total right to disagree. Post a comment and I would love to hear from you :) Thanks to those who responded to my last post. There are lots more points to consider in regarding to relationship, but these are just the few that I need to remind myself at this stage. So please don't take this as a blueprint on how to pursue a lady :)

Disclaimer: This post is just a current flow of thoughts. On another note, I feel the need to say that happiness doesn't come only from being in a boy-girl relationship.

So I was reading this post on How To Pursue A Young Lady. The question I have in mind is, when do you start pursuing? Is it when...

• When you think the girl is hot?
• When you know you want to be in a relationship with the girl?
• When you just want to get to know her a little better?
  
• When you feel that you enjoy spending time with her?
• When you think that marriage is a possibility? (I guess if you know for sure you do not want to marry the girl, why get into a relationship in the first place? AND I'm definitely not saying that you should only go into a relationship knowing you want to marry her!)

I guess it depends alot on the culture you are in as well. Then there is the question, how do you ask a girl out (just to get to know her better) without misleading her?

So girls out there, help me out here. At what stage do you want to know what the guy is feeling? When he is slightly interested, when he "loves" you or somewhere in the middle.